Jelous of his friends.......

Well this is my first post. I've read a few other posts and i think its great how people can just come here for support and advice  
Anyway, I'm 17 years old (yes i know, pretty young) and i've been having trouble dealing with the being jelous of my boyfriend's friends. You see, we used to be spend a lot of time together and now im lucky if i see him once a week. He's constantly with his friends. Its not that i dont like him spending time with his friends, i just wish he would spend half as much time with me as he does with them...or pay half as much attention to me as he does to them. Before i got pregnant, and even into my first 4 months, we were always together. Now im almost 9 months pregnant and for the past few months i feel like ive been put on the backburner. It seems like his friends always come first. I'm just tired ofit.
Am i just being like overly sensitive??
Please help me out. i dont know what to do or say to him anymore. ive tried talking to him about the way i feel, but things dont change.
Any advice??

I am in a very similar situation with my fiancee and his videogames. He is sitting next to me right now, but he is lost in Halo 3. We hardly ever spend time together anymore when before we were attached at the hip!!
I am not saying anything to him right now but once our baby is born I tol him he better spend time with us or I will pack away all of his games while he is at work and he will regret it! I am hoping he gets it all out of his sytem now so when the baby arrives he won't want to play his games anymore.

I think its normal, Chris (my bf) did the exact same thing. He just wanted to spend a much time with his friends before the baby came, cause he knew that once Carson was here, he'd wouldnt get to see his friends as often.
Just try talking to him again and say "look, i know you want to hang out with your friends, & i dont mind, but i want to see you more." I hope things work out for y'all.

You're due the day before me  . I dont know what to tell you about the boyfriend because I'm one moody b*tch now days and have done this pregnancy by myself the whole time. I dont think that you are being overly sensitive about things though. You are about to give birth to her baby...of course you are going to want to be spending time with him and feel that he cares. I guess try talking to him again and tell him that its really bothering you.

the babys coming soon and he knows it once its here he will have less time for his friends he needs to get as much of it out of his system as posible while he can and im sure thats how he feels being able to hang out with the guys while he can. i know it sucks just stick by him and be paciant hun. but do talk to him about it he needs to know how you feel before it get to the point where it starts a fight.

Im 17 too & I was going through the same thing . I pretty much just acted like I didnt care & told him that he might as well enjoy hanging out with his friends now because once the baby comes he was going to be on lockdown .   Since the baby was born , its just been about me & her .  

Maybe he is, as the say, sewing his wild oats. He may have realized that soon he will be limited to what he can do b/c of the baby, so he is having his fun now!!! My SO is almost 29 and is doing it, lol. Good luck 

He is probably just scared he probably thinks he won't ever get to see his friends after the baby comes . i am sure everything will be just fine .

Ha, oh man...
Ok, well megankaye, yes you are young... but so is he [I'm assuming]. Thing is with younger guys... they're just not mature. He's not gonna get it. He's not gonna just change either. My boyfriend and I are both 21 and we had similar problems with his friends and w/video games, much like the other poster's situation.
I would be careful how you approached him about this though. One thing I have noticed, and learned, from my own boyfriend is that they hate it when they feel like they're being tied down, or when their girlfriend is asking them to see less of their guy friends. They HATE it. They feel smothered. They feel like they have rules and that's the last thing they want. You "nagging" him could really push him further away. I've also noticed some guys tend to deal with the stresses of their lives by increasing their hang-out-time with their friends. My boyfriend did it: when his parents got divorced, his younger sister became pregnant, his job sucked, etc. When he was stressed he would hang out with them way more than me. It took me a long time to see that that was his way of dealing with stuff. Maybe your boyfriend is becoming more and more aware/stressed with the soon-to-be fatherhood. Yea everyone knows it's rough to be the mom but imagine him. He's GOT to feeling the pressure.
If you talk to him [talk, not argue] and tell him that you feel like you are coming up to the wire and you feel like you really need him now, more than ever, and he still bails... then don't stop trying. I know that doesn't sound very helpful but he's young and you're young and it's not going to get better overnight. Plan date nights -- and keep this going after the baby's born. Do something for him -- guys love gifts, just give him something to show YOUR appreciation FOR HIM [because I think sometimes guys are forgotten during this time]. If you "reward" him for sticking around, then maybe he'll want to stick around more often.

