In Need of Advice

I want to start potty-training my daughter, she will be 2 August 6th, and I actually did for a little over a week. However, I am not getting ANY support whatsoever from anyone; everyone keeps putting me down about it, so I took her potty away. Its been 2 days today, I took it away yesterday morning. She cried when I took it away, cried later that day when I wouldnt let her go, cried today when I wouldnt let her go. I feel like such a failure but I have low self-esteem and have a hard time doing things with support. Please, I need advice on how to potty-train her. Please help. Thank you in advance.

Quoting Caloia~Momma:" I want to start potty-training my daughter, she will be 2 August 6th, and I actually did for a little ... [snip!] ... have a hard time doing things with support. Please, I need advice on how to potty-train her. Please help. Thank you in advance."

If she wants to use it then why would you take it away. If she is ready then let her use it, who gives a smurf if no one else supports it.

I don't really understand why you took the potty away when she was crying about it. Wanting to go in the potty is a huge sign of readiness. Don't worry about anyone else, just work with her and do what you want to do. If she's ready it will work, if she's not then it won't and you can try again later.

does she want to be potty trained? I mean, cause that is not something to discourage...would i go all out and take away diapers? no. my 18 month old loves to sit on the potty, and i let her...here is 6 months to a year when i push a bit it will be alot easier for everyone. So I dont get it, unless you are making her use it all the time and she is not ready you are doing nothing wrong.

Let HER give you the signs, which it already sounds like you are doing. Keep offering the potty then soon enough it will just be a routine/habit for her

I probably shouldn't give advice, but if you and her are ready to potty train then so be it! Don't let anyone put you down about it. Support is always nice, but you don't need it. Your the only one potty training her anyways! Do what you feel is best.

what? your not letting her use her potty becuase of what other people are saying? what could they possibly say that would make you refuse your LO if she wants to try? who's everyone? friends? family? SO?

You're her mother and you know whats best for her SmUrf what other people think. Its your business. dont let your daughter down becuase you are afraid of what other people think, you are selling yourself short and also selling your daughter short.

There is so much support on BG and websites like it, I would say SmUrf OFF to everyone and focus on the only thing that is truely important. your baby girl needs you to put your mama pants on and go get her potty.

Could you imagine pooing and peeing in a diaper when you are crying to use a toilet? dont set your daughter back becuase of your own insecurities.

I started trying to potty-train her for about a little over a week. She would tell me she wants to go and run into the bathroom. Day before yesterday she started wanting to sit on it constently, so my grandmother who was against it from the beginning, started saying that she was too young to understand the urge and the difference between it and just wanting to play. She puts me down about my parenting all the time and makes me feel like crap. So I took the potty because I started doubting that she was ready, I doubt my own judgment. I am posting this because I want to know HOW to potty-train her. I already feel like a bad mother and a failure because I took her potty from her, and cried when I did, am starting to cry as Im writing this. I know I need to not listen to others, so thats not what Im asking for. Please give me advice on how to potty-train her. Thank you all again, for responding anything lol

Quoting Caloia~Momma:" I started trying to potty-train her for about a little over a week. She would tell me she wants to go ... [snip!] ... thats not what Im asking for. Please give me advice on how to potty-train her. Thank you all again, for responding anything lol"

Okay first of all if she is showing interest in using the toiled even if she isn't using it then you are doing good. Let her tell you what she wants to do when it comes to going potty.

Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" Okay first of all if she is showing interest in using the toiled even if she isn't using it then you are doing good. Let her tell you what she wants to do when it comes to going potty."

    absolutely! even if she just wants to read a book and sit there- let her! she needs to get comfortable with it. The urge to go will come super gradually, its better to have the groundwork already there- so when she's like "Oh, is this feeling telling me i need to pee?" she is more than comfortable b-lining it to the potty. make sense? your doing it right!!! dont listen to you grandmother. She might have her ways of doing things but she isnt God, she certainly isnt an expert either to be making someone second guess their own parental instincts!!!!

The only advice I can give you is to remain firm and committed to potty training her. I don't know exactly what you need other people's support for? Unless you mean that they're not consistent in helping your LO potty train, so it makes it difficult? I don't know. But regardless of the other people putting you down, you do what you need to do. She's capable of being trained, so stick with it. Don't take the potty away. No offense, but that just doesn't even seem like the logical thing to do. Just keep at it, make it exciting. Your LO will look to you for the support and encouragement. So don't worry about anyone else. Just do your part in helping her successfully potty train! Good luck 

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:</b>" If she wants to use it then why would you take it away. If she is ready then let her use it, who gives a smurf if no one else supports it."</blockquote>




EXACTLY!!! Don't discourage her. She is obviously ready and wants to use the potty. You may not have support. But remember your daughter looks to YOU as HER support.

Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" Okay first of all if she is showing interest in using the toiled even if she isn't using it then you are doing good. Let her tell you what she wants to do when it comes to going potty."

Okay, she hasnt discovered the difference in words from "pee" and "poopie", she says pee for both. But normally if someone else goes in there, she wants to go pee; or if someone mentions it, she wants to go. Sometimes she will say it out of no where and run into the bathroom to go. But I was told to ask her every hour, that seems like too long because I always seem to miss when she has to go by mere minutes. How long do I leave between intervals? How long do I let her sit there before I tell her good job and its time to get up? What do I do about going places, because she is scared of the "big" pottys?

Quoting MamaWells253:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:</b>" If she wants to use it then why would you ... [snip!] ... obviously ready and wants to use the potty. You may not have support. But remember your daughter looks to YOU as HER support."

   good point!

There are just as many ways HOW to potty train as there are people, I went for the laid back way. I let them go, whenever they wanted to...after awhile i enforced no diapers at home during the day I set a timer and they went every whatever minutes...after a while i did not need to anymore.......when i knew they were really able i flat out took the diapers away...this was over two months, they were 3.5 and 2.5 when all was said and done, the night diapers went away when i knew they were waking up dry...I would go this route since she is young, i would not want to do a "3 day" potty training thing.