re: Cheating....

Quoting jaydecher:“ no ones bursting my bubble i just know what shes going through exactly what shes going through and saying ... [snip!] ... of basically calling her stupid and a homewreker cuz in the "real world" people dont get over people they love in 2.5sec”

Thanks for being understanding. I do know what I was doing is wrong b/c I wouldn't want someone in the middle of my realtionship but I also feel she's in the wrong. She's older, she knows what she's doing and she is making sure he's not trying to go anywhere. He's wrong too. I am not stupid,(like ppl think)I slept with him full well knowing what I was doing. I just didn't want to think of the fact we are all wrong. And it is hard to just get over someone so fast. We've been together for almost five years. He was my first, I was his, we been through everything together and well quite frankly, I'm not ready to let my goal of us being a family go. I am just gonna wait until the baby gets here and hope for the best.

Quoting Praying for a miracle.:“ Thanks for being understanding. I do know what I was doing is wrong b/c I wouldn't want someone in the ... [snip!] ... I'm not ready to let my goal of us being a family go. I am just gonna wait until the baby gets here and hope for the best.”

i dont know you but i will always defend you cuz im going through the exact same thing and i have the exact same plan...i will NOT give up my future for some other girl to be happy

Quoting jaydecher:“ i dont know you but i will always defend you cuz im going through the exact same thing and i have the exact same plan...i will NOT give up my future for some other girl to be happy”

Isn't that true! lol. Esp not for my family. If I didn't have this baby maybe things would be different but it's not. I feel like Beyonce` "Ring the Alarm"

ok but is forcing a man the way to go? no, and if you want him back sleeping with him without him committing is not the way

Quoting Praying for a miracle.:“ Isn't that true! lol. Esp not for my family. If I didn't have this baby maybe things would be different but it's not. I feel like Beyonce` "Ring the Alarm"”

selfish as it may sound the only reason i freaked out on that girl as much as i did is cuz im going through the same thing and having people tell me things like let him go and he needs to move on and you need to let him be happy shes his gf now...and im like um bitch he was mine for7months and im having his baby hes been hers for 3days so she can suck my dick

im with my sons dad but he knows if he wanted another girl i'd help him pack. Ive already kicked him out a few days because i saw some message on facebook between him and some random girl.. he claimed he was just joking with her, then i found out he actually stood her up, thats the only reason he was allowed back, not too mention for any relationship to work you NEED trust and to be honest it sounds like if either of your men were to come back there wouldnt be trust

Quoting jaydecher:“ no ones bursting my bubble i just know what shes going through exactly what shes going through and saying ... [snip!] ... of basically calling her stupid and a homewreker cuz in the "real world" people dont get over people they love in 2.5sec”

I wasn't speaking of you specifically whenI spoke of bursting someone's bubble. I meant that in general. People shouldn't ask a question if they don't want a truthful answer.

You have no idea whether I understand her situation from a personal standpoint or not. You shouldn't assume that because I didn't use that as my immediate frame of reference that I don't understand.

I never called her stupid or a homewrecker. I think someone else may have said something to that effect, but it wasn't me. I do not feel that way. I feel like she would be better off focusing on herself and her baby (as I stated in a previous post).

Experience will teach you (and hopefully one day you will look back at your life and see this for yourself) that using "LOVE" to justify why someone treats you poorly is an excuse for being weak. The weakness ususally is low self-esteem. I am not knocking this by saying that people who have low self-esteem are bad people. What I am saying is take a good look inside of who you (general term) are and figure out why you feel so worthless that you would take being treated so badly.

Quoting LL H:“ I wasn't speaking of you specifically whenI spoke of bursting someone's bubble. I meant that in general. ... [snip!] ... look inside of who you (general term) are and figure out why you feel so worthless that you would take being treated so badly.”

i accept this and i;m sorry im not against the truth its just that if you come off harsh people wont listen to you if you say you understand and then say that it may not be the best thing to let them treat you like crap they feel less attacked
i'm not against truth i just dont think anyone gets help if its put out there harshly

Quoting jaydecher:“ i accept this and i;m sorry im not against the truth its just that if you come off harsh people wont ... [snip!] ... you like crap they feel less attacked i'm not against truth i just dont think anyone gets help if its put out there harshly”

I hate to see anyone suffer as I did over 10 years ago... However, I had to learn by making my own mistakes just as you and the OP will have to. There is more and better out there, though and you will never know it or experience it if you hold onto a loser. (& I know that from personal experience...)

To be blunt, I really don't care if anyone listens to my opinion or not. I was just bored and "gaga-ing" while watching t.v. through my horrible BH.

Quoting Ms.Melody:“ HORNY HORNY HORNY men are horny- they can pull out thier dick and get hard for some of the ugliest women*not ... [snip!] ... callin OP ugly* he may have feelings for her but to say he has to because he has sex with her is sooooo ignorant beyond belief”

I know he has feelings for me and loves me too but right now things are different. There is a lot more to this situation than I could ever explain. I did some things to him to give him a reason to break us up. So he took his break and found this woman. I decided I want the break to end, b/c he got be pregnant but he doesn't feel that way. I sleep with him b/c I don't want to be a whore and sleep with someone else while I'm pregnant with his child. He says he doesn't want to cheat on her, but I see through it. I do believe that men are horny dogs, but I don't think he's sleeping with me only b/c of that.

Quoting LL H:“ I hate to see anyone suffer as I did over 10 years ago... However, I had to learn by making my own ... [snip!] ... don't care if anyone listens to my opinion or not. I was just bored and "gaga-ing" while watching t.v. through my horrible BH.”

im not saying im gonna stay with a loser im saying if he turns around and decides hes done being a loser im not gonna turn him away. i love him and i know he loves his child if our child is born and he wants to be with me i will get back with him

Quoting Praying for a miracle.:“ I know he has feelings for me and loves me too but right now things are different. There is a lot more ... [snip!] ... on her, but I see through it. I do believe that men are horny dogs, but I don't think he's sleeping with me only b/c of that.”

no matter his motives.. right now he is getting everything he wants.. you his gf and who knows what else so why would he want to change that? You should stop giving him what he wants even if at the time you want it because in the long run then BOTH of you can make clearer descions

Quoting jaydecher:“ i didnt say it wasnt true i just said it was harsh...shes obviously still very in love and when you ... [snip!] ... the other girl hes dating now is the homewreker he obviously still has feelings for her or he wouldnt be sleeping wih her”

why get back with a cheater though? move on, there's plenty of other fish in the sea.

Quoting HEATHER™:“ why get back with a cheater though? move on, there's plenty of other fish in the sea.”

i talked to her and she said they were together for 5yrs and he was her first and she was his he obviously still has feelings for her and wasnt a cheater while they were dating. the father of my child cheated on his new gf with me but never once even almost cheated on me with another girl

Quoting jaydecher:“ i talked to her and she said they were together for 5yrs and he was her first and she was his he obviously ... [snip!] ... were dating. the father of my child cheated on his new gf with me but never once even almost cheated on me with another girl”

or so you assume..