re: I hate men!! Hubby on strike!!

Personally I think your husband is behaving like a child. It is ridiculous to say the things he is saying whether it's been a week and a half or your whole pregnancy.. You are carrying and creating a child and it is not always comfortable and doesn't make you in the mood all the time. It doesn't matter your reason if you don't feel like doing it then too bad for him... As for bringing another woman into it... Wow is all i can say... He's got a hand if he is so distraught and this is just about acheiving an "O" and no longer about making love and pleasing his wife as well.. Then he should use that hand...

With my second pregnancy I had hyperemisis throughout the whole pregnancy.. Needless to say I did not feel like having sex, nor pleasing my husband... I had a 3 year old to care for during the day, worked full time as a medical assistant, and puked all day. When I finally hit the pillow I was ready to sleep and nothing more.. Of course sucked for my husband who felt no different physically but he was able after some talking to by me to relate and it didn't gobadly... And that actually made me more interested occasionally just becuase I wanted to please him.. Your's isn't even allowing you to feel that by his piss poor attitude...

This time I'm not as sick and have been craving it all the time, but if that weren't the case I would still expect my husband to support me... Your's should too! Talk to him.. Try what you know could help.. You know your husband try to get him to relate.. And if he won't and I were you... I'd just go on without worrying about him.. You have a lot on your plate as is  

Quoting CuteMissCoco:“ Personally I think your husband is behaving like a child. It is ridiculous to say the things he is saying ... [snip!] ... to relate.. And if he won't and I were you... I'd just go on without worrying about him.. You have a lot on your plate as is  ”

Thank you!! I have tried to explain but lets be real men dont get pregnancy!! It was much different with our first obviously i wasnt chasing around a child all day but i didnt have half of the complications i do now..so i had more energy to pleasure him! I have graves disease as well as graves opthalmology. I also have heart palpatations and history of pre term labor..so i have enough going on without scheduling in a hand job or blow job..because even if i want nothing to do with sex or if i tell him that it hurts because of my contractions he thinks i should still be able to give him oral or hand pleasure. I do tell him to use his hand and he states that it is getting old!! And when i do think about sex he always makes a snide comment about it and then i think well screw u!! and i don't sleep with him. It is not like he is the perfect husband either..I just wish he could try to be sympathetic with all the problems i have with this pregnancy and that i didn't get myself knocked up..ya know?

I understand.. And I think you are totally justified in your feelings! Men think it's great when your in the trying for a baby part, but then when real life hits and your making the baby and not feeling well then the fun and games are over and they dont' always handle it as gracefully as they should.. LOL

You have quite a high risk pregnancy..After my first child I had a heart ablation to treat my tachycardia and heart palpations.. I felt fine through my second pregnancy.. About 2 years after my youngest was born though I started having occasional palpations again.. Well now that I am pregnant with my 3rd I am having palpations all day! Even though i've had surgery! I am now on daily heart medication for it... So lame.. My question for you though is when you have the braxton hicks contractions does your heart go nuts and start palpatating? Mine does that now, never has before, and also whenever I have them I feel like an elephant is sitting on my chest and squeezing my lungs! It's horrible.. Like I am so worried about the real contractions later... omg, like their not bad enough this problem would make them horrible! Do you have any of this or something different?

Quoting USMCBabyOnTheWay:“ ahh!!! adult novelty distributor!!! got ya! i'm sure that job can get the blood flowin'!”

Lol. Oh yeah, definitely! It's great being a distributor because I get everything cheaper than retail! Lol. He totally pushed me into that line of work.  

just start talking about the baby moving around and how you can fel the baby real low. turns my husband right off ! He is afraid he is going to hurt the baby somehow or that he will feel it move wile we do it so he would rather not.

I think he's acting like a complete ass! I"m sorry he's not more understanding  

Quoting SAMANTHASARAH:“ So my husband is on strike now according to him because of lack of sex!! I dont understand why he cant ... [snip!] ... he is pouting..I know i have to do it, but i am always sick and tired and it just doesn't get done. What is wrong with men??”

