re: Bye............................................

this girl i worked with, well she was my manager, she was having an affair, probably still is, for almost 8 years. she has a 17 year old daughter, and the guy has 3-4 daughters with his wife. she never understood he isn't leaving the wife..probably still doesn't. it's seriously some sort of smurfing mental sickness.

Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" & maybe he told his wife that those are cousins of his or something lol seriously who would stay with someone kNOWING they have a 10+ year affair going on with 4 other kids."

She knows.
The OP was talking about her kids not being mentioned in the obit.

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" I feel very sorry for the loss of her child. But as far as this man goes, Im not about to go say the ... [snip!] ... is just a mess. I couldnt imagine having 4 kids with some other guy and living this life with SO and DS......wacked. "

i couldn't imagine dating, or sleeping with a married man, even.

there's something wrong in people's heads that do these things.

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" Maybe...but I think he'll smurf around with her head forever. So wish I could hear the wifes side of ... [snip!] ... wifes side of all this. Wonder whats wrong with her head to putting up with him having all these kids with some other women. "

I think she was protecting her sick child.

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" I feel very sorry for the loss of her child. But as far as this man goes, Im not about to go say the ... [snip!] ... is just a mess. 4 kids with some otI couldnt imagine having another guy and living this life with SO and DS......wacked. "

I would never do it. I was raised to have more self respect or not. If I had three kids and one on the way, I would be focusing all my energy on my children, not fake validation from a loser babydaddy.

Quoting A❤T=P[Bun in th Ov:" I think she was protecting her sick child."

yeah maybe.

I couldnt do that. I figure stress in my life in stress in my sons life.... definitely not needed when sick, but we all think different thats for sure.

Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" i couldn't imagine dating, or sleeping with a married man, even. there's something wrong in people's heads that do these things."

An amazing sense of low self esteem mixed in with some BIG time selfishness.

What drives me nuts...is they ALL fall for the 'he's going to divorce her' line. Seriously?

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" An amazing sense of low self esteem mixed in with some BIG time selfishness. What drives me nuts...is they ALL fall for the 'he's going to divorce her' line. Seriously? "

i know right. even if he WAS, say "okay, give me a call when you DO/have proof"

Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" i know right. even if he WAS, say "okay, give me a call when you DO/have proof""

EXACTLY. I dont want to be stuck with some man who doesnt know how to be on his own. Men who go from one womens home to anothers is just not 'man enough' for me.

Quoting * Sara *:" I would never do it. I was raised to have more self respect or not. If I had three kids and one on the ... [snip!] ... three kids and one on the way, I would be focusing all my energy on my children, not fake validation from a loser babydaddy."

 

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" An amazing sense of low self esteem mixed in with some BIG time selfishness. What drives me nuts...is they ALL fall for the 'he's going to divorce her' line. Seriously? "

I would bet, Op's mom was the other woman, or never had a stable relationship.

Quoting A❤T=P[Bun in th Ov:" I would bet, Op's mom was the other woman, or never had a stable relationship."

that would have a lot of impact on things, i bet.

Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" i couldn't imagine dating, or sleeping with a married man, even. there's something wrong in people's heads that do these things."

I know right!!!

My ex wanted to sleep with my the night before my sons [well ours but he is mine lol] bday party that he wasnt invited to. And he is married. There is no way I would touch that smurf again, even with a 10 foot pole.. EW.. nope I dont want that drama.. and smurf on my hands.

Quoting Link:" I know right!!! My ex wanted to sleep with my the night before my sons [well ours but he is mine lol] ... [snip!] ... is no way I would touch that smurf again, even with a 10 foot pole.. EW.. nope I dont want that drama.. and smurf on my hands. "

did you tell his wife?

Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" did you tell his wife?"

lol.. like the bitch would believe me?

he cheated on her twice with me when I was feeling really smurffy and a couple months after he left me... he told me that if I ever tried to tell her he would tell her its not true...

I dont want that drama. I have enough with him.. so its unneeded. so I siad smurf it and left it alone.

even though it did smurf meup for a good 10 minutes because he said that he missed me.