That was fast....

Well dam...
I just found out today my soon to be ex husband (can't do a divorce while pregnant) is already with someone else and she is flying out to California Thursday from Texas. He has been out of the house for about 4 weeks and even though I know our relationship is done, it hurts.
I found out through this girl as I randomly texted her if they were talking, I just had a feeling. I knew he cheated on me with her right before he moved out. He lied to her about me and my babies. I told her everything and they stopped talking, come to find out she still wants him. I guess.

It still hurts.

Here I am struggling and he is having the time of his life.
All I can think about is them together this weekend. I don't want to be with him since he is being such a total jerk towards me and my babies but can't help feeling broken.

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yea, he sucks.

i know it hurts now, but hes clearly a tool, and therefore, you can now find a man who is as sweet as you probably are.

This girl is planning to be with him after I told her everything, I wish I had someone to give me a heads up before I got married to him.

Total of 5 kids, 3 different baby mommas
He has a disabled child who he doesn't admit to at all, I found out 2 years after being with him. When he finally admitted what his check stub allotment was for.
He is abusive and on probation for hitting me.
Up to about 6,000 in cs back pay from other kids. And I haven't even filed for cs for my kiddos. YET

I feel so embarrassed even talking about his crap, I wish I had known what I was in for.

Quoting maymays:" This girl is planning to be with him after I told her everything, I wish I had someone to give me a heads ... [snip!] ... even filed for cs for my kiddos. YET I feel so embarrassed even talking about his crap, I wish I had known what I was in for."

Oh, hun.

In a few years, I promise you... you are going to look back on this and be happy that you got out of that, even if you do miss him for a long time.

<3 Sending you so many hugs and healing vibes.

Quoting The Doctor:" Oh, hun. In a few years, I promise you... you are going to look back on this and be happy that you ... [snip!] ... be happy that you got out of that, even if you do miss him for a long time. <3 Sending you so many hugs and healing vibes."

EXACTLY this. All of this.

Thanks I feel so much more at ease already except for those moments when I feel so lonely.

Sounds like we're basically going through the same thing, except I luckily wasn't married to mine!

I'm sorry to hear everything you're going through, the only thing that makes it easier is time. We split when I was 6 weeks pregnant, now I'm 31 and I'm so much happier now.

If you're ever lonely and just needing someone to talk to, I will gladly listen. *hugs* You don't deserve that and you're a strong momma!

Ya marriage is messy when its over, you saved yourself  

I can't wait to be happier but I know it will take a while. I want to be happier without feeling so bitter.
Cause let me tell you Im pretty bitter right now and I can't wish them the best yet, Im glad he is someone elses problem not mine though.