During my 1st trimester I bled everytime we had sex, so the doctor said "NO SEX if you continue to bleed!" My hubby was upset, but delt with it surprisingly well. After about 8 wks I couldn't take it anymore. I NEEDED sex....so we tried, and everything went well. We've been humping like bunnies ever since...Lol!

If I were you, I'd be really upset. He has no right to be upset about 10 days w/o sex! Lol......imagine how he's going to be after you have the baby, when he has to wait 6 weeks!!!!!

Quoting CuteMissCoco:“ I understand.. And I think you are totally justified in your feelings! Men think it's great when your ... [snip!] ... later... omg, like their not bad enough this problem would make them horrible! Do you have any of this or something different?”

My heart palpatations are pretty controlled and i dont notice them too much except if i am resting then i can feel my heart pounding. my bh feel like the baby is going to fall out..a lot of pelvic pressure.

I think you should go to jail because you're apparently married to a 13 year old.  

Quoting SAMANTHASARAH:“ My heart palpatations are pretty controlled and i dont notice them too much except if i am resting then ... [snip!] ... if i am resting then i can feel my heart pounding. my bh feel like the baby is going to fall out..a lot of pelvic pressure.”

Well thats good that yours are under control! I don't get any pelvic pressure with mine, but all the other stuff.... I really do think its just me and heart related to my problem.. I can't imagaine how bad they could get by the end! I remember with my other two though late in preg. how the BH would hurt bad!  

Quoting SAMANTHASARAH:“ So my husband is on strike now according to him because of lack of sex!! I dont understand why he cant ... [snip!] ... he is pouting..I know i have to do it, but i am always sick and tired and it just doesn't get done. What is wrong with men??”

lol..im sry but this made me laugh! hey more bed for you lol. we all have to take care of one child we didnt have lol.my hubby gets the same way. but he normally gets his way after a while lol. ugh too hard to say no right now.

my finace hasn't went on stirke yet, but he has thrown a fit quite a few times about not getting any...and i tell him well you still have a hand and last time i check naked women were right at your finger tips on the computer! lol


as for your hubby i would tell him to go out and find somebody if it means that much to him, but don't expect to be able to get back in the house or see his kids ever again...if sex means THAT MUCH to him then there is his escape...now that's just hoping he doesn't take it seriously, but he needs to understand that you don't want to all the time and there are other ways he can handle that himself, hell tell him that my fiancee hasn't gotten any in a good month and a half, so it could be worse lol

Quoting Steff:“ my finace hasn't went on stirke yet, but he has thrown a fit quite a few times about not getting any...and ... [snip!] ... can handle that himself, hell tell him that my fiancee hasn't gotten any in a good month and a half, so it could be worse lol”

I do tell him to jack off but as for porn i am strictly against it especially in our home with our kids...he is just a big baby

Personally, I'd prefer him jack off to porn than sleep with someone else - kids in the house or not. Sex should have been written into those marriage vows when you got married if he expected you to provide him with it under those conditions. Most marriage vows are about love and commitment!

He is a real jerk for threatening to sleep with someone else. Exactly how is that comment supposed to make you feel in the mood on top of what you already have to put up with? He needs to step up to the plate and be a man, he already has one child and needs to set an example of adult behaviour!

Quoting Yonae:“ Personally, I'd prefer him jack off to porn than sleep with someone else - kids in the house or not. ... [snip!] ... with? He needs to step up to the plate and be a man, he already has one child and needs to set an example of adult behaviour!”

i agree with the first thing you said....OP you should really let him look at some porn if you aren't in the mood for sex. it's kinda mean to deprive him from both things. the LEAST you can do is let him buy a porn mag that he can hide from your kid (or kids). or even on the internet and then he can delete the history...if you kid is old enough to use a computer