re: Am I being selfish?

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ Oh don't get me wrong I can always get through to him and he'll be fine, but then as soon as he gets back around her all my hard work goes down the drain :[”

thats why i am saying he doesn't really undersand that the issue is HIS issue and not your issue. cuz its not about you not liking her...its about him not listening to you tell him that its that shes being disrepectful of your wishes, and that is unacceptable in a relationship where you are suppose to be on ther same page- raising your child the way you want ( ie without chips ... etc) i mean i am not trying to say theres some deep issue, but if i were in your shoes i would be deeply offended and hurt by all that.

Quoting Kacey Denae:“ Yeah.. I wouldnt tell him to not go because he probably does want to see her on Mothers Day! But that ... [snip!] ... to say about it.. oh well she'll get over it eventually! You need to stick up for yourself and let them both know how you feel.”

Well how do I bring it up? Im not one to jump him when he walks through the door, so unless she calls to confirm or something how do I go about telling him?

Quoting typeintp:“ thats why i am saying he doesn't really undersand that the issue is HIS issue and not your issue. cuz ... [snip!] ... i am not trying to say theres some deep issue, but if i were in your shoes i would be deeply offended and hurt by all that.”

I am! That woman and him not listening really does drive me crazy in the emotional sense. After I had my daughter, I just cried constantly because his mother always tried to take her and I was terrified for her. Honestly that's about 80% of the reason why I started breastfeeding, just so she COULDNT take her without me being around lol.

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ Well how do I bring it up? Im not one to jump him when he walks through the door, so unless she calls to confirm or something how do I go about telling him?”

Just bring up the subject of Mothers Day. Not even anything about his mom at first and I guarentee he will end up saying that you two are supposed to be spending the day with his mom.Personally, I can talk to Drew about anything! If his mom were to be like that I would say something as soon as we left her house abt not wanting to spend my whole mothers day with her as it being my first mothers day! You should never not talk to him about something thats bothering you. Conversation is what keeps a relationship together. I have to go somewhere real quick though.. i probably wont be back for like an hour.. i just dont want you saying something else to me and wondering why im not answering you lol =] I hope you are able to talk to him about it though and have him understand where you're coming from! If anything I would say something about Fathers Day... Im SURE hes going to want to spend his Fathers day with you and the baby. So ask him how he would feel on Fathers Day if your Dad made you two spend the whole day with him and he wouldnt get to spend any alone time with you or your little girl! I would think he would understand where you were coming from then.

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ I am! That woman and him not listening really does drive me crazy in the emotional sense. After I had ... [snip!] ... Honestly that's about 80% of the reason why I started breastfeeding, just so she COULDNT take her without me being around lol.”

exactly why doesn't he see that beyond when you talk to him. and i feel bad for you cuz now you are then only one who suffers

Quoting Kacey Denae:“ Just bring up the subject of Mothers Day. Not even anything about his mom at first and I guarentee he ... [snip!] ... get to spend any alone time with you or your little girl! I would think he would understand where you were coming from then.”

lol well my dad is a total asshole so that wont be happening but I see where your coming from. And we did have the conversation when she first brought it up, but it was "unresolved" because whenever the subject of his mother comes up he tends to shut down, which makes me feel that he agrees with her which just causes a huge fight lol...ughhh!

Quoting typeintp:“ exactly why doesn't he see that beyond when you talk to him. and i feel bad for you cuz now you are then only one who suffers”

I actually think that he does see it, he just shuts down whenever his mother is brought up and I have no idea why. He knows I cant stand her though, well I never came out and said that but it has to be obvious lol..yeah i feel bad for me too, really. We went and had a custody order drawn up (it was just a precautionary thing INCASE we were to break up, then there wouldnt be any fighting because it would already be settled) and Imade surethat there was to be no overnight or weekend visitation until Kiley is atleast 15mos. that way she's talking enough to tell me what that crazy bitch did. lol

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ I actually think that he does see it, he just shuts down whenever his mother is brought up and I have ... [snip!] ... or weekend visitation until Kiley is atleast 15mos. that way she's talking enough to tell me what that crazy bitch did. lol”

lol good looking out!

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ He is in denial, it just sucks because we always end up fighting and it's over her! He can never go against her.”

i know what you mean. my ex bf was the same way about his dad. his dada hated me because i was a white girl.lol

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ Okay, as most of you probably know from my previous posts, I really dislike my mother in law, I despise ... [snip!] ... I wanted to spend my first mother's day with him and Kiley. So what should I do? Am I being selfish or am I just overreacting?”

oh boy she sounds crazy. I would let your husband go to church and maybe take her to lunch while you spend the morning with your son and then and then after lunch the 3 of you do something without monster in law.

Fuck her feelings its your day to liek you said and its your 1st mothers day at that smh she sounds like a monster i don't see how you deal with her

Since it's his mother, let him spend the day with her. You spend it with your daughter....

She sounds wicked. Thank God for my mother-in-law lol.

Quoting typeintp:“ lol good looking out!”

I saw how bad my mom got screwed over by my dad repeatedly, I wasn't going to let that happen to me lol

Quoting brianamarie21:“ oh boy she sounds crazy. I would let your husband go to church and maybe take her to lunch while you ... [snip!] ... lunch while you spend the morning with your son and then and then after lunch the 3 of you do something without monster in law.”

I might just let him do that and I'll hang out with my mommy and Kiley. We'll have 3 generations spending mothers day together :]

Quoting .:SHELLE:.:“ Fuck her feelings its your day to liek you said and its your 1st mothers day at that smh she sounds like a monster i don't see how you deal with her”

I wonder how I do it too sometimes lol, believe me that's not even the worst of it.