re: Bye............................................

Quoting Link:" lol.. like the bitch would believe me? he cheated on her twice with me when I was feeling really ... [snip!] ... so I siad smurf it and left it alone. even though it did smurf meup for a good 10 minutes because he said that he missed me. "

yep, i know what you mean.

BD told me "it's a shame you aren't single, too bad you can't sleep with me so court can go your way" smurfer, you aren't single either, learn some respect.

SO wants to strangle him.

I just want to say this last thing in my defense:

I'm not innocent and have never indicated that I was I'm 50% to blame for whatever happened between him and his wife. I'm not perfect and was raised in a way that I wish on nobody. My mother always treated me second best, I got hand me downs, never got to go to college like my sisters, or do anything that they got to do. they got the looks, the husband, the house, the job, the love, I got none of that. It's hard to grow up for most of your life not having that love and to find it or what you think is it. I don't want to be second choice but can it be as bad as being nobody's choice ever? I don't regret what I did because I got my 3 beautiful girls out of it.

His wife knew and has known since I was pregnant with my 1st child. She chose to stay and by staying she became my children's stepmother and has treated them like dirt. I feel for her with the loss of her daughter and her marriage but I have some resentment for the way she handled my children so she is not all innocent in this. If she didn't want my kids she could have left but she didn't.

My kids come first and I would never compromise their health for a man. My daughters' are only aware that me and their dad love them and each other, I don't know if my oldest knows anymore than that, I doubt it. I'm just trying to do what I think is right for them and myself. I never said I was going to marry him and I never said I was going to leave him. My mind is all over the place and will continue to be until I make up my mind. I won't be able to make up my mind by being a part of this website so that's my reason for leaving. I only wanted to say that and explain myself. Thanks for the feedback and I feel I owed that explanation to anyone who has given me a helping hand through my posts or through private messages. I really appreciated all of the good advice and really that's it. Thanks again. Bye.

Quoting Bye..Deleted...:" I just want to say this last thing in my defense: I'm not innocent and have never indicated that I ... [snip!] ... my posts or through private messages. I really appreciated all of the good advice and really that's it. Thanks again. Bye."

Stop trying to use your childhood as an excuse. Pathetic.
You have no right to be angry with a woman for not wanting a relationship with your chrilden. You ruined her family, with little regard for her CHILD!
Get yourself into some counseling.

If anybody would like to continue being friends you can e-mail me at dana_momof3@yahoo.com and from there I can give you my e-mail for facebook.

Quoting Bye..Deleted...:" I just want to say this last thing in my defense: I'm not innocent and have never indicated that I ... [snip!] ... my posts or through private messages. I really appreciated all of the good advice and really that's it. Thanks again. Bye."

Your childhood isn't an excuse. and jesus christ, you said "i didn't get a husband" CAUSE YOU WERE 18 when you GAVE UP looking because you found this SmUrfING GEM.

the ONLY reasonable advice ANYONE could give you is LEAVE. NOW. FAST. IN A SmUrfING HURRY. do not let this man anywhere NEAR your life. IF he so CHOOSES to be a dad to these kids, that's it. there should be no sexual relationship between the two of you, until there IS a DIVORCE AND YOU SEE THE PROOF. you can't take this "man's" words for smurf. he wouldn't know the smurfing truth if it bit him on the ass.

Quoting Bye..Deleted...:" I just want to say this last thing in my defense: I'm not innocent and have never indicated that I ... [snip!] ... my posts or through private messages. I really appreciated all of the good advice and really that's it. Thanks again. Bye."

YOU put your kids in the position for them to be treated poorly, by having them with a married man. dont blame her for that. Come on now..... what do you expect her to do, really? Welcome them with open, loving arms?

When he cheats on you, and has a kid with a new chick, are you going to be excited, or hurt? Chances are, youll feel as hurt as she does/did.

there ARE men out there that WILL love you, and treat your children like they are his own. do not settle for this douche. YOU ACCEPT THE LOVE YOU THINK YOU DESERVE. you feel worthless, so you think he is all there is out there.

i really think you should talk to a professional.

