re: I hate men!! Hubby on strike!!

My hubby looks at porn...not often, but sometimes when I'm not not in the mood. I have no problem with it being used, as long as it's not EVERY DAY. As far as I'm concerned, it's just a fantasy and heaven knows with or without porn, I've had my share of those. Lol.

My husband and I are both in agreement that Porn has no place inour marraige. We watched it together a few times when we were dating, but it is actually not something my husband enjoys much. To him it was a "single thing" to use his words and so it was decided early on in our relationship that we wouldn't watch it. Nor do we go to strip clubs or participate in anything that WE feel is disrespectful to our spouse, our marraige, and our family. We understand that there are a million different views on this subject even within our own family and so we never look down on someone elses view if different than ours... There are many things that make certain relationships work or not and this is something that we decided didn't help.....

Quoting CuteMissCoco:“ My husband and I are both in agreement that Porn has no place inour marraige. We watched it together ... [snip!] ... There are many things that make certain relationships work or not and this is something that we decided didn't help.....”

That is how i feel also..we had an incident when my daughter was a few months old and i found porn on the internet history and i left and took my kid with me..stayed at my dad's for a few days. he thought i was overreacting but i took it as a slap in the face...he did it behind my back when i was at work ( i had our daughter with me) and i had told him that i wanted to have sex when i got home....guess he couldn't wait that long! So he knows how much it bothers me and has promised not to.

i'm sorry i'm not really judging, but that's just weird. I can see if you both agree to not looking at porn but if it's just one of you saying it then that totally isn't fair. looking at porn is healthy and can be healthy for a relationship.

Quoting SAMANTHASARAH:“ That is how i feel also..we had an incident when my daughter was a few months old and i found porn on ... [snip!] ... to have sex when i got home....guess he couldn't wait that long! So he knows how much it bothers me and has promised not to.”

It's good then that he respects your wishes... Even if it took to see how seriously you take it first... In our relationship it is both of us who were immediatly in agreement but had it been a one way street I would have expected it to still be respected... Some ppl feel very strongly about this subject each way, but only what happens in your home is what should matter to anyone....

Quoting USMCBabyOnTheWay:“ i'm sorry i'm not really judging, but that's just weird. I can see if you both agree to not looking at ... [snip!] ... it's just one of you saying it then that totally isn't fair. looking at porn is healthy and can be healthy for a relationship.”

Some people do not see looking at porn as healthy for a person or a relationship.. Do try to keep that in mind..

Quoting CuteMissCoco:“ Some people do not see looking at porn as healthy for a person or a relationship.. Do try to keep that in mind..”

well, it's definately not health when one person wants to look at porn and the other thinks its wrong. with your situation i can see how it's healthy since your man doesn't want to look at porn and neither do you, but i don't think it's right to freak out when your SO is looking at porn because it's better then going out and finding a real women (or guy) that will let them see them in all their glory. i can imagine that for some it gets boring seeing one and only one person naked for the rest of their lives...but like i said i'm not judging and we all have diferent veiws. my main point is you shouldn't hold it against your man for looking at porn...especially when he isn't getting any

I don't know why, but I've never had an issue with porn at all. It's not something that I take too seriously. My hubby and I looked at it frequently when we were dating and still do occasionally. I guess I can see why some people don't want it in their relationship, but I never have felt threatened by it or offended by it. I agree that every relationship is different and people should do what works for them and what they are most comfortable with.

Quoting The Sweetest Thing:“ I don't know why, but I've never had an issue with porn at all. It's not something that I take too seriously. ... [snip!] ... I agree that every relationship is different and people should do what works for them and what they are most comfortable with.”

i agree...i'd be out somewhere, come home and my hubby is looking at porn on the computer. i think nothing of it and i leave him alone to his business...i don't get offended...i'd rather have him look at porn then looking at some other girl on the street

Quoting SAMANTHASARAH:“ So my husband is on strike now according to him because of lack of sex!! I dont understand why he cant ... [snip!] ... he is pouting..I know i have to do it, but i am always sick and tired and it just doesn't get done. What is wrong with men??”

YES Men do suck! I guess look at the bright side. . . .at least you have a man who want to be with you. I wasn't so lucky. But either way I hate them all :-)
Guys can be so insensitive!!!!

Quoting USMCBabyOnTheWay:“ i agree...i'd be out somewhere, come home and my hubby is looking at porn on the computer. i think nothing ... [snip!] ... alone to his business...i don't get offended...i'd rather have him look at porn then looking at some other girl on the street”

Thats sort of our agreement as well. I really don't mind when he looks at porn when i am not around. i just don't want to have to see it myself. It isn't my things and i think that is fair. We live in Germany and after midnight they show a lot of topless women and some porn on tv. It was hard to get used to at first coming from Wisconsin and all. But like i said before he doesn't look at it when i am watching tv. When i am not around he can watch what he likes.

Quoting USMCBabyOnTheWay:“ well, it's definately not health when one person wants to look at porn and the other thinks its wrong. ... [snip!] ... veiws. my main point is you shouldn't hold it against your man for looking at porn...especially when he isn't getting any”

I think that is my hubby has to look at me only naked for the rest of his life he is lucky and he kinda agreed to it when we got married. My hubby tells me that i am hot and sexy and I take it as an insult for him to look at porn. If he wants to be a bachelor and have those luxuries...leave! I am his wife and his loyalty should be to me and our children. We have watched porn together before and i consider that different(i didnt like it, but whatever) when he sneaks behind your back that is decietful.