re: racist great grandparents?

Quoting *!*AntsMommy*!*:“ the thing is..my boyfriends mom really loves him and stuff..but her asking that question everyday is ... [snip!] ... about her asking that too..bad enough i have to worry about his great grandparents..now i have to worry about his grandma too”

thats is rude for her to even ask that ...sorry to say but she sounds no better then the grandparents love knows no color

Quoting .:SHELLE:.:“ thats is rude for her to even ask that ...sorry to say but she sounds no better then the grandparents love knows no color”

yeah everytime she calls she asks that..just the other day before she came to visit..she asked me did he get lighter..because she said his hands were getting a little dark..i told her they look the same..my mother told me to tell her that hes gotten as dark as her lol..shes more of a mocha color..just to play with her head..
but then when we visit her friends with the baby..she asked AGAIN is he going to get darker..she saw my facial expression and tried to nudge my shoulder and laugh saying she was just joking..but i know she wasnt..because she asks it everytime..hes not even close to dark..so why do they care !! ugh..

Quoting *!*AntsMommy*!*:“ yeah everytime she calls she asks that..just the other day before she came to visit..she asked me did ... [snip!] ... was just joking..but i know she wasnt..because she asks it everytime..hes not even close to dark..so why do they care !! ugh..”

tell her he is going to get so black he looks blue   id cut her and the great grand parents off ...she shouldnt even joke about that specialy sense color is a issue right about now thats just bein insinsitive IMO

it sucks but, you have to realize they grew up in a time where there were seperate drinking fountains etc. It's a sign of their time and you can't really fault them too much for following what they were taught when they were young.
My grandpa was from the south and my grandma is from a fairly well off family in the North. Both are very racist. Not just towards black people but, anyone who isn't white. This includes jewish people (don't ask me why) when they aren't very religious. Growing up, I was taught to never have a black boyfriend or any black friends for that matter and Asain of any sort was half way accepted..........sort of (my grandpa faught in the war and hated any asian)
I grew up dating nice white boys just to keep the family happy. I would never admit to my grand parents that I'm really attracted to japanese men.

I can understand your frustration and anger but, dotry to keep in mind that our grandparents were born around 1919 (my grandpa was) and was time of intolorence. It's sad they won't acceptyour son but,try to at least understand why. It may bring a little peace to an other wiseugly situation.

I hope one day they accept and love both you and your son.

Quoting Monkyn&Coco'sMama (HippyB:“ it sucks but, you have to realize they grew up in a time where there were seperate drinking fountains ... [snip!] ... It may bring a little peace to an other wiseugly situation. I hope one day they accept and love both you and your son. ”

*tears up *

well said

I just dont understand racism... AT ALL! I cant even comprehend hating someone because of their skin color! It makes absolutely no sense to me, I cant wrap my brain around it. Its rediculous and awful.
I can understand disliking someone because of their actions, and their choices, and I can understand having a problem identifying with someone's experiences... but to dislike a person, especially a baby because he has brown skin instead of white???????? I cant even fathom it.

I have to deal with racist grandparents, and sometimes I dont think they really have anything against black people, its just how they were raised. Different times of life. I always tell them to shut their mouths around my kids cause I dont want them exposed to that at all. Older people especially in their older age have a hard time opening their minds up to the newer accepted things. I remember when I pierced my lip, they about had cows, or when I would dye my hair different colors. My brother dated a black girl and she was just so sweet to them, that they didnt really have a choice but to like her, she changed their minds by her attitude. Now I wouldnt go out of my way or anything because some people especially older people never change!!! But the best way I have found to rid the world of racism is to love even the people that hate you. I went to an all black elementary school growing up and I experienced a lot of hateful things from the other side, but by the time I had spent a year with the other kids...We were all best friends. That showed me that we are no different at all, and that love is more powerful than any color or what our parents/grandparents say. I hope they come around for the sake of what they are missing out on, (your baby and really great people). If they turn out not to, its best to keep your child away from them in the end, so the child doesnt feel their idiocy, and hurt from it. <3 Im sorry you have to deal with this and my love goes out to you and your little family.

Quoting *!*AntsMommy*!*:“ okay..Im in a interracial relationship..my boyfriend is white and im black.. Well my boyfriend was scared ... [snip!] ... want my son to even visit, because i dont need him associating with them when they really dont accept him for being half black”

I would send the gifts back and say thank you but no thanks

Quoting *!*AntsMommy*!*:“ okay..Im in a interracial relationship..my boyfriend is white and im black.. Well my boyfriend was scared ... [snip!] ... want my son to even visit, because i dont need him associating with them when they really dont accept him for being half black”

I am going threw the same thing. I'm white and my boyfriend is black. and his mom is always the one talking shit about me and i dont even say anything to her. its like she is 2-faced or something and i cant deal with it anymore!. and as for his step-dad i can't stand him he's a racist mofo as well. but its like hey yah know what can you do. Its just that my side of the family are all happy about it but i know after i cursed out my dad he would come around. but its like my grandmother and shit she is still pissed off i know she is because she never even called me and wished me a happy birthday. i only had 1 family member actually call me and wish me a happy birthday. but whatever fuck em. who needs um right?