re: Pregnant, confused, && single [TEEN]!!

im going through almost the same thing...i read your whole story so i hope you read all of mine.
me and my boyfriend dated for 7months and i found out i was pregnant then we started getting in a lot of fights cuz i was hormonal and i said i was confused and didnt know what i wanted. and then i got really sick like kinda like morning sickness for 2days and everyday he was texting me saying i was cheating on him and it was really annoying to me cuz i just didnt want him there cuz all i was doing was laying in bed with a headache trying not to puke after the couple days i was like screw this so i broke up with him and then a couple days later he shows up at my house saying he has a new girl AFTER BEING BROKEN UP FOR ONLY 2 DAYS!!!!! and i knew i wasnt ready to let him go so i said sorry and that we should give it another shot and we kissed and made up and then he left my house and texted me and was like no this wont work i dont want to be with you i asked this girl out leave me alone. and i started freaking out totally heartbroken and begging him to come talk to me but he was dating this girl but he came over anyway and we talked and im like give me another chance and he said ok and we had sex and started talking about our future and living together and raising our child then he went home and had his gf call me and tell me that he wanted nothing to do with me and that he was changing his number so i tried calling him and he just cleared all my calls and i was heartbroken again and then the next day i got him to come over again and we made up and had sex and he said that after prom he was gonna leave this girl and then swore on our child's life that he would marry me. then he left and went to the movies with the girl and texted me and said im falling for her i dont want to be withh you im not gonna marry you leave me alone its over so over and over he keeps breaking my heart and now even though we were together for7months and im having his kid hes changing his number and wont talk to me or come see me at all just cuz his new gf of 4 DAYS!!!!!!!!! said so

Quoting jaydecher:“ im going through almost the same thing...i read your whole story so i hope you read all of mine. me ... [snip!] ... having his kid hes changing his number and wont talk to me or come see me at all just cuz his new gf of 4 DAYS!!!!!!!!! said so”

I think you and the OP should get over these guys..how long has this been going on for and how long are you going to let this go on for?!?! How many tears are you going to shed over these guys?

It is hard to completely break it off with someone you love, but when your being treated this way, it's worth doing it. Until they can be mature enough to be in a relationship solely with you and take on the responsibility of your baby with you.. thenan intimate relationshipisn't going to work.
Don't go to them, don't beg them to come to you. If they want to be a part of your babies life then great!! If not, it's only their fault.

Quoting Chikadee:“ I think you and the OP should get over these guys..how long has this been going on for and how long ... [snip!] ... them, don't beg them to come to you. If they want to be a part of your babies life then great!! If not, it's only their fault.”

I agree ladies, THEY are the ones who are going to be missing out on the greatest experience of life. I know someone who got pregnant at 17, kind of forced the relationship along, got married at 18, and was divorced by 20. Her son doesnt know what to do, because Daddy is always in and out of the picture. No one needs that, especially you two girls (OP and jaydecher) who SEEM to have a decent future, and a good head on your shoulders.

my advice: Leave them alone, they're missing out. Stay in school. Love your children.  

Quoting jaydecher:“ im going through almost the same thing...i read your whole story so i hope you read all of mine. me ... [snip!] ... having his kid hes changing his number and wont talk to me or come see me at all just cuz his new gf of 4 DAYS!!!!!!!!! said so”

uhm... i dont want this to sound rude.. but maybe you should stop having sex with him. you can care about someone... but it seems like he only comes over to have sex and then he tells you in his own way fuck you i dont want you i want her..

Man you two ladies are having a rough time i see. But honestly why have someone disrespect you like that! I say screw them! You girls have to see that they aeebttge only ones out there and there are some real nice guys out there who would actually be with you and raise your child with you. Yeah it won't be the same cause he isn't the real dad, but how do you know that the real dad will even be there. Think about your future with your baby. Forget the guy and move on cause it seems like they want nothing to do with either of you. Have respect for yourself and your baby and move on! Things will be hard of course but everything gets worse before it gets better. Keep your head up and don't let them treat you like you are a piece of trash! Cause they think they can pike you up and throw you away when they don't you anymore. SORRY if i sounded mean or rude or whatever, I didn't mean to.

its really not that easy...after being wit someone everyday for 7months and then all of a sudden theyre gone and a part of them are inside you...its not like it happened a long time ago this happened like...3days ago

Quoting jaydecher:“ its really not that easy...after being wit someone everyday for 7months and then all of a sudden theyre ... [snip!] ... sudden theyre gone and a part of them are inside you...its not like it happened a long time ago this happened like...3days ago”

yeah i understand that. trust me i really do. im going through something similar but if you KEEP having your heart broken so many times in only a matter of 3 days then its NOT worth it! just because your having his child doesnt mean you have to be with him! he has told you repeatedly he DOESNT want to be with you.. its like you just keep slapping yourself in the face... its not good. especially the stress thats coming with all of that!! im not saying its gonna be easy because letting someone go is NEVER a cake walk! but your situation should be the other way around. he screwed up so HE should be the one begging for you back. he doesnt seem to care.

