re: Single teen just venting. advice?

One stop screwing the guy. Two if he has a gf and is willing to cheat on her with you, what makes you think he wont do it to you should you work it out. My son has my last name, and will always have my last name. His father takes him 10 days a month and pays child support, and I still will not change it. It is your call though. Their are plenty of women who are single moms. Yes things are hard, but they do it because they have to. If the guy is going to be a dick, stay away from him. He is no good for you or your baby.

I know you probably still love him and when you sleep with you, you hope that in some way it will bring you back together but it won't. You need to give yourself some space from him and just focus on how you are going to do this by yourself. I would NOT give LO his last name and probably not even his middle name. So what if he throws a fit, it's your child and as you said he wants nothing to do with LO until he knows that is his child, so until then you can wait to give LO his last name. Do yourself a big favor though. Stop having sex with him. You are only degrading yourself and making yourself feel like smurf.

Quoting t.rochellle11:" i know i shouldn't be having sex with him... but i don't want to have sex with anyone else.. i know its ... [snip!] ... wants to be at the hospital when he's born and cut the cord and all that.. but then again "he's not his baby" so i mean wtf? ha"

Why do you have to have sex with anyone? Just because you don't sleep with him doesn't mean you have to hook up with random guys or something. Just forget about guys and focus on you and baby.

Quoting The Situation:" Alright bitches, put back in your claws. She has the right to vent like anyone else. It's ridiculous ... [snip!] ... coming out. Give advice or shut the smurf up. Don't come in here post being rude. OP, I wouldn't give the baby his last name."

  This!

From my experience with a man like this..... 9 times out of 10 he won't be there even when the baby is proven to be his. With that being said, DO NOT give the baby nothing of his! And as other's have said STOP meeting with him for a booty call cause it really is disrespectful to you! Respect yourself and hold your head high because even though you are young, you can handle this because God puts no more on us than we can handle! Good luck and if you ever need anyone to talk to about this you can message me.

Quoting The Situation:" Alright bitches, put back in your claws. She has the right to vent like anyone else. It's ridiculous ... [snip!] ... coming out. Give advice or shut the smurf up. Don't come in here post being rude. OP, I wouldn't give the baby his last name."

Some people gave advice.  

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Exactly. It is amazing advice IMO to tell her to stop having sex w/ him. He does not respect her, he has a girlfriend, & he is denying his own child  

He doesn't owe you anything until the baby's born. Stop being stupid and hooking up with him.
Leave the dude alone til the kid's born.