re: I feel horrible!!

Quoting Chris' mommy!:“ I wish you could just talk to me about things like this! I love cuddling with you, but almost always ... [snip!] ... night... No, I change my mind I'm not sorry. You freaking smoked weed.... AGAIN! I'm getting so tired of all of this John.”

I know babe. I'm sorry.  I'm trying so hard to quit. It's one of the hardest things I've had to do. I feel like just endingit all ringht now. just finding a gun and BLOW!!!  

Quoting Chris' Daddy:“ I know babe. I'm sorry.  I'm trying so hard to quit. It's one of the hardest things I've had to do. I feel like just endingit all ringht now. just finding a gun and BLOW!!!  ”

you shouldnt talk stupid like that....

and if you did want to shoot yourself with a gun... make it a paintball gun... and let her be the one at the firing end of it... i'm sure it would make her feel better

Quoting Chris' Daddy:“ I know babe. I'm sorry.  I'm trying so hard to quit. It's one of the hardest things I've had to do. I feel like just endingit all ringht now. just finding a gun and BLOW!!!  ”

Oh wow...thats insane, is this a joke?

NO it's not a joke. I just wish I could make her happy but I don't feel like I ever get anywhere no matter howhard I try or how many time I tell her she's beautiful and gorgeous. I shower her with compliments all day and she just shoots them down.   What am I going to do?

Quoting Chris' Daddy:“ NO it's not a joke. I just wish I could make her happy but I don't feel like I ever get anywhere no matter ... [snip!] ... she's beautiful and gorgeous. I shower her with compliments all day and she just shoots them down.   What am I going to do?”

try not smoking weed... try buying her a new outfit... try a spa day for her...

it might not seem like a lot to you.. but thats HUGE when you are a pregnant woman

Quoting Sadie Pantycakes:“ try not smoking weed... try buying her a new outfit... try a spa day for her... it might not seem like a lot to you.. but thats HUGE when you are a pregnant woman”

I would loveyou go buy her a new outfit or give her a spa day but I can't affortd it. Working at mcdonald's doesn't allow you to do anything like that I can't even rent a movie to sit on the couch and cuddle her to. I know how much this all would mean to her but I'm soo tired all of the time because I have to go to school in the mornign mathen I get home and have to get reasdy togo to work and I don't get off work till one in the morning and if I wnt to do something with her after work she is too tired to even stay awake for me to talk to her or anything. I feel like I'm doing more harm than good and I feel she would be better off alone.  

Quoting Chris' Daddy:“ I would loveyou go buy her a new outfit or give her a spa day but I can't affortd it. Working at mcdonald's ... [snip!] ... me to talk to her or anything. I feel like I'm doing more harm than good and I feel she would be better off alone.   ”

you have to make the time...if you think this is difficult now, wait till baby comes... I know what its like to be young and starting out and the hours you have to work to compensate for lower wages... but you have to find a way

Quoting Chris' Daddy:“ NO it's not a joke. I just wish I could make her happy but I don't feel like I ever get anywhere no matter ... [snip!] ... she's beautiful and gorgeous. I shower her with compliments all day and she just shoots them down.   What am I going to do?”

Be patient. That's all you can do at this point. She is going through a lot. A lot of changes, a lot of adjustements and a looooot of different emotions. It's a lot. (lol).You need to do your best to try not to take it personally... try to remember that she is going through tons of body changes and emotional changes and I can't even put it all into words. It will just require as much understanding as you can possibly give and she deserves it. I've had the same type of lack of sex drive since I've been pregnant and it has been a big issue with my boyfriend and I. The less understanding you are,and the moresex focused you are... the worst you are going to make it.Chances are(here's hopin personally lol!) this is not forever. Like others have said you should try other things to feel closer to her, there's more than just sex!! And you never know when the sex will follow....

To quit smoking pot really isn't that hard. I did the day I found out I was pregnant. Just make yourself think if you continue smoking it will harm your baby. You say you can't afford to buy your gf anything because you work at McDonalds. Well if you quit smoking you will have some extra money. How do you expect to buy diapers? Are you in High School still or college?

There is A LOT going on with her body physically and emotionally it is hard enough for us to go through it all and try to understand it, so I really didn't expect my bf to understand it all. But I did explain to him how I was feeling each day and all that which helped.

I went from smoking at least a gram a day to quitting cold turkey as soon as i found out. Quitting is what you make it. If you wanna be dramatic, well then its hell, but if you wanna be mature enough to realize that its JUST A PLANT then itsa ll good. My bf quit too, and hes alive and kicking!
And about your gf. She is probably dealing witha lot right now with the pregnancy. I shoot my bf down alot and i am not always romantic with him but he knows its not that i dont love him or anything im just not all here these days.

Quoting Chris' mommy!:“ I wish you could just talk to me about things like this! I love cuddling with you, but almost always ... [snip!] ... night... No, I change my mind I'm not sorry. You freaking smoked weed.... AGAIN! I'm getting so tired of all of this John.”

im rigth there with you girlie! alot of times cuddling will end up to horniness for my fiance(I NEED TO REMEMVER WE ARE ENGAGED, sorry) and so i dont want to and his feelings get hurt, But at this point its starting to hit him that i have tried and it just hurts. Oh and the smoking thing, my fiance waited till a month after i found out to quit and man was i glad when he did!

Hey John (Chris' Daddy),
From what I've read from your comments the only real advice I can give you is to seek true help. I'm a born again believer (a Christian) and I know that God can help us through whatever may be going on in our lives. The only catch is that we have to allow him to work and give everything over to him. The process is really simple, all you have to do is truly accept him as your Lord and Savior and ask him for forgiveness of your sins, thank him for giving his only Son so that our sins can be forgiven, and put aside or walk away from those things that are sin. God will show you what is right and what is wrong and he will begin working in your life instantly. My goodness just after that step alone the weight that is lifted off of you is amazing. But, it doesn't stop there and it won't always be easy. God loves you and he wants you, your wife, and your son to be his and love him. Once you give your life over to him he will help you through every little and big thing in your life. Try to find a good home church to attend, somewhere where you are accepted, and when you walk in you know there is something different inside there than what you see in the world. Also try to get a Bible if you don't have one and begin reading the book of St. John in the new testament, that will be a good start. I'll be praying for ya'll.

Quoting brianamarie21:“ To quit smoking pot really isn't that hard. I did the day I found out I was pregnant. Just make yourself ... [snip!] ... really didn't expect my bf to understand it all. But I did explain to him how I was feeling each day and all that which helped.”

You see the thing is I don't buy pot. I haven't spent a penny on it in months. It's my bills that are taking all the money I have a 600 dollar rent to pay plus I have to pay for water and electricity and I'm the only one working. it's not that I wnat her to work cause I don't. I want her to have as much rest as possible. Making & an hour at mcdonald's doesn't leave any extra money for anything. I wish I could take her out and give the most wonderful night of fun in the world, but then we would have to find a parking lot to live in and a box for over our heads. Oh and I have a 277 dollar van paymnt every month. I don't know what to do, I can't get another job because I'm still in high school.  

Quoting Carm:“ Hey John (Chris' Daddy), From what I've read from your comments the only real advice I can give you ... [snip!] ... have one and begin reading the book of St. John in the new testament, that will be a good start. I'll be praying for ya'll.”

If he was going to seek help for quitting weed i think a drugs councelor is a better option than finding religion

I didn't say to find religion, because religion won't help. Yes, a drug councelor might be something to look into. However, I wasn't just talking about him quitting smoking weed. I was talking about all the other things he seems to be having problems with.