Would you let your child call another man daddy?

Okay so make a long story short Brandon & I split up months back. We both agreed to say we have been split up for over a year to get the divorce over with asap, which it'll be finalized very soon. He's with someone now, as well as myself. Brandon really doesn't have anything to do with the girls. His new chick is his new priority. He has seen them maybe 3 times for a few hours in the last 4 months or so. He doesn't call them at night to just say "I love you or goodnight." Sometimes he goes a week+ without even speaking to them. He doesn't finacially support them anymore. Other than myself, my new SO has been the finacial provider and been there for them for the last few months.

Well my girls are still pretty young. 4 & 2. Krysten, the 4 year old totally understand Danny isn't her dad. Peyton, the 2 year old on the other hand is totally confused now and thinks Danny is her daddy. She has even been calling him that for the past week. Danny doesn't mind at all. But we both know that it could potentially lead to problems and hurt Brandon if/when he decides to man up and take responsibility for the girls and act like he gives a damn.

I'm totally lost on what I should do. I mean trully, Brandon isn't here for the girls hardly at all. But I still feel wrong because I know Danny isn't really her daddy. I could totally understand it if Brandon was completely out of the picture, but he is around sometimes.

Advice?

I was in that situation. I was with my DH since my DS was 2 months old. He calls him daddy. Has nothing to do with his dad and VERY little with their family.

Yes. Being the biological father doesn't make a man a daddy. Your SO stepped up to the plate while their sperm donor refused. He deserves to be called daddy if your children feel comfortable doing it.

I wouldnt let them call him daddy. I would correct her. I know he isnt around but I wouldnt let my kid call my SO daddy.

Nope never

Novali started calling SO daddy. She met him when she was 3 and started calling him daddy at age 4.

only if the biological father was 100% not involved and would never be involved. If I though there was any chance that he would have something to do with my kid then I would not let them call anyone else daddy.

My daughter calls my fiance daddy and she calls her real dad by his name. But that's his own fault. Before my SO came into my life my ex was non-existent in my daughters life. He only popped up because of his mom! Sooo like I said, his own fault. And my SO loves my daughter just like she is his own!

My son calls my SO daddy. His real dad termed his rights. I corrected him for a very long time to call SO by his name, but once his dad was out of the picture E started calling SO daddy on his own. Which is fine, SO has been more of a father than his real dad and SO is adopting him after we get married.

My ex told our son to call his now wife, but then girlfriend mommy. That's another story. IF your kid decides on their own to do it, ehh not that big of a problem. If they're forced to, it's another story.

My DD is 2.5 and called my SO by his name. I wouldn't let her call him dad.

Quoting MakenaAndMaiyasMommy:" My daughter calls my fiance daddy and she calls her real dad by his name. But that's his own fault. Before ... [snip!] ... He only popped up because of his mom! Sooo like I said, his own fault. And my SO loves my daughter just like she is his own!"

Couldn't have said it better.

I would flip smurf if my son called another woman "mommy." However, this is coming from his primary caregiver. so... idk.

Nope, never.

Ever.

I let my daughter call DH daddy. He earned that, he took it upon himself to be her father figure. Her sperm donor didn't want anything to do with her and she doesn't even know who he is since it's been so long. DH does everything and more for my daughter and treats her like she's his.

i wouldnt because what if something happens in a few months and you guys break up? then they will be really hurt. i wouldnt allow them to call another man daddy unless i were married to him and even then i would make sure they understood that he's not their bio dad.