is it weird?

That I am happy my bestfreind since 13 is pregnant?... she is 17. I honestly feel bad for being happy... because she is not happy. I had my baby at 16, and she was a wonderful freind tgrough out my pregnacy. But after I had the baby she just kinda ditched me. I guess it's petty of me... but she was my other half. It was honestly like goung through a bad break up. Well we shes been texting about how shes pregnant. She got a faint postive, then a "pregnant" on a digital test. Shes going to a clunic wendsay. Shes already ruled out abortion and adoption. I am just having alot of trouble taking it all in that she is seriously pregnant. I guess Im happy that she wont be able to go out and party without me anymore? I guess Im happy that we will be living the same lives again? I guess Im happy becauase I think she will need me again and it will bring us back together?

Dont bother telling me how petty and immature this is. I know it already. Jyst needa vent. ..

Quoting Mommy&Wife-To-Be♥:" That I am happy my bestfreind since 13 is pregnant?... she is 17. I honestly feel bad for being happy... because she is not happy. I had my baby at 16, and she was a wonderful freind tgrough out my pregnacy. But after I had the baby she just kinda ditched me. I guess it's petty of me... but she was my other half. It was honestly like goung through a bad break up. Well we shes been texting about how shes pregnant. She got a faint postive, then a "pregnant" on a digital test. Shes going to a clunic wendsay. Shes already ruled out abortion and adoption. I am just having alot of trouble taking it all in that she is seriously pregnant. I guess Im happy that she wont be able to go out and party without me anymore? I guess Im happy that we will be living the same lives again? I guess Im happy becauase I think she will need me again and it will bring us back together?

Dont bother telling me how petty and immature this is. I know it already. Jyst needa vent. ..

As long as you realize this

Wow. I hope she doesn't see this.

Hopefully its a feeling that will pass for you, because teenage pregnancy isn't something I would wish on anyone. Especially a friend.

It's great to be happy for her! But, now that she has something in common with you again she wants to be friends? Just don't forget what she has done to you.

Yes, misery and teen pregnancy brings everyone together.

hrm...I can see why you are happy, but really?? You are happy shes forced to rebond with you through an unwanted pregnancy? Hrm...well I hope atleast you all with be there for eachother now.

Quoting ~Due with number two~:" It's great to be happy for her! But, now that she has something in common with you again she wants to be friends? Just don't forget what she has done to you."

She didn't do anything that any normal teen would have done. It is a totaly different lifestyle when a girl is pregnant in high school. Why should she have expected her to stay home all day with her friend and not continue to live as a child? That is what she really is.

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" hrm...I can see why you are happy, but really?? You are happy shes forced to rebond with you through an unwanted pregnancy? Hrm...well I hope atleast you all with be there for eachother now."

Right!?!?!

Trust me I under how pathetic this is.


But she was my BESTFREIND, we did everything together.
Its lime shes a bad ex... that is how strongly I care and love her but how hurt I am..

I think that your feelings are normal, I can understand being happy because you think it will bring you two closer again. I can see how it sounds effed up but I don't think you're crazy because it will be nice to have your old best friend back, even if it took this to happen. It's not like you made her pregnant and this is your fault, so why not just be happy about what good it will bring?

Quoting Mommy&Wife-To-Be♥:" Trust me I under how pathetic this is. But she was my BESTFREIND, we did everything together. Its lime shes a bad ex... that is how strongly I care and love her but how hurt I am.."

I can appreciate that you still care for her but, like I said before as long as you realize your reasons are petty and immature.

She is going to need support because she clearly didn't want to be pregnant. Don't be happy she is pregnant so she can be like you. That is not a supportive friend.

Yeah it is weird. When I had my dd right out of high school and my bff followed I was pissed I was all didn't you learn anything from my mistake! I was happy she was happy but it was very hard on her just like it was for me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" She didn't do anything that any normal teen would have done. It is a totaly different lifestyle when ... [snip!] ... she have expected her to stay home all day with her friend and not continue to live as a child? That is what she really is. "</blockquote>




You are completly right and just made me realize even more how pathetic I am being.


I guess I just miss my bestfreind  

Quoting Mommy&Wife-To-Be♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" She didn't do anything that any normal teen ... [snip!] ... You are completly right and just made me realize even more how pathetic I am being. I guess I just miss my bestfreind  "

Perhaps you shouldn't focus on the friendship that you "had" but work on a new one. You can't expect to be best friends again just because she is pregnant. I am 33 yrs old. My BFF from Jr high and I had a falling out 7 years ago. Her mom passed and she went thru a really rough time. We are reaquainted again but things aren't the same. We both have children now and I have moved back to Montana. That doesn't mean that our lives didn't go on and we didn't grow and change in that time frame. I actually have other BFF's that I would turn to before her. Not that she is an awful person but that they have been more of a constant and know my situations better than she does because of time and space. make sense?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" Perhaps you shouldn't focus on the friendship that you "had" but work on a new one. You can't expect ... [snip!] ... but that they have been more of a constant and know my situations better than she does because of time and space. make sense?"</blockquote>




Deffinatley. I told her exactly how I felt and we talked it out. I hope I can show her support through this time and help her out. Instead of being petty. This situation has made me realuze how muvh more growing up I need to do.


Thank you BG ladies for being straight-foward...