Quoting Bye..Deleted...:" I just want to say this last thing in my defense: I'm not innocent and have never indicated that I ... [snip!] ... my posts or through private messages. I really appreciated all of the good advice and really that's it. Thanks again. Bye."

Stop with the pity party smurf. I hope you get your act together so that you don't raise your girls thinking that this is how a woman should be. NO one can change your life but you.

OP how are you going to teach your daughters to be better than you? teach them what true love and a real relationship are?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bye..Deleted...:</b>" I just want to say this last thing in my defense: I'm not innocent and have never indicated that I ... [snip!] ... my posts or through private messages. I really appreciated all of the good advice and really that's it. Thanks again. Bye."</blockquote>




You are probably 75-90% the reason is marriage is breaking up

You were treated as a second class citizen as a child. Now you are going to raise 4children the same way. Smfh.

Quoting Bye..Deleted...:" I just want to say this last thing in my defense: I'm not innocent and have never indicated that I ... [snip!] ... my posts or through private messages. I really appreciated all of the good advice and really that's it. Thanks again. Bye."

And you think you can teach your kids better? Using your childhood to justify being a homewrecker certainly doesn't help you much there...
Again, you are pathetic!
His wife doesn't owe smurf to your kids so quit your bitchfest about her not treating them like smurfing gold.
I pity your kids I really do....I can't imagine how screwed up they'll be because of all that YOU'VE done!

Quoting October Rust:" And you think you can teach your kids better? Using your childhood to justify being a homewrecker certainly ... [snip!] ... owe smurf to your kids so quit your bitchfest about her not treating them like smurfing gold. I pity your kids I really do...."

if my husband had kids with someone else, first of all I WOULD LEAVE, second i would want nothing to do with them. i'd never want to meet them OR her.

Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" if my husband had kids with someone else, first of all I WOULD LEAVE, second i would want nothing to do with them. i'd never want to meet them OR her."

Same here!

OP are you kidding me???

You are a grown ass women and have 4 children! You can not carry around this boo-hoo-hoo me smurf from your childhood. Big news flash.....95% of the women I read about on here have some smurfed up past.

As far as this 'your not pretty smurf' beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You need to work on your personal smurf so you can see your beauty.

As far as saying the wife treats you kids bad.....are you smurfing kidding me??? Not only did you have one kid with HER man..you then made baby number 2, then baby number 3, and NOW baby #4!!!! You are killing this women slowly from her heart out wards.


Baby-gaga is not a bunch of flowery sunshine boo-boo kissing women....but it is a bunch of real life women, with real experiences sorrow and stories. If I were you Id stick around, never know how much you can learn from talking to other women.
(Im assuming this...but I cant see you having a lot of powerful women in your life)

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bye..Deleted...:</b>" I just want to say this last thing in my defense: I'm not innocent and have never indicated that I ... [snip!] ... my posts or through private messages. I really appreciated all of the good advice and really that's it. Thanks again. Bye."</blockquote>




I dont care what you say, if you were sleeping with my husband and continued to do so I wouldnt damn show you any respect either!! & as far asd the kids I would have nothing to do with them! That would be his problem 100%!! You make it sound like YOU were with him first so she HAS to except your kids!! You were smurfing this womans husband and you didnt give one smurf about her because you continued to do so!! Now a days you should be lucky she didnt beat the smurf out of you but she HAD and has too much respect for herself! Wtf were you expecting this MARRIED woman to do when you were her husbands mistress?!!7 you have got some damn nerve!

And as far as your less than perfect childhood, maybeee if you didnt spend 10 years smurfing a married man you would HAVE A HOUSE, HUSBAND, AND FAMILY! Ok your parents didnt pay for you to go to school big smurfing deal! There are grants and loans!! Go cry a river somewhere else!