re: If you love your children more then your partner.

Quoting sueforizzle:" ....A possibility of something that can happen to a marriage isn't exactly being adamant. Wow. Illiterate or just bitchy?"

Neither, thanks.

I love my kids more than my SO... but that's because my kids don't bug the hell out of me. lol Love my husband, but he is annoying as smurf... and I wish he would go back to work.

Me and hubby just split but I always loved my kids more...I would put up with their smurf for eternity, and obviously won't do the same for him lol...

when they leave I will just live my life..I still love myself just as much as I love them so I don't see the correlation..my life will go on, and I will go to work the same way I do now except I will prob take more vacations or spend more money on myself lol

I hands down love my son more than my husband. He's my SON. Nothing and no one else will ever come close to how I feel about him. That doesn't mean I don't love my husband deeply...it's just nowhere near the same intensity.

For me, love is such a difficult thing to quantify

Depending on the scenario, I would be one or the other

Who would I rather go for lunch with? My husband, he is a great conversationalist

Who would I save from drowning? My daughter, because my husband has a better shot at saving himself

Who do I trust to see me at my very lowest emotionally? My husband, he is my best friend

Who do I have a physical reation to when they get hurt? My daughter, she used to be attached to me

I think the differnce between the child and spouse leaving is that when your child leaves, you still have a relationship. Often there are special occaisions, and hugs and phone calls, which often don't come with a divorce

I do love my children more than my husband but neither love is the sum total of who I am as a person and what my marriage is. When my children leave home, it will be an evolution of our relationship and bond, just as the change of adding them to our union was for myself and my husband.

Quoting WeenieMachine:" I do love my children more than my husband but neither love is the sum total of who I am as a person ... [snip!] ... be an evolution of our relationship and bond, just as the change of adding them to our union was for myself and my husband."

  Perfectly said.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:</b>" Its a different kind of love. If I ever needed to choose between my partner or my kids my kids would ... [snip!] ... my kids would come first, its the same kind of thinking. Nothing will change when they move out and have their own family."</blockquote>



This

Different kind of love, like many women say....

Novali's needs are met before mine and SO's. SO's wants are met before Novali's.

But, SO's wants are usually to buy something nice for Novali! haha

I love my children unconditionally. Nothing they ever do could make me not love them. My husband on the other hand could do several things that I wouldn't be able to forgive him for. I love him but it's not the same kind of love as it is with my kids.

Quoting Ren:The secret bride-to-b:" I am in a thread right now and one BG mama is upset that I said I love my SO more then my kids but I ... [snip!] ... families of their own? Edit; Not asking if who you love more, just what are you going to do when they (the children) leave."

I have a different love for both of them. I can't say I love one more then the other..My love for my son is very different then the love I have for my husband.

I'm hoping Mason never leaves.   I'll always love Mason more but I do love Chris.

Totally different. I can't even begin to describe the love I have for my son. He is my heart, not my whole life, but I am so attached to that little boy. I love my husband, but kind of in a lesser way. I don't know. I love him, but he knows our son is always first. I am his advocate, and my husband understands that. I know there would never really be a situation where I'd have to choose... but if there were, it would be my son.

I often think about this for some reason. I honestly think I love my husband more but it's hard to explain. IF for some reason someone held a gun to my head and forced me to choose between being able to see my husband or my son then I would easily choose my son without a doubt. However, I've known and loved my husband for much longer than my son, if that makes sense. I have more love as a result. My son, however... I obviously love him more than life itself and I love him more and more with each passing day. I wasn't truly in love with him until he was about three months old, honestly. A lot of people think I'm terrible for this but I have a sneaking suspicion a lot of moms feel the same way. Of course I loved him and I would've given my life for him as a newborn but I wasn't in love with him if that makes sense. Now I can't even dream of going a day without seeing him.

IDK, it's so hard to explain. I don't love one more than the other, I just feel like I've loved my husband much longer and as such... Smurf it, I can't even describe it, lol.

I don't understand the question ... I love my son in a maternal way and my SO in a romantic/sexual way. It's a completely different kind of love ... Loving one doesn't diminish the love I feel for the other,