so I was wondering I guess opinions

I am 20 and 9 weeks and 6 days pregnant... I have no family in this country and well basically just a college student. I was pro-life before everything... I would do it. I'd have been ok but my bf is in the middle of a messy marriage he's said he'd stay with me if I got an abortion... so i have scheduled one pretty much i have more goals then to be a mom... i still feel bad about it. i dont even want to know the procedure... i know it would be bad for me... but i just wonder how likely is it regret? i didnt want this pregnancy from the begining. advice?

your boyfriend is married...? or something else ?

if you don't want the pregnancy, then abort. I don't think you'd regret it. More people don't regret it as far as I've seen & read. but don't stay w/ that guy   doesn't sound like he really loves you

Are you 100% sure that this is the right choice for YOU?
Because if you're not, the chances of you regretting it are much higher.

First off...why are you with a married man?
Second...no man has the right to say its me or the baby.
Third...adoption?
Fourth...leave the bastard.
Fifth...don't have sex if you don't want a baby.

I regret both of the abortions I had...and I'm pro-choice. Just a hint, you might not like hearing...He's married....He'd tell you he'd give you a pot of gold if you had an abortion....the likely hood of him sticking around? Fairly low. I'm not saying keep it...I'm saying do what's right for you.

Quoting KD [Eli's Mommy]:" First off...why are you with a married man? Second...no man has the right to say its me or the baby. Third...adoption? Fourth...leave the bastard. Fifth...don't have sex if you don't want a baby."

get real

Quoting £ex Zeppelin:" get real"

Let's rephrase her last statement a bit...Don't screw married men...Never a good idea.

Quoting £ex Zeppelin:" get real"

Hell, at least do something to prevent it.
Besides it would be safer for her not to have sex with the guy. Who else is this guy having sex with? Obviously he isn't faithful to his wife.

Quoting KD [Eli's Mommy]:" Hell, at least do something to prevent it. Besides it would be safer for her not to have sex with the guy. Who else is this guy having sex with? Obviously he isn't faithful to his wife."

I got pregnant with my first born while on the patch. There's no 100% bulletproof birth control except...Don't have sex... 

Quoting KD [Eli's Mommy]:" Hell, at least do something to prevent it. Besides it would be safer for her not to have sex with the guy. Who else is this guy having sex with? Obviously he isn't faithful to his wife."

How do you know that they weren't protecting themselves? Birth control and condoms fail. Which is why abortion is an option.



And she's already had sex with him.

Quoting KD [Eli's Mommy]:" Hell, at least do something to prevent it. Besides it would be safer for her not to have sex with the guy. Who else is this guy having sex with? Obviously he isn't faithful to his wife

This is a protected forum. She's asking for advice, no need to be an ass. It's not about the married man, it's about whether she aborts, adopts, or keeps her child.

well I'd agree it's probably for the best and most of all. I think it's best for our relationship...

he's getting a divorce...


it's just I wonder like all I claimed and was against this now I'm doing it idk.. Plus I had a mc awhile ago. I was scared of delivering again like that

Quoting 20andneedtotlk1:" well I'd agree it's probably for the best and most of all. I think it's best for our relationship... ... [snip!] ... I claimed and was against this now I'm doing it idk.. Plus I had a mc awhile ago. I was scared of delivering again like that"

I mean, if you're doing it because YOU feel it would be best.. Then i'm sure you'll learn to cope with it. No one can really say if you'll regret it because it's SUCH a personal thing.
I'd just hate to see you doing it to save a relationship that may not last if it's not something that you want.

Quoting 20andneedtotlk1:" well I'd agree it's probably for the best and most of all. I think it's best for our relationship... ... [snip!] ... I claimed and was against this now I'm doing it idk.. Plus I had a mc awhile ago. I was scared of delivering again like that"

If you don't feel that you are ready for a child, then that's up to you. Worry about yourself and whether you can handle the choice.

Quoting 20andneedtotlk1:" well I'd agree it's probably for the best and most of all. I think it's best for our relationship... ... [snip!] ... I claimed and was against this now I'm doing it idk.. Plus I had a mc awhile ago. I was scared of delivering again like that"

Do what you think is the best option for you...Just for the love of whatever you believe in...Don't do it for him. Whatever you do...Do it for you.