Quoting find out sex 5-21-08:“ yeah i understand that. trust me i really do. im going through something similar but if you KEEP having ... [snip!] ... situation should be the other way around. he screwed up so HE should be the one begging for you back. he doesnt seem to care.”

thats what makes it so hard is cuz when he comes over re refalls in love with me and says all he wants is to be with me he doesnt say mean things until hes around her and theyve only been dating for a week and she said he cant go anywhere near me and she knows im having his kid shes just a controlling b****

Quoting jaydecher:“ thats what makes it so hard is cuz when he comes over re refalls in love with me and says all he wants ... [snip!] ... been dating for a week and she said he cant go anywhere near me and she knows im having his kid shes just a controlling b****”

well hes just dumb if hes willing to choose her over his child. idk what to say

Quoting Jayden'smommy:“ -First of all im not here for a guilt trip or to be criticized...im here for advive from thepeople who ... [snip!] ... like he loved me too]! SHOULD I JUST LET IT GO, MOVE ON, & JUST RAISE MY SON ALONE WHEN HE ARRIVES OR JUSTWAIT ON HIM?”

HOney you have to worry about YOU AND YOUR SON anf if he doesnt want to be part of your sons life than F*** him he isnt worth your tears!!! if you need to talk im here k!!??!!

Quoting jaydecher:“ thats what makes it so hard is cuz when he comes over re refalls in love with me and says all he wants ... [snip!] ... been dating for a week and she said he cant go anywhere near me and she knows im having his kid shes just a controlling b****”

I feel so bad for what you are going through. But you are under stress with all of this and what you really need to do is focus on you and your baby. Stress isn't good for your baby. Take care of yourself. Take each day slow and sooner or later you will realize that hit isn't worth your tears

Quoting I am having a little GIRL:“ I feel so bad for what you are going through. But you are under stress with all of this and what you ... [snip!] ... for your baby. Take care of yourself. Take each day slow and sooner or later you will realize that hit isn't worth your tears”

i know about the stress thing but its hard cuz i have depression chronically so its a chemical thing and now that im pregnant i have panic attacks a lot more and now on top of it i have to deal with abandonment issues but i changed my number so i wouldnt be tempted to text him so i could stay less stressed but its so hard cuz everyday for 7months i was with him...literally everyday so just driving around town with my mom makes me cry cuz i see all the places me and him went together

Quoting jaydecher:“ i know about the stress thing but its hard cuz i have depression chronically so its a chemical thing ... [snip!] ... him...literally everyday so just driving around town with my mom makes me cry cuz i see all the places me and him went together”

I know how del i went through that before. When i was with my ex I got pregnant and i was with him for 7 months too and well he left me for his ex. I felt horriblei was so depressed and i was stressed too. The results of me bring like that is that i lost my baby. I feel guilty cause i know it was my fault cause i wouldn't stop bring depressed or stressed. And well since you have a chemical inbalance you should be very careful. Now i a married to the best guy ever and i have a beautiful baby girl. But she is a preemie, i would fight so much with my husband and i would stress. So sweetie please just try to let things go, yes of course its hard but it will get better. How old are you? Just try to enjoy your pregnancy. Its hard todo that too but there will be days where you will enjoy bring pregnant. If you ever want anyone to talk to im always here.

Quoting I am having a little GIRL:“ I know how del i went through that before. When i was with my ex I got pregnant and i was with him for ... [snip!] ... are you? Just try to enjoy your pregnancy. Its hard todo that too but there will be days where you will enjoy bring pregnant.”

im doing really good today. just venting to people that have been through the same stuff is really keeping me form wanting to talk to him im 18 i know im young but im really mature for my age i think im gonna be ok as long as i keep myself busy i dont want to lose my baby!!!!! its the only thing i have to live for now id do anything for it i think its just extra hard to deal with a breakup when youre pregnant cuz youre hormonal plus you cant do the normal move on things such as..rebound or get drunk so you kinda just have to deal

Quoting jaydecher:“ im doing really good today. just venting to people that have been through the same stuff is really ... [snip!] ... cuz youre hormonal plus you cant do the normal move on things such as..rebound or get drunk so you kinda just have to deal”

Yeah as long as you do keep yourself bust its all good. don't worry im young too, im 18 i will be 19 in Oct. I found out i was pregnant a week after my birthday. Keep your head up, you will do so good and you will be such a good parent to your baby. That is all you really need, just be strong for that baby! You seem like a real nice girl, don't let some guy walk all over you. you are so better than that!