Quoting floormat33:" I'm sorry this is long, but i really need some input. this is my 3rd baby( c-sectiion in 6 wks) . there ... [snip!] ... and left me for a month for a scank. i've never got over that and now this. what do i do? i'm tired of hurting and being alone."
Well how does he feel about everything? When you talk to him does he give you any insight into his emotional state? Is he excited about the baby?
If you physically initiate sex does he pull away? Masturbating is a normal occurrence with men and they kind of need to do it to let tension go, they use porn because they are very visual beings. But not satisfying you when you want some intimacy is a real problem. He might take the fact that you complain that you don't feel like it right then, so maybe taking his pants off and TMI rubbing on his member might let him know you really, really want it! If he pulls away, then it is time for serious talking.