Quoting CL & DJs Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Zoe&Harper's Mom (Em):</b>" well I think you answered what you ... [snip!] ... a waterbirth but that is not the dealbreaker. My fears are more someone just fiddling around in my vagina without asking me."
You could always set an appt for a consult and confront him face to face before hand. I think if you lay it all out on the table he would be less likely to do those things. My OBGYN did do membrane sweeps but we talked about it beforehand so she didn't do it without my permission.