I feel

So drained. BD can't follow a simple court order or be man enough to take care of his son. I get blamed when he fights me and people say I am rude to him. We barely talk and I don't want to talk to him. I don't think I am rude to him. I have so much I DO want to say to that dead beat. I don't feel good and went to the ER earlier this month and I STILL take care of DS. Unlike his dad. His dad let's other people take care of DS when he only get's him noon to 5 on Wensdays and Saturdays. During those times he is out doing whatever, like getting high. There are tons of reasons he is unfit but a lot of our case managers, the court, ect don't see any reason to remove visits or rights. I am sick of babying the 25 year old pos BD so I gave up and I get blamed STILL for him not showing up for visits. If he wants to miss out on DS that's his choice not mine!

I'm sorry. That has to be really hard. I hope he grows up and becomes the dad his child needs.

Why do you get blamed, when its him not showing up?

He takes his anger he has of me out by not being a parent. Anddd I get blamed for everything. His parents and grandmother think he is perfect. They are blinded by him, afraid he will fight them again and not talk to him. They believe him that I am the bitch and won't let him see my son. He needs to grow up. He is missing out on so much!

Quoting mamaroo + 1 Roo:" He takes his anger he has of me out by not being a parent. Anddd I get blamed for everything. His parents ... [snip!] ... to him. They believe him that I am the bitch and won't let him see my son. He needs to grow up. He is missing out on so much!"

They are probably part of the problem. They've made him like this over the years. Always do what's best for your child and if he comes around, he does and if he doesn't, it's his loss completely.

i know how you feel, what a dick