I feel horrible!!

Ok, here's the deal. Since my wife has been pregnant she has had like a negetive sexual appitite. I know she feels horrible for not being aable to have sex and she tells me she is sorry but for some reason I still feel angry about it. I don't want to but I get frustrated really easily.   I want to be there to support her and I am to the best of my ability but I don't feel as close to her as I did before. Am I a horrible person?

Quoting Chris' Daddy:“ Ok, here's the deal. Since my wife has been pregnant she has had like a negetive sexual appitite. I know ... [snip!] ... to support her and I am to the best of my ability but I don't feel as close to her as I did before. Am I a horrible person?”

No...not a horrible person...just try and be understanding, some women when pregnant want sex all the time, some dont....

Quoting Chris' Daddy:“ Ok, here's the deal. Since my wife has been pregnant she has had like a negetive sexual appitite. I know ... [snip!] ... to support her and I am to the best of my ability but I don't feel as close to her as I did before. Am I a horrible person?”

Im telling u if she said she doesnt feel like it there is a reason and a GOOD one at that! I HATED sex when i was pregnant, I mean really hated it! There just somthings that change when ur pregnant and somtimes its very painful....in many areas. I LOVE sex when im not prego but with a baby in the oven it just not the same. U can get thur this together tho, with Blake I made sure I took care of him otherwise, lol get creative. Talk to her, tell her how u feel too. Dont worry tho couple weeks after baby my sex drive was back full speed!

Most of the time i DONT want sex. Its uncomfortable and alot of times im too tired to do it. In the beginning i had bad morning sickness and all the motions of sex would make me sick. U arent a bad person, its just hard for someone who is not pregnant to understand all teh inner workings of our bodies and our heads

i had zero sex drive when i was pregnant try not to pull away from her i know its hard when your frustrated but just try to be affectionate maybe give her a massage it may not lead to anything but it worked for me i found the fact my hubby was still willing to be affectionate with me really sweet and things just happened cause i didnt feel any preasure that i had to.

Quoting Mommy loves both of you:“ No...not a horrible person...just try and be understanding, some women when pregnant want sex all the time, some dont....”

I know, and I am supportive and all that. I don't yell at her or anything like that for it. I'm not that kind of person. I just feel seperated from her more than before because we don't have that sort of bonding going on. I am naturally a sexual person and I feel closer to her when we mess around and stuff like that. I don't know.   I'm at a loss here.

i wonder if you put on massive amounts of weight and deal with all that pregnancy entails- if you would still have a sexual appetite...

i think men CANT fully comprehend what we go through... not their fault but still... a lot of times we lose our sex drive because we feel gross

we feel fat.. tired... miserable.. hormonal... water retention... list goes on...

maybe keep up the compliments.. tell her how beautiful she is... buy her a new outfit... or take her to get her nails done... aide her in feeling beautiful and maybe she will feel better about herself and in turn, she might get in the mood...


or not... lol

Quoting Miranda & Arie XOXO:“ Im telling u if she said she doesnt feel like it there is a reason and a GOOD one at that! I HATED ... [snip!] ... get creative. Talk to her, tell her how u feel too. Dont worry tho couple weeks after baby my sex drive was back full speed!”

I know, and I understand that it is uncomfortable and alot of things are changing but alot of the time I have to beg for her to even cuddle with me. I guess it's because she thiniks I'll make it into something else but I don't want to. I just want to be close.

You're not a horrible person, just a person. Who doesn't like sex? Heck, who doesn't live it? However your wife is going through so much right now, both physically and mentally, that it may be just one of those fun "side effects" of pregnancy. Pregnancy has a lot of different effects on different people. I felt ridiculously unsexy while I was pregnant, while my husband thought I was the sexiest thing in the world because of being pregnant. Just try to be patient with her and talk to her about it but don't pressure her.If she's really, really not into it, try to spend time with her doing other things to fulfill both of your needs ro feel closeness to one another. Good luck!

Quoting Chris' Daddy:“ I know, and I understand that it is uncomfortable and alot of things are changing but alot of the time ... [snip!] ... cuddle with me. I guess it's because she thiniks I'll make it into something else but I don't want to. I just want to be close.”

Tell her that, tell her exactly how u feel. When we are pregnant there are SOO many things going on, not just what u she physically. Mentally she could be feeling like YOU dont want her....miss communication is always a bad thing. Tell her that you want to just hold her, are u guys sexually open, I mean can you tell her ur frustrated?? See with Blake, we are very sexually open. I got him a Gigi when I was prego, look into things like this....I know its different but BELEIVE me they help!

Quoting Chris' Daddy:“ I know, and I understand that it is uncomfortable and alot of things are changing but alot of the time ... [snip!] ... cuddle with me. I guess it's because she thiniks I'll make it into something else but I don't want to. I just want to be close.”

in that case tell her you want a cuddle no strings attached maybe rent a movie get some popcorn and cuddle up on the sofa but make it clear to her that thats all your after and mean it DONT then try and take it further, take it one step at a time a few cuddles on the sofa with a film maybe give her a cuddle while she is in the kitchen cooking or soemthing at a time when she knows that it cant be taken any further

Quoting Chris' Daddy:“ I know, and I am supportive and all that. I don't yell at her or anything like that for it. I'm not that ... [snip!] ... a sexual person and I feel closer to her when we mess around and stuff like that. I don't know.   I'm at a loss here.”

Why not just lay with her in bed, cuddle, kiss her tummy : )

Quoting Chris' Daddy:“ I know, and I understand that it is uncomfortable and alot of things are changing but alot of the time ... [snip!] ... cuddle with me. I guess it's because she thiniks I'll make it into something else but I don't want to. I just want to be close.”

I wish you could just talk to me about things like this! I love cuddling with you, but almost always you end up horny, and then I feel guilty for not feeling the same towards you. =/ I wish I could get in the mood more often but it's hard! When I look in the mirror all I see is fat, and stretchmarks, and cellulite. I hurt in places I didn't even know existed before. I just feel like crap! It's really hard to feel sexy right now.  

And I'm sorry I didn't cuddle last night...

No, I change my mind I'm not sorry. You freaking smoked weed.... AGAIN! I'm getting so tired of all of this John.

Quoting Chris' mommy!:“ I wish you could just talk to me about things like this! I love cuddling with you, but almost always ... [snip!] ... night... No, I change my mind I'm not sorry. You freaking smoked weed.... AGAIN! I'm getting so tired of all of this John.”

I know how you feel about looking in the mirror part...

And shame on you, John!!!!

Maybe if you quit smoking weed and tell her how beautiful she is then you might have a better chance.