Single teen just venting. advice?

alright.. usually i just hold my problems in and let them work themselves out.. but i can't take it anymore. i am currently 18 years old and expecting a little boy.. but im doing it all alone. the father doesn't believe he's really the father.. uh. and doesn't want to be there until he knows.. which is saying. "oh you have him.. he's mine and i'll be there" but why be there after he's born but not for everything else. He's already dating someone else and the only way i can contact him is through email. (old school i know) and he never asks about the baby.. how im feeling or anything. he has only been to the first 2 doctors appointments and makes up an excuses for the others. i just dont know what to do anymore about it. he wants the baby to have his middle and last name.. and if i tell him no he flips! oh and its alright for us to meet up for "other" things but thats it.. wham bam thank ya mam. i mean is that any way to treat the mother of your child?!

Stop having sex with him.

He's dating someone and you're still having sex with him? And absolutely do NOT give your son his last name. Middle name is fine if you'd like but he needs to have your last name.

"Usually I just hold my problems in, but somehow, for some random reason, I came across some random message boards and decided to air my smurf in my first post ever on Baby-Gaga." .....   Just so funny how people find this site... LOL

And yeah, stop smurfing him.

Um dude, don't have sex w/ him. That's pretty much degrading yourself. & don't give your baby his middle or last name. You can always change the last name later if he stays in the picture.

Quoting t.rochellle11:" alright.. usually i just hold my problems in and let them work themselves out.. but i can't take it anymore. ... [snip!] ... to meet up for "other" things but thats it.. wham bam thank ya mam. i mean is that any way to treat the mother of your child?! "

You should stop hooking up with him

Accept that he has moved on and do so yourself

Stand your ground and don't let him use you as a booty call. If he doesn't want to man up that sucks, but you need to maintain your self respect and let him make his own mistakes and not allow him to continue to be one of yours.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Colt's mommy:</b>" He's dating someone and you're still having sex with him? And absolutely do NOT give your son his last name. Middle name is fine if you'd like but he needs to have your last name."</blockquote>


This!

Quit giving him booty, don't name the baby what he wants, and ignore it. File for CS when the baby is born and go from there.

E-mail isn't old school. Writing letters is old school.  

Well if your willing to spread your legs with him and you aren't together and he has a new girlfriend. I'd say that's why he doesn't repsect you. I wonder if you even respect yourself?

<blockquote><b>Quoting *MommyLove*:</b>" Well if your willing to spread your legs with him and you aren't together and he has a new girlfriend. I'd say that's why he doesn't repsect you. I wonder if you even respect yourself?"</blockquote>




This

Alright bitches, put back in your claws. She has the right to vent like anyone else. It's ridiculous that nobody can even post on here anymore these days without the smurfs coming out. Give advice or shut the smurf up. Don't come in here post being rude. OP, I wouldn't give the baby his last name.

i know i shouldn't be having sex with him... but i don't want to have sex with anyone else.. i know its weird but its like i think thats someone else in there with "our" baby. haha. i know its not like that but just the thought it seems wrong. and he wants to be at the hospital when he's born and cut the cord and all that.. but then again "he's not his baby" so i mean wtf? ha

You need to respect yourself more and stand up to him and not have sex with him. Especially since he is dating someone else... It will be hard but you don't need a man in your life. Once the baby is born, get the DNA and show him that he is the father. And I didn't give my LOs SO's last name and we are still together, but not married, so I definitely wouldn't be giving him LO's last name if he doesn't even "know" if he is the babies father. I might do the middle name though, DS has SO's name in his middle.

If you allow him to treat you like a booty call why wouldn't he? You need more respect for yourself apparently.

Stop smurfing him, not to mention he has a gf? Smart move