re: Am I being selfish?

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ She's beyond childish!! Talking to her does nothing because she constantly twists your words around ... [snip!] ... to talk to her, to the point where he's in tears doing whatever he can to make it up to his "mommy!" She's so manipulative!”

i wouldn't even bother explaining to her -she totally already knows what shes doing, sooo not cool of her! just let her huff and puff and you relax on moms day!!

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ Okay, as most of you probably know from my previous posts, I really dislike my mother in law, I despise ... [snip!] ... I wanted to spend my first mother's day with him and Kiley. So what should I do? Am I being selfish or am I just overreacting?”

Oh my goodness I want to kick that lady in the face for you...Sounds like she has some SERIOUS issues, and if she thinks it's cute or funny to toy around with your baby just to piss you off then you need to stay away from her no matter how your husband may feel...Obviously I don't think you are being selfish for wanting to spend your first Mother's day with your daughter and husband, and if they don't like it then tough sh*t I say...Good luck and hope you can avoid the MIL this Sunday...

Quoting HeadoverHeels:“ I feel sorry for you. If you are married you BELONG with your husband and baby. From now on it is up ... [snip!] ... and are more than entitled to start saying "no" to unwanted invites. Enjoy your own Mothers Day with YOUR immediate family.”

She always interferes. Especially when it comes to Kiley. I'm sorry but he got to raise her children however she wanted. But as a woman and a mother she should respect my wishes for how I want my daughter raised and that includes NO CHIPS! There was a friend of the family's10 mos old daughter, Alyssaat the house that day too, her mother said no soda and my MIL gave her awhole glass of soda and when she spilled it everywhere told the mother thatAlyssa had taken it from her..

Quoting HeadoverHeels:“ I feel sorry for you. If you are married you BELONG with your husband and baby. From now on it is up ... [snip!] ... and are more than entitled to start saying "no" to unwanted invites. Enjoy your own Mothers Day with YOUR immediate family.”

where do you get the ticker of your main pic?

Quoting Hopeful for 09:“ It sucks butI would just grin and bare it the best I could. I mean not the whole day or anthing, but ... [snip!] ... and stay for a couple of hours and then get the heck outta there! lol  Or you could just be cough cough sick lol (jk)”

lol well she's an lpn so she thinks that makes her a doctor, she'd probably try to cure me herself and i find that rather scary lol

Quoting toxiraindancer:“ where do you get the ticker of your main pic?”

Im so sorry I dont remember. Someone posted a link and I just clicked on it. Sorry!

Quoting typeintp:“ i think she is the one who is being selfish!!! (and i think that if your hubs doesn't see that way too ... [snip!] ... mothers day for years and this is your first...seriously WTF! I wouldn't even give it another moments thought-do what you want!”

He is in denial, it just sucks because we always end up fighting and it's over her! He can never go against her.

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ lol well she's an lpn so she thinks that makes her a doctor, she'd probably try to cure me herself and i find that rather scary lol”

LMAO- right?

Quoting Jen [nifer]:“ You're not being selfish! This is your 1st Mother's Day & I'm sure you'll remember it forever. Tell ... [snip!] ... but after service (or lunch... depending on if she's paying... j/k  ) you all haveplans. GOOD LUCK! She sounds hard-headed!”

lol thanks and loving the "if she pays" part haha

Quoting toxiraindancer:“ umm she sounds horrid to me. i'd let him spend half the day with his mom alone and the other half with you . but not together. hope it works out”

see that would be a compromise i could live with but no she wants to get her hands on Kiley. And she is DEFINITELY spending mothers day with ME! lol this is not grandparents day.

Quoting Crystal1981:“ I know what you mean, I have a MIL that is pretty intense. It is all about compromise.... Next Mothers day, be the first with the plans ( out of town plans) hehe good luck!!!”

haha I'm so going to mexico next year lol

Quoting Swingate:“ Oh my goodness I want to kick that lady in the face for you...Sounds like she has some SERIOUS issues, ... [snip!] ... daughter and husband, and if they don't like it then tough sh*t I say...Good luck and hope you can avoid the MIL this Sunday...”

yeah me to ,thanks! lol And if your going to be in DE anytime soon I'm so up for the kicking her in the face part :]

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ He is in denial, it just sucks because we always end up fighting and it's over her! He can never go against her.”

then i would say that your hubs has an issue that he seriously needs to address, no joke, if its causing a probelm in your life and he can't see that- he needs some help, he is supposed to be listening to how this upsets you and he doesn't really seem to be doing that, and i could see how that could honestly hurt you. it would really upset me! not to say she doesnt need more help but he is the one you have a chance at getting somewhere with-i think she is kinda a lost cause!

Quoting typeintp:“ then i would say that your hubs has an issue that he seriously needs to address, no joke, if its causing ... [snip!] ... say she doesnt need more help but he is the one you have a chance at getting somewhere with-i think she is kinda a lost cause!”

Oh don't get me wrong I can always get through to him and he'll be fine, but then as soon as he gets back around her all my hard work goes down the drain :[

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ Exactly, I can't tell him not to go bc she is his mom, unfourtunately. But still...I don't think there's any way to win this in my favor.”

Yeah.. I wouldnt tell him to not go because he probably does want to see her on Mothers Day! But that in no way means that he has to spend the WHOLE mothers day with her! You need to sit down and talk to him and let him know how you feel and tell him that its your first mothers day and you would like to spend some time with him before or after he goes to see his mom. Im sure he'll understand and if his mom has anything to say about it.. oh well she'll get over it eventually! You need to stick up for yourself and let them both know how you feel.