am i crazy?
posted 21st Jun '12
hi! i am 34 weeks in my 3rd pregnancy. it has been very difficult. i am high risk, with high blood pressure and other issues. i almost lost this one and did loose one 4 months prior to this one. i have been seeing the dr weekly for some time. i also have 3 other kids at home to take care of (ages 10-13). my husband works 6 days a week ( sometimes 7), 10-16 hours a day. he makes salary so it doesn't matter how many hours he works, he don't make any more. i really need help right now. i'm suppossed to take it easy and stay off my feet as much as possible. i'm very proud to have a husband that is a hard worker, but i think now he should call it a day by 5 pm and come home to help me. we have many fights over this and he thinks i get mad that he has to work, that isn't the case. i just think he should help me and come home after 10-12 hours work. as i said it doesn't matter if he leaves at 5pm or 8pm he makes the same money. what do you guys think?
quoteposted 21st Jun '12
I wouldn't call you crazy just exhausted and in need of help . Could your mother in law have a chat to him and explain to him how your feeling ?
quoteposted 21st Jun '12
she didn't raise him and they don't have a very good relationship. we don't really have any family, just our own. i have tried to explain this to him, but like everything else, he don't understand.
quoteposted 21st Jun '12
Poor girl! I know how you feel! Im 23 weeks pregnant with my #6.. I have 5 kids at home with me.. DD 10 DD 8 DS 7 DS 3 DS 2
Hubby works for hourly wage but is gone 10 to 12 hours a day! He is training to take over the company so he has to work his job (construstion) then go back to the shop and get things ready for the other guys for the next day. One day he got off work at 4 but didnt get home til 6:30.. I was pissed! Being home with these kids isnt easy and I think he needs to focus on home lofe just as much as he does work.
Work has also made him more stressed, its amazing how things have changed.
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Ohioposted 21st Jun '12
i know you have to work to provide, but i tell him his kids will only be kids once and if he don't spend time with them and me he can never take it back. we need him here too. i really need him now being on bed rest and having nobody else to help me but the kids.
quoteposted 22nd Jun '12
can you speak with your doc maybe he or she can recommend a service or department that can help ? I feel for you
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