re: soooo hurt

most women who follow through with an abortion end up feeling so guilty that they turn around and get pregnant again thinking it will fix their guilt. I too was on the pill when i became pregnant because I was told that another pregnancy could likely cost me my own life. At first my boyfriend thought I was selfish to not terminate this pregnancy because I was risking my life and leaving our other children motherless to bring another baby into this world that wouldnt have a mother. I expressed to him that it is my belief that obviously one day I will die regardless, and when I do would God forgive me for choosing my life over the life of my unborn child? I made the selfless decision to carry this baby regardless of what may or may not happen to me in doing so. And even though my boyfriend didnt understand my decision at first, he is absolutely 100% supportive of me and thrilled that we are having another precious baby boy!

Quoting LoveMyGirls1007:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mum2two2&under:</b>" have you considered adoption?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... and physically. I already have hip problems from my last pregnancies. My PPD gets pretty bad too. I cant do pregnancy..."

ppd can start at the end of any pregnancy not just a term one.......if u cant handle it after a live birth ,it could be worse after a termination. I strongly suggest u get some counseling right away. And tell your husband to educate himself, a guy cant just sign his rights over unless their is another man willing to step up and take his place.....so his rude comments are useless.

Quoting Fharyn:" most women who follow through with an abortion end up feeling so guilty that they turn around and get ... [snip!] ... my decision at first, he is absolutely 100% supportive of me and thrilled that we are having another precious baby boy!"

Not true. Most women definitely don't end up feeling guilty enough to try for another pregnancy right away. Many, many women remain guilt free after their abortions and go on to live normal, happy lives.

Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" Not true. Most women definitely don't end up feeling guilty enough to try for another pregnancy right ... [snip!] ... another pregnancy right away. Many, many women remain guilt free after their abortions and go on to live normal, happy lives."

most of the women u are speaking of are the women who entered the decision to terminate w/o loads of guilt....that isnt the OP's case. I hope she can find some good counseling.....

I am definetley not going to have anymore kids....

Quoting LoveMyGirls1007:" I am definetley not going to have anymore kids...."

if u dont mind my asking , has your husband always been so insensitive?

<blockquote><b>Quoting 5 blessings so far....:</b>" if u dont mind my asking , has your husband always been so insensitive?"</blockquote>




In the past year or so yes. "things" mean more to him than his family...  

I hope you are able to weigh your heavy choices and think about what is best for you, emotionally, physically, and mentally. Food for thought, if you do decide to get an abortion are you going to be able to not hold that resentment against your SO? I know in this last preg of mine, being our 4th child, my SO wasn't the happiest guy out there, he hasn't been as supportive as with our other ones, but we will make it work and he stands behind my choices as it is my body to decide what happens to it. We have decided to ensure this is our last child though and I am having the Esure implants put into my tubes to seal them. Good luck with your decision as I am sure it won't be an easy one either way.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Melissa Molina:</b>" I hope you are able to weigh your heavy choices and think about what is best for you, emotionally, physically, ... [snip!] ... Esure implants put into my tubes to seal them. Good luck with your decision as I am sure it won't be an easy one either way."</blockquote>



I cant guarantee I wont resent him. But at the same time, I have to think of my childrens future. Did your hubby tell you he'd sign his rights over if I choose to keep the baby? Mine did. I cant imagine having 3 kids and 1 gets singled out by his daddy cause he wasnt wanted or didnt get to be first or second born. It wouldnt be fair...and for my other two, I'd hate for them to grow up learning this...

Quoting LoveMyGirls1007:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Melissa Molina:</b>" I hope you are able to weigh your heavy ... [snip!] ... didnt get to be first or second born. It wouldnt be fair...and for my other two, I'd hate for them to grow up learning this..."

your husband cannot legally sign his rights over to the child.....and he is an idiot if he is going to make those type of threats w/o researching his options (which btw, are none!)

Quoting 5 blessings so far....:" your husband cannot legally sign his rights over to the child.....and he is an idiot if he is going to make those type of threats w/o researching his options (which btw, are none!)"

you could be right since they are married i don't know. but i know a man can sign his rights over. and even if he does, he still has to pay child support. that's what my SIL was told when she asked the courts about it when her baby daddy threatened to sign over his rights. OP, do what you want to do. don't do something simply because he wants you to. it sounds like he is an insensitive jerk. it would have been great if HE had had to see the ultrasound. i can't believe someone can be so cruel. it sounds like you really don't want to have any more kids though. i went through the same feeling of i want the baby because it's a child i created but just simply could not take on another child. and i did it mostly for my son i have already. it would not have been fair to him right now. i don't feel any regret.

Quoting LoveMyGirls1007:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Melissa Molina:</b>" I hope you are able to weigh your heavy ... [snip!] ... didnt get to be first or second born. It wouldnt be fair...and for my other two, I'd hate for them to grow up learning this..."

Mine didn't say he would sign over his rights, which if your married I don't believe is an option, but he said he doesn't want the baby if it is a girl and if it is a girl it can't possibly be his because he only has boys, we had my gender party yesterday and it ends up the baby is indeed a girl and he starts telling everyone that he is going to Maury because this baby isn't his... it isn't easy dealing with any of these mens idiot tendencies but I am praying that he will be a little different when the time comes, when he held the other two, it was an instant love, either way I will love this baby with all I am worth weather the world agrees to love her or not.

Quoting Melissa Molina:" Mine didn't say he would sign over his rights, which if your married I don't believe is an option, but ... [snip!] ... two, it was an instant love, either way I will love this baby with all I am worth weather the world agrees to love her or not."

men can be so stupid.....I think thats why the good Lord saw fit for all of our kids to look exactly like my husband, so he cant question their paternity,lol