Advice..

My sister just recently found out she's pregnant with her boyfriend.
Now i'm the youngest, (20) and have two kids already. She's almost 22 and this would be her first baby. She's always been VERY pro-life, i can't even stress enough how against abortion she was.
Now faced with the challenge of parenting, her boyfriend is mildly freaking out, to put it nicely. He wants her to get an abortion and she's "99% sure" she told my mom today.
But she previously has told me she still has hope Chris (her boyfriend / father of baby) will come around and want to keep it; that it's the most heart breaking thing she's ever had to even think about and is still torn.
I feel like she's only doing it because of Chris, and it isn't really what SHE wants.
Our family doesn't believe in abortion, especially when you engage in sexual activity with NO protection. No condoms, no pull out, no BC, nothing.
But we still have told her, if that is what they decide we will stand by her and be there for her during the process.


I'm heartbroken and really upset. One of my best friends has had an abortion and my sister talked to her about her experience. My best friend said if she's having the kind of reaction she is, that it probably isn't what she really wants. My friend WANTED the abortion and still to this day regrets it.
I became a parent at the fresh young age of 17, so I know how overwhelming it is and how scary it is. They JUST found out this week so i told her to take some time and really think about what she wants, don't rush into a decision.


Basically my question is, what - in your personal experience / opinion- do you think? How can I support her and be there for her? I want her to know that her family is here for her 100% and even tho we don't agree and really want her to keep the baby it's her decision all the way and we WON'T be mad / disappointed if she decides to get an abortion.

Be supportive and don't give her any directions. Just tell her " Do what you think is right for YOU, and nobody else. I am here for you, and stick by whatever decision you make"

Quoting Platypus:" Be supportive and don't give her any directions. Just tell her " Do what you think is right for YOU, and nobody else. I am here for you, and stick by whatever decision you make""

That's all i've said to her so far.

I'm having a really tough time not giving her any direction and today she was playing with my youngest DS (5 months) and he was giggling at her and she was smiling and tickling him and i had to bite my tongue not to say "Isn't it sweet? Your gonna make such an amazing mother"

My baby daddy wanted me to have an abortion and I was thinking it too; but I looked at the bigger picture.. that it wasn't just about me or baby daddy..
If her bf doesn't want the baby or will leave her if she has it then screw him.. he's obviously immature and not a good guy..
If he wanted it she would obviously keep it.. so he is the deciding factor which is stupid!!!

Quoting • Sabrina •:" My baby daddy wanted me to have an abortion and I was thinking it too; but I looked at the bigger picture.. ... [snip!] ... immature and not a good guy.. If he wanted it she would obviously keep it.. so he is the deciding factor which is stupid!!!"

I know for a fact if he said 'lets keep it' she'd be THRILLED.

Which just breaks my heart because I know if she gets this abortion it isn't what she really wants. I'm trying my hardest to just sit back and let her decide for herself, but it's so hard watching her go thru this much pain!
I know how AMAZING it is to be a mother, Tabrez wanted me to get an abortion with Ehan to. I said no and ended up moving back to my moms because he didn't want to keep it. I did it for MYSELF.
All I can really do is be there for her and pray she makes the right decision for herself.

Tell her the good things about being a mother and that the sperm donor doesn't need to be around for her to keep it. Time to grow up!