13 an sexting...

What do I do I am seriously flipping balls right now!
My 13 year old otherwise quiet an shy SIL gave me her phone so I could play music for my DD well... of course I'm nosy an went through her messages an she was writing two guys talking about sex, making out, oral sex, an asking each other if there horny an like extreme phone sex.

I have no idea if I should confront her or tell her mother?!
What would you do?
She is only turning 14 next month...

Quoting Korean's &Ella's Mama &He:" What do I do I am seriously flipping balls right now! My 13 year old otherwise quiet an shy SIL gave ... [snip!] ... sex. I have no idea if I should confront her or tell her mother?! What would you do? She is only turning 14 next month..."

Well, in my opinion maybe just leave it alone. Or talk to her about safe sex.
It's going to happen regardless of you telling on her or not.

Quoting Korean's &Ella's Mama &He:" What do I do I am seriously flipping balls right now! My 13 year old otherwise quiet an shy SIL gave ... [snip!] ... sex. I have no idea if I should confront her or tell her mother?! What would you do? She is only turning 14 next month..."

I found out a ton of stuff my sister in law was doing when she was still a teenager and living at home. I'd drop hints to my MIL, but I wouldn't out right say anything. Why were you looking through your SIL's phone messages? I never went that far. I'd over hear things she was planning with her friends, and drop subtle hints to her mother.

i wouldnt go and tell herm om yet.. nor admit to her you read her texts. maybe just be her friend and ask her about if shes doing anything, maybe have a sort of 'talk' with her about boys and whatnot

idk to either beat the hell out of her or sit her down and tell her bout the dangers of sex and what could happen if she meets one of them but yea i would def tell her mommy

Quoting Korean's &Ella's Mama &He:" What do I do I am seriously flipping balls right now! My 13 year old otherwise quiet an shy SIL gave ... [snip!] ... sex. I have no idea if I should confront her or tell her mother?! What would you do? She is only turning 14 next month..."

Id tell her mom and then if i have a good close relationship with her id talk to her too.

If she was my kid id take the phone away

I have a 13 year old niece and my brother checks her messages all the time.

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I dunno if I would talk to her mom... But maybe her? Tell her about the risks of sex and the dmg to her reputation that could stay with her through high school

I'm not usually one for caring what others think but that would be hard to deal with.

my parents scared my 15 year old sister smurfless by telling her that the texts she sent and numbers she called were logged right onto their online billing account. I know it's not true, but she was giving all of these random guys online her number and making plans to meet with them behind my parents back etc... needless to say next time they actually saw her text messages they were all from her school friends.
but uhhhhh, idk what i would do in your situation, probably just tell her mom and leave it up to her.

Quoting Amber Shamblin11:" idk to either beat the hell out of her or sit her down and tell her bout the dangers of sex and what could happen if she meets one of them but yea i would def tell her mommy"

Why would she beat the hell out of her, it's not her kid.

Say something she may get mad but really its better then her getting pregnant at this age. Here where i live we got 11 year olds who are pregnant cause there parents didnt talk to them and didnt care where they went at night... good luck

I would make her feel like she can look up to and confide in you. If you tell on her, she will resent you. I would ask her if she is planning on having sex (if she hasn't already) and ask her if she would be interested in birth control and if she would like you to help her talk to her mom about it. I know that may not be the popular answer, but let's face it. She's going to do it regardless.....may as well make sure she is safe before she gets an STD or pregnant.

I would maybe let the girl's mother know she needed to be monitoring her phone activities.

Quoting Korean's &Ella's Mama &He:" What do I do I am seriously flipping balls right now! My 13 year old otherwise quiet an shy SIL gave ... [snip!] ... sex. I have no idea if I should confront her or tell her mother?! What would you do? She is only turning 14 next month..."

It is 100% normal for kids nowadays sadly, my brothers 13 & does it over facebook chat, my SO is 20 & he used to do it around 13. If you tell her mother or bring it up to her then its going to humiliate her because you went through her things. I personally would just keep quiet about it

Quoting Amber Shamblin11:" idk to either beat the hell out of her or sit her down and tell her bout the dangers of sex and what could happen if she meets one of them but yea i would def tell her mommy"

Beat her because her hormones are raging?   Good lord.

OP -- it's just sexting. I did it that young. Her body is going through a TON right now, and she probably IS horny. I don't think she'll act on it right away, I didn't when I first started sexting. It was more just exploring and getting that sexual high at that age. Just casually hint to her mom that she might want to have a safe sex talk with her kid.

You should let her parents know so they can deal with it.