re: should I get one just because I'm 14?
posted 26th Jun '12
Age is not a reason to get a abortion. I think you need to talk to your parents about how you are feeling, and let them know that you will do the best that you can to be a mother to this baby. Also, you and your boyfriend should talk to his parents about what kind of support that they can give. What you need is support from your family and support from his family. quote
posted 26th Jun '12
do whats best for you!!! i feel pregnant with my daughter at 16, my mum wasnt happy about it when she found out and told me she wanted nothing to do with me or baby so i moved in with my partner. my mum came around when i was almost 8months pregnant, my daughter is now almost 4 and my mum is my best friend anything is possible sometimes all people need is time to get there head around it. good luck i hope you do what YOU want not what every1 else wants you to do its your decission at the end of the day.quote
posted 26th Jun '12
Dont worry about what other peole say, no one is in your shoes or in your situation. My opinon? 14 year ols shouldnt be having sex but theres nothing you can do to stop it, think about whats best for the baby. Thats the only thing you should think about.quote
posted 27th Jun '12
I really hope you do whats best for you. Come to your own conclusion. I was forced into an abortion when I was 15. Although now I feel like it was the best choice for me I hold resentment for my mom and the others who talked me into it. Just research all your options. No matter what you choose just remember its forever, make sure you can live with your choice.
posted 21st Jul '12
I was 19 and pregnant, my boyfriend was abusive and controlling I was trying to work up the courage to leave the relationship months before I found out I was pregnant. I call my Dad and told him I was going to have an abortion...my Dad is conservative and growing up he was very strict but he said something to me that I'll never forget, he said "As long as you do this of your own free will and are not influenced by anyone else telling you what to do than I support you". So this is my advise to you, do whatever you want to do but don't do anything unless you are 100% sure of your desicion. I don't regret my abortion, I'm 34 now and am happily married to a wonderful man and have a 4 year old daughter and baby #2 on the way I hope it all works out for you!quote
posted 23rd Jul '12
I got pregnant at 15 , im 16 now ...
its a shame your parents wont help you .
just do what you think is best !
maybe adoption ? so you dont have to go through an abortion ..
posted 25th Jul '12
Just remember abortion isn't something easy to forget. Your the one having to have it done and only YOU have to live with it the people trying to make you get one probably think its just some in and out procedure, for someone who actually wants the child it is so much more than that. You can feel so empty after abortion, adolescents and teens especially end up having to go through therapy, group etc. My friend was literally forced into abortion by her parents and she has never been the same, all because she let people talk her into something she didn't want and wasn't comfortable with. It's YOUR choice. Always remember that. Don't let anyone ever push you into anything your not comfortable with. This is your body and your baby. You have the ability to make and produce a life, something a lot of people would kill for, you have to take a lot of things into consideration. Parenting is tough at any age, but I will admit the younger you are the harder it gets. I seen people go through high school pregnant and even my middle school friend and end up having 3 kids by graduation and still making it. If she can do it. I'm sure you can. I'm not pusher, I'm just putting myself in your shoes, and I would never give you advise that I wouldn't give to my own self or my own child for that matter. I hope whatever you decide is right for you and no one else. My love goes out to you in your hard time. <3quote
posted 29th Jul '12
First of all, I am very sorry that you have are put in this position and are going thru this. No one should ever have to make these choices. In all reality, there are a lot of kids who are put up for adoption that don't get adopted, some are abused. Some day that child may come looking for you, which could be a very emotional thing for both of you. I know you know this, as you said it yourself, but you are very young. Having a child changes everything. There's a lot of things in life that you won't be able to do once you have a kid. I had my 1st at 19 and honestly, I wish I would have waited. There's soooo much stuff I would have liked to have done before I had kids. Minus the fact that your parents aren't going to help you (just about every grandparent loves a newborn baby), what about the baby daddy? I'm assuming he's pretty young too? Do you think he's going to stay with you thru everything, thru the next 18 years helping you raise that baby? Your other reasons were legit too, about not having jobs/money. I aborted my 3rd child last year bc I already had 2 kids and we were struggling to support them. There's nothing wrong w abortion. I am 100% pro-choice. You sound like you know what's best for you and the people around you. Don't talk yourself out of aborting necessarily bc babies are cute, do u know what i mean? I hope everything works out for you, I'll be praying for you as I know how difficult this whole process can be.quote