Well you know your bf and you know if he is doing this now because of not being able to do it once the baby come's or if he just would rather hang with them.. Seriously either way seeing you as little as you are saying is ridiculous! You should not have to be going thru this pregnancy without him.. It doesn't matter if he wants to party now cuz he knows he can't later or if he wants to party now and later just cuz he wants to.. If it was I in your situation I would have a real heart to heart with him and let him know its not cool what he is doing... You don't want to come between him and his friends, BUT he shouldn't ever put you in the position to feel the way you are feeling now.. Not if he cared about you.... I hope it works out for you..

Quoting ~Ivana331~:“ I am in a very similar situation with my fiancee and his videogames. He is sitting next to me right now, ... [snip!] ... regret it! I am hoping he gets it all out of his sytem now so when the baby arrives he won't want to play his games anymore.”

My bf and I have had so many fights about this it's unreal. Like I told megan: they're immature. My bf is 21 [and so am I] and he's still immature. I love him to death but it's just how it is. Unfortunately I have many older married friends who say they won't just stop playing one day. Video games are pretty much going to be a constant; if they are now then they will always be.
But what your bf needs to realize is there is still a way to balance his video game obsession with you and your relationship. Schedule days out, so that he's not distracted by tv or gaming. ACCEPT the fact that he'll probably be unavailable for the week when a new game comes out but make him promise you a nice, dress up, go out old-fashioned date DAY [spend the entire day together] or night [just go out to dinner and walk around the city/park/mall/etc]. that's what i do w/ my bf. i try to keep myself busy enough anyhow but we really try hard to make time for us, and then i'm happy enough to le thim play his game. does he have friends that he plays w/ online? do they have girlfriends? sometimes "the girlfriends" and i get together when they're playing and make fun of them -- which is always nice to rant and rave to someone who understands.
anyhow, he wont grow completely out of it.. i can almost guarantee you that. but you can compromise. Also you might wanna level with him. Ask him to teach you to play video games [and really try]. You might like it, or like in my case you might not... and now you can use that as ammo. Say, I tried liking it but I don't so I don't wanna sit here and watch you play either. OR ask him to wait on you while you do something you know he has no intrest in -- it's the same thing.

Quoting pinkpigeon:“ My bf and I have had so many fights about this it's unreal. Like I told megan: they're immature. My ... [snip!] ... watch you play either. OR ask him to wait on you while you do something you know he has no intrest in -- it's the same thing.”

ya my sons father was the same way i was 17 and he was 18 and well it ended with me taking care of MY son and him having nothing to do with us. but for the record i kicked him out cause he was screwing aroun on my while he was 'out with is friends" but every guy is diffrent there age doesnt always it does mostly but not always determan there maturity level. i have guy friends who acted the same way when there woman was pregnant and once the baby was born they steped and and they are great fathers and bf to there women to this day. it just depends on her guy and his maturaty level

thank you girls for all your input. i appreciate it very much  

Like many of you said, i know he just wants to get hanging out with his friends out of his system because he won't be able to do it as much once the baby's here and thats why itry not tonag him about spending time with me.I really have been taking his feelings into considersation, and i know thatpregnancy is stressful for any guy, reguardless of their age. But like 'CUTEMISSCOCO' said, i dont feel like i should have to be going through this alone either. I guess i just have to wait it out and hope things get better, which i'm sure they will, once the baby gets here. in the mean time, i just have to be patient and as understanding as possible. thanks again everyone =]

Quoting pinkpigeon:“ My bf and I have had so many fights about this it's unreal. Like I told megan: they're immature. My ... [snip!] ... watch you play either. OR ask him to wait on you while you do something you know he has no intrest in -- it's the same thing.”

lol yeah I am sure his video games will never go completely away, but he also works at a video game store which may help him get him fix while he's out of the house (him andhis manager play during their lunch breaks)
I also play video games, but different ones than he plays and way less often. The thing with him right now is that he recently got an xbox live account, so he is taking advantage of what he payed for and likes to play against random online people. he is only playing halo 3 right now, so I know it's just because of his xbox live account. I don't want him to stop playing games completely, just cut down ALOT lol and I know he will. I am hoping he is more mature than some other guys and will give his daughter the attention she needs.

Quoting Heather M:“ I think its normal, Chris (my bf) did the exact same thing. He just wanted to spend a much time with ... [snip!] ... know you want to hang out with your friends, & i dont mind, but i want to see you more." I hope things work out for y'all.”

I agree!