No trust? (long)

Okay so my bf has NEVER had trust for me because of the rumors he's heard about me from his friends before we started dating.. none of which were true.. And recently since he's working all night his trust issues are getting worse and worse, he has been the only person that has been fucking up in this relationship but I am the persecuted (sp) one. 4 days ago he activated a cell phone, 2 days later he gets a phone call from a guy asking for Lisa.. (this is my name) my bf passes me the phone while giving me a look, I say "Yeah whose this?" the guy on the other line says "Can I speak to Lisa Koriane" I say "You've got the wrong number" my bf starts arguing with me about me fucking around on him and what not.. (the same EXACT thing happened to him with his ex and the guy calling ended up actually calling for her) so he drops it because he says I would not be stupid enough to give a guy his cell. Yesterday my bf gives me a camera as a present and goes to work.. I spend all day playing with it and taking pictures and uploading and such he gets home from work at 2 and goes to my room and the tv is on ESPN.. Neither of us watch it.. I can'texplain how it got there or when it was changed because I hadn't watched tv all day.. he keeps saying I fucked a guy and that afterwards he chilled and watched tv.. WE LIVE WITH MY PARENTS!!... To top off he has not let go of that.. we have directv so the satelite goes out all the time.. my dad told me in front of him that all the tv's in the house were on ESPN this morning.. my bf claims he covering for me.. my bf has always been the type to cheat when he feels like he's being cheated and I honestly cannot give him an explanation he will accept.. I really don't know... what should I do?

it's been my experience that if they are accusing you it's because they have a guilty consience(sp?) my ex was that way with me I couldn;t even go up the street to the store for 5 minutes and back without being accuse of screwing someone in that short amount of time...well turns out it was him screwing around with my so called friend and god only knows who else

sounds like hes covering up his own cheating with blaming you atleat that always happened to be and low and behold they were fucking up on me but hes seems like a complete asshole

Quoting Eli's ♥ Mommy:“ Okay so my bf has NEVER had trust for me because of the rumors he's heard about me from his friends before ... [snip!] ... like he's being cheated and I honestly cannot give him an explanation he will accept.. I really don't know... what should I do?”

There's really nothing you can do, you can't MAKE someone trust you. Believe me I know, except I'm the one who's not trusting him. I don't know occasionally he'll get jealous and accuse me of something and I just have to throw it back at him like "Do you realize how stupid you sound? Why would I do that?" like with the whole phone call incident. And then other times, you have to almost baby them. Just tell him that you love him with all your heart and you want to be with him for the rest of your life blah blah blah and to please not punish you for other girls' mistakes. And remind him that IF you were going to cheat, he'd never catch you lol (not good, don't do that actually lol, I used that one in an argument and it worked but I don't know how your guy would take it).

**Edited to say: the other girls could be right to, maybe HE'S got something to hide, I'd do a little investigating if I were you..

Quoting *La Temper*:“ sounds like hes covering up his own cheating with blaming you atleat that always happened to be and low and behold they were fucking up on me but hes seems like a complete asshole”

He can definately be an asshole at times, but I honestly don't blame him for overreacting because I am the same way with him.. I look for too much meaning in simple things when it comes to him.. plus he's been in really bad relationships.. everyone of them has ended with the girl cheating and we have a child together so I can't blame him for wanting to make sure nothing is going wrong this time.

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ There's really nothing you can do, you can't MAKE someone trust you. Believe me I know, except I'm the ... [snip!] ... good, don't do that actually lol, I used that one in an argument and it worked but I don't know how your guy would take it).”

Trust me I did that and I keep telling him how much he means to me.. I went thru so much to be in this relationship with him that I'd think he'd know I wouldn't fuck it up.

Quoting Eli's ♥ Mommy:“ Trust me I did that and I keep telling him how much he means to me.. I went thru so much to be in this relationship with him that I'd think he'd know I wouldn't fuck it up.”

Well a little reminder never hurts lol, I don't know, like I said you can't make someone trust you..

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ Well a little reminder never hurts lol, I don't know, like I said you can't make someone trust you..”

Yeah I know.. lol.. he loves to be reminded how much I love him.

Quoting Eli's ♥ Mommy:“ Okay so my bf has NEVER had trust for me because of the rumors he's heard about me from his friends before ... [snip!] ... like he's being cheated and I honestly cannot give him an explanation he will accept.. I really don't know... what should I do?”

...he's not violent is he?

Quoting Lilly89:“ ...he's not violent is he?”

No... He would never.. he doesn't believe in hitting girls.. he grew up with all sisters and watched them go thru violent relationships

Quoting Eli's ♥ Mommy:“ Okay so my bf has NEVER had trust for me because of the rumors he's heard about me from his friends before ... [snip!] ... like he's being cheated and I honestly cannot give him an explanation he will accept.. I really don't know... what should I do?”

i know how you feel my boyfriend never trusted me he was so convinced that i was gonna cheat on him that one day i was sick like in bed puking with a headache sick..pregnancy related so i didnt want him over and i slept all day one day so he swore up and down i was fucking another guy cuz i wasnt texting him back cuz i was sleeping i got so mad about it i told him i was breaking up with him i took it back the next day but he had already found a rebound....we still havent made up

Quoting jaydecher:“ i know how you feel my boyfriend never trusted me he was so convinced that i was gonna cheat on him ... [snip!] ... i told him i was breaking up with him i took it back the next day but he had already found a rebound....we still havent made up”

Wow that's crazy..

Quoting Eli's ♥ Mommy:“ Wow that's crazy..”

i know right! thats not even the half of it thats just the part that applies to this post...im glad finally ive found peoiple that thinks what hes doing is fucked up cuz all my friends are like well just let him go you should be prepared to do this alone.......stupid society for saying its ok for a guy to leave a pregnant girl...its not ok! the guy is pregnant too!!!!!

Quoting jaydecher:“ i know right! thats not even the half of it thats just the part that applies to this post...im glad ... [snip!] ... this alone.......stupid society for saying its ok for a guy to leave a pregnant girl...its not ok! the guy is pregnant too!!!!!”

I think that's the biggest form of low.. to leave a girl when she's pregnant with your child.. even worse to leave her for someone else. Don't worry child support will really stick it to him..

Quoting Eli's ♥ Mommy:“ I think that's the biggest form of low.. to leave a girl when she's pregnant with your child.. even worse to leave her for someone else. Don't worry child support will really stick it to him..”

child support isnt my issue he says he wants joint custody and wants to be in the babys life but the way hes been acting i dont want him in its life....first he got mad at me and said he hopes i have a miscarriage than he said if hes still with this girl when its born hes signing over his rights....theyve been dating for 4days and when its born they will have only been dating 6months...he makes me sick