Scared....

Hi. I found out I am pregnant just over a week ago. I had my doctors appointment yesterday to confirm it. I am booked for an ultra sound on Monday afternoon to see how far along I am. I am seriously considering abortion. I already have 2 kids and my fiance seems to have made the desicion that he doesnt want anymore kids so I should abort. We just bought our first house and wouldnt be able to financially have another child. I know I cant afford another baby. And it would kill my relationship with my fiance (my kids daddy). I used to be against abortion but now that I am in the situation I am scared. I am afraid of dealing emotionally after. Im afraid of the procedure. Im afraid to tell anyone. Im just afraid of the whole mental, physical, emotional process.  

Do whatever you feel is best.
Good luck.

I'm so sorry   there are many women here who have been in your shoes including myself. Feel free to private message me if you'd like, I can answer any question you have, or you can just post your questions here and many ladies will help! And welcome to BG. Hugs to you!!

Honestly even tho his opinion does matter its your decision. It's not like you slept with another man. Do what you feel is best for you and your kids, don't ever let anyone dictate what you should or should not do.
I've had an abortion before, if you need someone to chat to just pm me.

Good luck.

Just remember you have 9 months before your baby would be here... Infants don't need much so if you can breastfeed and cloth diaper, there's another cheap year.

Don't panic, think about everything... I know you're probably strapped for cash just buying a house. I know personally I could not emotionally handle an abortion if I was planning on having more kids in the future.

However if I couldn't do it and it was going to put my relationship and home on the line, I would get an abortion.

Good luck!

Do what is best for YOU and your family. *hugs* It's a hard decision to come to, but I've been there. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions or need someone to talk to.

  so sad that your SO is unsupportive when he helped create the baby. You should qualify for some assistance too. Something to help you guys out with daily expenses and medical bills.

You could always have the baby an give it up for adoption. There are a lot of couples who would love to have a baby but can't. It's really messed up that your SO is acting that way beings he did help create it, if he doesn't want anymore kids then he needs to be doin somethin to prevent that from happening. But I def think its somethin that you need to think about long and hard bc once you do it you can't take it back. Good luck.

We are pregnant with a surprise baby and I'm scared sh!tless also. Good luck to you.

Thanks everyone. i used to come to BG years ago but i forgot my password lol so I just made a new account.

This pregnancy is a total surprise considering i was on the bc pill. I also sold/gave away everything we had for babies. I'd literally need everything all over again. I would love to breastfeed...with my other 2, i couldnt so i cant see that changing...and cloth diapers save money in the long run but its getting started thats the issue.

Im scared to go to my ultra sound on monday....im sure it will make this desicion harder :'(

Quoting LoveMyGirls1007:" Thanks everyone. i used to come to BG years ago but i forgot my password lol so I just made a new account. ... [snip!] ... getting started thats the issue. Im scared to go to my ultra sound on monday....im sure it will make this desicion harder :'("

Yeah, I dunno. I guess it depends on how determined you are to save some cash.
I starting cloth diapering when my daughter was a few weeks old, and I only had 4 diapers. haha. I had to wash the diaper as soon as it got off her butt.

i was in your same situation with this pregnancy...he rode my ass everyday tellin me to abort it but as soon as i started to get the baby bump he said nevermind....adopt it out...everybody wants a baby u can do open or closed adoption....just dont abort..god gave u another chance to be somebodys mother..dont smurf that up

Quoting Amber Shamblin11:" i was in your same situation with this pregnancy...he rode my ass everyday tellin me to abort it but ... [snip!] ... a baby u can do open or closed adoption....just dont abort..god gave u another chance to be somebodys mother..dont smurf that up"

Go be an smurf somewhere else. Wow.

Quoting Kimber-Lily:" Go be an smurf somewhere else. Wow."

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<blockquote><b>Quoting Amber Shamblin11:</b>" i was in your same situation with this pregnancy...he rode my ass everyday tellin me to abort it but ... [snip!] ... a baby u can do open or closed adoption....just dont abort..god gave u another chance to be somebodys mother..dont smurf that up"</blockquote>




Well...I did come to an Abortion forum not an adoption forum... adoption is out of the question for me...