I hate my BD right now

Most of the time.

He felt the need to call me at 4 AM and wake me up to talk about all of our issues. He starts out normal and nice, and gradually turns into a complete smurf. Somewhere towards the end of the conversation, I found out that this was because he was taking Xanax pills.

He flip flops between saying "I love you" and saying that I should kill myself. He flip flops between saying he's going to be a good dad and saying that I should go and get an abortion (at 27 weeks).

I'm in the beginning stages of accepting that I'm going to be a single mom.

How did you cope with finding out you'd be a single mom?
If you and your BD broke up during your pregnancy, did he decide to be there for your kid?

My BD did not decide to be there for my son. I tried to maintain a friendship with him after the breakup but he made it very difficult, so I stopped trying and he did not make an effort. He tried to contact me when my son was 2 but at that point I decided it would be in my sons best interest not to be involved with someone who flipflops like that, I figures if his 'father' truly wanted to be there I would get a court summons or something from the courts stating his desire. He has not done that. As for coping, I just did it really. There's nothing comfortable about it, you just have to decide enough is enough and move on. Although, I wont lie I spent many-a-nights laying on my bed crying lol.

I'm really sorry you have to deal with that. It's bull smurf and definitely stress you and baby don't need!

I go through the same thing with my BD, who is now officially my ex. I don't get what it is about douche bags but for some reason 4am seems to be their pre-programmed "let's lay it all out on the table and be smurfs" time. Only difference is I live with mine still because I don't have any money to move out, it sucks. They way I saw it when we broke up was that I had pretty much been a single mom the whole time our kids had been alive (he never helped out with them at all).

We were not together when I found out I was pregnant with our 2nd daughter. He didn't go to any appointments with me for her or anything until after I moved back in... my best friend went, and I liked it better that way. After the way he had been treating me it would have totally just ruined the happy part of prenatal appointments.

Quoting The Inconspicuous Raccoon:" Most of the time. He felt the need to call me at 4 AM and wake me up to talk about all of our issues. ... [snip!] ... finding out you'd be a single mom? If you and your BD broke up during your pregnancy, did he decide to be there for your kid?"

Just remember that a baby not having a father around doesnt mean that the baby wont be well taken care of or loved. It'll be hard on you, but in the end, you'll get to look back and say, "I did it.". And even better, you're the one that gets to hear the first word and see the first steps all for yourself.

Quoting Your friendly n00berhood :" My BD did not decide to be there for my son. I tried to maintain a friendship with him after the breakup ... [snip!] ... you just have to decide enough is enough and move on. Although, I wont lie I spent many-a-nights laying on my bed crying lol."

I'm pretty sure my story will end up matching yours.

All I really can do is move on.

Quoting Julia Schwartz:" I'm really sorry you have to deal with that. It's bull smurf and definitely stress you and baby don't ... [snip!] ... that way. After the way he had been treating me it would have totally just ruined the happy part of prenatal appointments."

The part about 4 AM being douche bag time made me LOL!

And yeah, from here on out I'll be taking my mother to my prenatal appointments. She'll appreciate it much more than he will.