Pregnant, confused, && single [TEEN]!!

-First of all im not here for a guilt trip or to be criticized...im here for advive from thepeople who know what im going through!!

K, umm im 5 months pregnant, at the beginning my boyfriend was sceptical about having the baby but after about 2 days he was ok & even happier than i was. then 2 months after we found out he just broke up w/ me. i thought it was nothing & he was just mad, he'll be calling me in a couple of days & then a week went by he didnt call at all so i decided to call him on that friday...& i was like whats going on? he was just like we're not working. but he couldnt give me a specific reason as to why everything was ending completely. i called him a couple of time trying to talk & fix whatever this was & he was like theres no fixing it..i was like well your over it im not what do u expect me to do, he was like babe i really dont care im not trying to be mean im just telling the truth! so after that i was like i cant allow him to hurt me anymore so i just stopped calling & stuff. when i found out we were having a boy he called & we talked for hours about everything, i thought he was turning back into the guy i fell in love w/...but come to find out he's back w/ his 2yo daughters mother [but wait theres a catch the child isnt really his, the girl cheated on him & he found out through some friends, so he got a blood test & it was negative..he was there the whole time so he just consider her as his.] anyway me & his sister still talk so, i guess the girl thought that i was still talking to him also & she called the sister asking if me & him stilled talked...she was like she really doesnt know! so i guess the girl took that as a yes & her and my ex got into an argument. out of no where once again he called me & he sounded upset when i answered the phone & he was like, didnt i tell you from the start to have an abortion, man i told you i didnt want it...right then i was speechless! & so he goes on to say, i know u talk to my sister but do me & u talk.. i was like no, where is this coming from? he was like my babymama think that me & you are still talking & messing around...at that point i was upset so i was like i really dont care what she thinks & i hung up the phone! he called right back, i didnt answer the phone, then he called me around 2 in the morning...i had cooled down by then so i decided to talk to him & he was like im sorry for the way i was acting earlier, you know i love our son & i do want him...its just that she(the babymama) told me i had to choose!!!!! i was like what the medical question, how does she expect you to choose between your first child & your first biological child? he said i dont know thats why i think im going to leave her b/c she's being unreasonable & i'll be over there later on today so we can talk. now i was excited at that moment b/c i thought i was getting my baby back, buuuuuuuuut he didnt show or call. the next day i called him & he sent me to voicemail! i havent heard from him since. && i called him on his birthday [Tuesday] he sent me to voicemail, so i wrote him in a txt just wishing him a happy bday & he didnt reply saying thank you or anything. im not over him, i cry almost everytime i think of him not being here[& i really dont think it the hormones], i love this guy to death & i really dont want anyone else..[he thinks its just b/c he fathered my son but thats not the case i love him b/c he's the most amazing person i've ever been w/ & he actuallyACTED like he loved me too]! SHOULD I JUST LET IT GO, MOVE ON, & JUST RAISE MY SON ALONE WHEN HE ARRIVES OR JUSTWAIT ON HIM?

I'm not even gonna attempt to strain my eyes to read that.
Sorry.

I'm sorry, That really sounds awful. As if it isnt hard enough to be pregnant, and young, he has to be a douche bag.

If you really want to keep your son, then do it, you don't need him either way. If he can take care of a kid that isnt his, he DAMN well will take care of one that IS,through child support, whether he likes it or not.

I hope this all works out for you.
don't wait around on his stupid ass, you will find a man someday that Loves you and your son (coincidently like he is doing with this other chick)

i couldn't finish it...

paragraphs please.

i would love to help but paragraphs please.

i had somewhat the same problem and everyone told me that after i have the baby i wont care 2 shits about him cause the baby will be so important to me.

I would move on with my life. He sounds like a real jerk who obviously wants to be with the other girl and not you. You don't need the bs that he is sending your way. It is going to be hard, but you have to keep your son in mind.

I say raise the baby alone. He sounds like he has issues he needs to work out. Its too much stress on you for him to run back and forth and play with your emotions. Dont shut him out of the babys life but he needs to know that you are in control and he is not. Right now he is going to just take advantage of your vulnerability and keep playing games.

damn thats long.

I think you should do exactly that....let it go...let him go...move on and raise your son by yourself You are the only person you can count on in that respect. Why would you want to be with someone who is that mean to you and said he wanted you to get an abortion? I know ur scared to do it alone but trust me it can be done I've been doing with my daughter for 7 yrs and now with this one You can do it

Quoting ♠ Rourt Rourt ;:“ I'm not even gonna attempt to strain my eyes to read that. Sorry.”

LOL !

Thats a question you're going to have to answer for yourself. You definitely don't want to be his second choice though (that's kinda what it sounded like when he said that he didn't like the way things were going with his baby's mother so he was going to come see you). And maybe this guy will come around and be supportive of you and the baby, he may have a change of heart and you guys may get back together and happily every after and blah blah. But if you guys don't, as much as it seems like it will be the end of the world, it won't be. You are going to be so in love with this little baby and I'm sure that he will atleast want to be a part of the baby's life (even if you guys aren't together). And I can only imagine how hard/scary/confusing it is to be a pregnant teen. And I'm sure the thought of doing it without having in as your boyfriend is really hard..because not only do you have feelings for him, but he's the baby's father-so it's like you kinda feel like you're "supposed" to be together. Just try to stay strong. Don't take any crap off that guy!

I think you should try 2 move on. I know its easier said than done, because im going through something like that right now. And its hard for me.

Quoting Jayden'smommy:“ -First of all im not here for a guilt trip or to be criticized...im here for advive from thepeople who ... [snip!] ... like he loved me too]! SHOULD I JUST LET IT GO, MOVE ON, & JUST RAISE MY SON ALONE WHEN HE ARRIVES OR JUSTWAIT ON HIM?”

Man this is complecating. Sorry about all you are going through. I mean if i was you i would raise my baby alone and give him the best life i can give him. But then again i know i would also wait around for the daddy. But listen to your heart it will lead you down the right way girl. Keep your head up and i mean if he really is actually thinking about choosing between his real baby and his non biological baby. he is crazy! But keep your head up girl and if you need anyone to talk to give me a pm okay.