Baby #2...... different dads......

Im ten weeks pregnant with my second child. My daughter will be 2 in two months. I am 19 years old. My daughters dad and I had been together for over 4 years.. We havent been together in over a year and a half. I rushed into another relationship, fell in love, and now im pregnant. We have been together for a little over a year. I just can't believe Im doing this again, and i feel bad my kids wont have the same dad... I feel guilty... I know I will love my baby, just like i love my daughter. . . but for some reason it feels so different this time around. Has anyone else had problems coping with this? .... I feel bad for feeling bad, but im excited to have both my little angels.

Wow you really live in Vancouver WA ?? I've lived there twice !

I still sad sometimes, for the reason I don't want my oldest thinking well you stayed with her dad. Or think that I love her any less. Honestly I don't feel that sad much anymore because it wasn't a good situation for my daughter and I. I think as a other you might always be scared but all you can docs love them and have good communication. : )

Quoting Shelly + 2:" I still sad sometimes, for the reason I don't want my oldest thinking well you stayed with her dad. Or ... [snip!] ... daughter and I. I think as a other you might always be scared but all you can docs love them and have good communication. : )"

Yeah, that is good advice!! Im sure the kids will care less than I do, Baby#2s dad has raised my daughter since she was 6 months, and she calls him dad... I dont know what to do about that, explaining to her she has her own dad...  

my mom had 4 kids from 3 different dads. None of us care.

Quoting CassandraMariee:" Im ten weeks pregnant with my second child. My daughter will be 2 in two months. I am 19 years old. My ... [snip!] ... Has anyone else had problems coping with this? .... I feel bad for feeling bad, but im excited to have both my little angels."

Don't feel bad sweetie. It is what it is. Never be ashamed of your kids because of who donated the sperm. They are YOUR children and that is all that matters. Sometimes smurf doesn't work out and that's ok. Just move on with your life and do the best you can for you and your babies. Don't dwell on stuff that in the end, doesn't really matter.

Honey don't sweat it, your love for your children is all that matter...

My sister and I have the same dad, but my brother has a different from a previous marriage.
None of us mind, and we don't say 'half-brother' Or 'half-sister' never have. Were just brother and sister.

OP I am in the exact same boat now. My 2 and a half year old does not know her bio-father (He was in prison from the time she was born until she was 2) and he doesn't want to see her, he cares more about drugs and guns. This babiess father and I have been together for 2 years, so my daughter was 6 months old. He's been 'daddy' since a year ago. We are soon to be getting enagaged/married so he will be adopting her and the last name. Who says that blood makes him any less of a dad to her than the one we biologically conceived. I love both equally, as does he.   It will work itself out. It's confusing and scary at first, but both kids will not mind, and love the both of you as well.

Quoting Ramona Campbell:" Honey don't sweat it, your love for your children is all that matter..."

   

I have half siblings and step siblings, and none of us cared at all. We all love each other and our parents.

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Yupp, my so has been her dad since she was 6 months too. Her dad hasn't been around much. She knows she has two dads, and she says its because I'm lucky and she actually tells my youngest she is sorry she only has one. Lol

my grandfather had six kids with his wife before she passed away and my grandmother had 2 from her past relationship then they had 4 more and my grandmas step kids all called her mom and still to this day and my grandfathers step kids still call him daddy growing up never knew my aunts and uncles were not all full blood and no one could tell .

My dad had 5 kids....all from different moms.  

No big deal.