question for mamas who are NOT with childs father

ok back history Alyssahs dad and i were married 2 1/2 years we seperated a year ago. well hes with a new baby mama. he tried to keep alyssah away from me at the beginning. now i see & get her anytime i want.

well im worried he wont have anything to do with her when his 'new baby' gets here.

its fathers day for gods sake i offered for him to see her today...did he...NO.

i dont know how ill handle when his new baby gets here...alyssah will be replaced...

thoughts? Stories??? anything?

mine dipped before my son was even born... i don't trip about it. i just move on and do my best to raise my son without him.

Quoting **Tat'd Bitch**:" ok back history Alyssahs dad and i were married 2 1/2 years we seperated a year ago. well hes with a ... [snip!] ... i dont know how ill handle when his new baby gets here...alyssah will be replaced... thoughts? Stories??? anything?"

Does she live with you or him?

Honestly, there isn't anything you can do. Take him to court and get custody and file for CS.

My situation is wuite a bit different, so it'd be like comparing apples to oranges.

BUT, you can't make him visit with her if he doesn't want to, so the best thing you can do is keep her happy and busy enough that she doesn't dwell on it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyRu:</b>" Does she live with you or him? Honestly, there isn't anything you can do. Take him to court and get custody and file for CS. "</blockquote>

Why would she need to file for custody and child support.. because shes worried about him loving the new baby over their daughter.?


Does she live with you or him?

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyRu:</b>" Does she live with you or him? Honestly, there isn't anything you can do. Take him to court and get custody and file for CS. "</blockquote>




She lives with us both. Lives a week with me week with dad and so on.

In july she will be with me a whole month.

Quoting hαmmers♣inc.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommyRu:</b>" Does she live with you or him? Honestly, there ... [snip!] ... and child support.. because shes worried about him loving the new baby over their daughter.? Does she live with you or him?"

After a divorce every woman should file for some sort of custody (whether it's joint or full). It protects everyone involved. I'd suggest it to anyone who is a single mother.

<blockquote><b>Quoting **Tat'd Bitch**:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommyRu:</b>" Does she live with you or him? Honestly, there ... [snip!] ... She lives with us both. Lives a week with me week with dad and so on. In july she will be with me a whole month."</blockquote>



Just file for full custody, and move on with life. Enjoy your child. Its his loss if he decides to "replace" her.

Quoting **Tat'd Bitch**:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommyRu:</b>" Does she live with you or him? Honestly, there ... [snip!] ... She lives with us both. Lives a week with me week with dad and so on. In july she will be with me a whole month."

Do you have joint custody or is this arrangement between the two of you?? Honestly, you won't be able to control who he loves more. Just gotta make the best of any situation that comes. It's all any parent can do.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyRu:</b>" After a divorce every woman should file for some sort of custody (whether it's joint or full). It protects everyone involved. I'd suggest it to anyone who is a single mother. "</blockquote>



Right now there isnt any custody agreement... i am trying to gather the funds to pay for my own lawyer and just file on my own. rather than give him half the cost and hopefully he will do everything as i want.

Quoting MommyRu:" After a divorce every woman should file for some sort of custody (whether it's joint or full). It protects everyone involved. I'd suggest it to anyone who is a single mother. "

Every woman? How about every parent?

OP - File for custody/visitation, because you have 50/50 residential neither party will be able to get child support.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Every woman? How about every parent? OP - File for custody/visitation, because you have 50/50 residential neither party will be able to get child support."

How many single dad's do you see on the board? I don't know too many single dad's IRL either. So, I only give advice to single mom's.    

I was with my kids dad for about 4 1/2 years and we split up about two years ago and I started dating an old Ex boyfriend. We're still together and he has been raising both my kids as his own. Their father doesn't call to check on them, to say hi or he loves them or anything. In fact when it comes down to it his girlfriend is his 1st priority. He only wants the kids on holidays or when it makes him look good.
If he decided he doesn't want anything to do with her after the new baby is born then at least she will have an amazing mother. As long as she has you to guide her and love her she will be great!