dont know what to think

last night my husband was like asking me to go to bed before him and i kinda had an idea why. well i layed in bed for a while like 30 minnd was like he probally thinks i am a sleep i get up walk in to the living room go to the kitchen. all of a sudden i open the door my living room turns blue walk out of kitchen he is watching porn ( i dont have contacts or glasses on) which i am blind with out them. but his dick was hard. i was upset her i have not had sex in almost 3 months we tried but he is scared it hurts the baby. my legs hurt so freakin bad cause of not having sex. i told him i feel fat i have to suffer from not having sex even after i have the baby i cant have any caffine what so ever. DOCTORS ORDERS. i sent him a text message and told him to not even come to bed. and he was like why cause i am watching porn ( like nothing was wrong) so yea he decided to come in the room after a while of using back an fourth and tell me it isnt me . meaning i am not the reason he doesnt have sex with me. it is cause of our baby. i have gained over 50 lbs since being pregnant i think cause at first i didnt. know and well he thinks kissing me and huggime and going back out in the lviing room and tells me he is going to do a scan on the computer then be in here the room well it took him an hour which i think he went out in living to finish porn. but what should i seriously think cause i dont know and yea i have pretented like everything is okay for awhile and it really hasnt been i am never really emotionallet him get play boy magazines so why should this even bother me?  

Quoting jessicalovesjamespalmer:“ last night my husband was like asking me to go to bed before him and i kinda had an idea why. well i ... [snip!] ... and it really hasnt been i am never really emotionallet him get play boy magazines so why should this even bother me?  ”

Guys jerk off. It's just part of their mystique.I'd save my anger for a more worthwhile battle if I were you.

i've gained 50 lbs too and my man wont 'do me' either lol. i've already given up. but i've warned him that he wont be getting any for a lonnnggg time after i have the baby so he better get it while he can. he says it feels wierd to him for us to do it knowing his baby is in there. i just have to respect his feelings... but in the future i def. will never feel guilty abt holding out on HIM! lol

Quoting jessicalovesjamespalmer:“ last night my husband was like asking me to go to bed before him and i kinda had an idea why. well i ... [snip!] ... and it really hasnt been i am never really emotionallet him get play boy magazines so why should this even bother me?  ”

Okay, first of all, he needs to know that sex will not hurt the baby. So call him out on that immediately. Secondly, I know it sounds mean, but maybe the pregnancy has kind of "turned him off" so try to spice it up a little. Maybe watch the porn with him and "help" him enjoy himself. My fiance said that sex actually felt better while I was pregnant than before, maybe that would get him interested..good luck. Oh, and if that doesn't work, get a vibrator, they never say no lol

i don't have any advice but i wanted to say that i love reading playboy. the articles are honestly great and i learn a lot of stuff from them. i bought me husband a subscription a few years ago and when it ran out he got maxim instead b/c the articles weren't as intellectual. so he said when my cosmo subscription runs out he will get me play boy. haha. the jokes and stories are funny seriously you should try reading them.
as for porn i don't think i would have a problem with my husband watching it. we haven't been able to do anything since 12 weeks and we are now a bout 2 or so days away from 37 weeks, so if he wants any relief he would have to take things into his own hands, no pun intended. but asking you to go to bed so he can do it is rude i think.

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ Okay, first of all, he needs to know that sex will not hurt the baby. So call him out on that immediately. ... [snip!] ... before, maybe that would get him interested..good luck. Oh, and if that doesn't work, get a vibrator, they never say no lol”

everytime i am at the doctors office he says have alot of sex. so if the doc is saying he should know it wont harm the baby ( am i right?)

Quoting jessicalovesjamespalmer:“ everytime i am at the doctors office he says have alot of sex. so if the doc is saying he should know it wont harm the baby ( am i right?)”

You are right, sex won't hurt and is actually in most cases recommended. Maybe you should just rape him lol  

some guys arent conforable having sex during sex, but every guy jacks-off i walked in on clint a few nights ago and by the look on his face it looked like he just got caught by his mom or grandma hehehe ive been giving him crap about it since

Quoting Ryker Sterling's Mommy:“ some guys arent conforable having sex during sex, but every guy jacks-off i walked in on clint a few ... [snip!] ... by the look on his face it looked like he just got caught by his mom or grandma hehehe ive been giving him crap about it since”

lol yea right when the door open he hit the input tv on the tv remote cause we of course have a 46" lcd tv. that he got for his birthday plus a x box 360 plus a wii. and well i have learned to just take it in. but it still make me want to cry. i was never a big emotional person before i got pregnant. but now i will cry at the drop of a hat. he bought me a necklace for my high school graduation and one night while we was sleeping i broke the chain. i cried for 2 hours and it was like at 2 in the morning i woke him up and everything. ithought he was going to be mad. now i just cry cuase i feel the need to . so i dont know if it is that him jackin off or him changing the chanell and i will usally clean up the kitchen before i go to bed and while i was doi he was talking to some chick on YAHOO and kept hiding the message every time i saw the message it said buzzed. which i rather him not use yahoo cause i have caught a couple things on there. with him and some chicks so yea.  

Quoting jessicalovesjamespalmer:“ lol yea right when the door open he hit the input tv on the tv remote cause we of course have a 46" ... [snip!] ... buzzed. which i rather him not use yahoo cause i have caught a couple things on there. with him and some chicks so yea.  ”

im sorry its sucks really bad when your feeling like crap and your guy wont give you what you need but it will go back to normal... but not to be a downer but sex after kids isnt as fun... cuz they tend to start crying right when you get into it... over night trips are so great

well i dont think i will have to worry about it that much cause i had my baby may 10th she weight 5 lbs 0.7 oz. and was`18 in`and`a`quater long . so yea and it was a hard labor and easy delivery. i got an epidural and it didnt help at allcause they gave it to me when i was 10 cm deliated. so yea i did have to get stiches cause i tore. and it hurts like heck !!