My Father and I have never gotten along. He's a mean, grouchy, short-fused, two-faced, inconsiderate drunk that has been the cause of alot of my issues. I believe he started emotionally and verbally abusing me when I was about 11 (that's as far back as my diaries go so it could have started before then) and he started physically abusing me when I was about 13.

This "man" would take any anger he had towards anything and put it towards me. Anytime he got in a fight with his girlfriend or something and it was his weekend to have me he would pick a fight with me. He would say and do anything to get me to fight back so he would have an excuse to "put me in line". He has called me a bitch, a smurf, and a whore among other names, has told me that I'll never amount to anything and that I was lucky that I'm not a boy (implying that he would be beating me worse if I was) has thrown me into tables and walls, knocked me to the ground, given me fat lips and bloody noses, has broken my pinky once, has left gashes on the back of my head, bruises from him choking me, and that's just the begining.

Now, my Husband and I have a family of our own and we're very happy but I'm still very torn about my Father. When I first got pregnant with our now 15 month old son I said that I didn't want my Father anywhere near him but, as the pregnancy went on, I decided that I would give him a chance to be in our sons life. After all, I'd like to think that if I ever did anything to hurt my children that they would at least try to forgive me.

Well, things were going ok until a few weeks ago. My Grandma was holding my son when she tipped him up-side-down trying to play with him but he was getting tired and cranky so my son got a little mad and screamed. My Father then proceded to pick up one of my sons toys and throw it at my Grandma (His own Mother, mind you!) while she was still holding my son because she made my son mad. Then the next weekend, my Father offered to give us a ride home. My son doesn't like his carseat so he was crying while my Father strapped him in. Not a big deal, he's one, it happens sometimes. What DOESN'T normally happen is my Father screaming at my son two inches from his face to "Shut the smurf up" in his loudest, meanest, top of his lungs yell. I obviously had something to say about that and told him that he doesn't need to be doing that smurf and his response was, "Well, he needs to understand that I just quit smoking two days ago.". My son doesn't need to "understand" that! He's ONE!

I know these are just two incidents but they've shown me that he hasn't changed and I really don't feel comfortable with my kids being around my Father. I just want to know if anybody thinks I'm over-reacting or being rediculous for wanting to keep my kids away from their Grandfather. (By the way, I keep saying "kids" because my Husband and I have a little girl due August 23rd.)

Definitely not.

Yea no. I wouldn't have him around my child ever again yelling in his face like that.
Who the smurf cares if he just quit smoking! That's on him. He has anger issues and is abusive clearly.

Even if family did that, I would freak the smurf out & tell then to smurf off & not see them for a loooong ass time.

I would not allow that person by my sons at all ever untill he got some help!!!

I wouldn't. Your kids don't need to be around that, it's not good for them.

Nope, wouldn't even consider it.

If anyone shouted at my daughter, id be done with them. Fact! He hasnt changed, your son doesnt need people like that in his life, even if he is your dad. Im sorry how he treated you, you can protect your boy from this as you wasnt :-( i know it must be sad for you xx

Thank you for your oppionion, ladies! When I decided that I didn't want my Father in my life everybody in my family gave me grief CONSTANTLY about how I was hurting his feelings by not wanting to see him and all this crap and told me that I was over-reacting so I wanted to make sure I wasn't just being a drama queen. I'm assuming that my family's going to have a great deal more to say once I tell them that I no longer want him in my sons life... -.-