Quoting kravenscookiejar:" So maybe talking it out would help. I had a daughter, my firstborn, who I lost when she was three weeks ... [snip!] ... person? I can't shake this feeling that I've betrayed her memory, this guilt that I forgot about including her. I hate this."
Aww babe. I've done the same thing. I don't think it's bad. I think it's just how we cope.
It's like they are so important and special to us that we don't mention them to most people. But I know the guilt. I've felt the same thing.