The one thing I HATE about having my baby in my teens, is having to depend on other people.
SO has tried so hard to get a job. He has no experince. I call around all the time. I check the hiring section in craigslist EVERYDAY. We fill out apps on snagajob.com. I am so smurfing sick of this.
He will be in college 8 hours a day starting in August. That smurfing sucks. If he had full time job and goes to college I will NEVER see him. Plus the only way to make it work is if I got a part time job too. Childcare isnt a problem because we have so many awesome family members. But I never wanted to leave her He is going through the Fire Acadmey so if we wait until he is done with that it will only be a year and half from august. But seriously... I wanna be out of my grandmas house by the end of THIS summer. Smurfrfrfmmyyyliiiifeeeee.</3
I smurfing HATE this :,( It is making me so depressed. My mom and SO tell me to just take it one day at a time.. but smurf that. I have a baby, we need to get out smurf together NOW. I dont wanna be bums. It doesnt seem like SO takes any of this seriously. He thinks I am being unrealistic. We were figuring about all of the expenses to live on our own last night and it was like 1200. I think we could do it we both had jobs, but... he is just no hurry to get out of here. I am so tired of this. Plus It doesnt help that his dad has offered for us to live with him until JW finishes school, telling him he doesn't have to pay no rent whatsoever. I feel he should be pushing him to get on his feet and take care of his family instead of offering for us to bums. I understand he wants him to finish school. But damn... We have a child now.
Being a bum isn't about living with your parents. If you live with them but are trying, then you aren't bums. If you are living with them and relying on them for everything and making no effort and having no care at all to fix it, then yeah.. that'd be a bum.
Staying with family so you can get on your feet =/= bum. Take the help while it's available and use it to set yourselves up.
Take the help. Get a job and save while he is in school. That way you'll have a good cushion and won't have to struggle. Do you knlw how many people wish they had support where they dont have to pay rent or chilcare?! Be grateful for the help and use it for what it is: an opportunity to get on your feet and get where you want to go. Good luck to you!!!
I just had a babygirl three months ago & me and my boyfriend are living on our own and its hard!We have no help what so ever with bills babysitting and not even emotional support. My mom kicked me out when i was 6 months pregnant and we were forced to get everything together really fast. I know how you feel about the fustration with your boyfriend but take my advice. Take all the help you can get and dont force anybody into doing something they dont want to. In the end it will be better, you will be happier and you would have had time to save so that when you do get your own place it will be everything you wanted.
Take the help. Getting school done before you head out on your own will help your family in the long run. If your bothing working on being successful parents and adults then your not bums if you were sitting on your butt living off your family then it would be a different story. As much as you want to start your life on your own with your family its better to just wait till your completely ready.