Quoting ℓauren:" This is a protected forum. She's asking for advice, no need to be an ass. It's not about the married man, it's about whether she aborts, adopts, or keeps her child."
I did not mean to come off like an ass.
I am aware she is asking for advice. One of the main things to consider is that if the man is untrustworthy, then if she does decide to keep the baby or adopt it out, it would be for her and the baby's protection if she didn't have sex with him.
OP:: Even if he is getting a divorce, the decision about the baby is yours. I don't know how abortion works over there, but there are usually limits of how long you can wait. Some people do regret abortion and some don't. I had my own plans before I got pregnant the first time and I miscarried as well. Then I got pregnant with my son and I even considered aborting him.
It was my choice to keep him, no one else. If you let someone force the decision on you for the sake of a relationship, then it doesn't make a good beginning.
I'm not saying he's not a great guy...but you have to decide for yourself. If anything place the baby up for adoption.
There are some hormonal effects from having an abortion, especially since you are further along.
Just be careful and make sure you are making the right decision for you.