which would be harder to deal with? i dont know why i was thinking about this.

i think suicide would be harder.

They are both very very different and destroy worlds. Neither is harder or easier.

Suicide.

to yourself?
or someone you know?

& I think murder would be worse.
suicide sucks cause they wanted to die and its sad but they control that.
but murder is somebody taking a life away that's heartbreaking.

I think suicide would be harder. Knowing someone I love was in so much pain they felt there was no other way out, would destroy me. If someone I love was murdered however, I'd be able to channel that grief into the pursuit of justice...

Harder?

Tough

With murder, there's the fact that someone else took it upon themselves to end the life of your loved one, and it was otherwise completely preventable. With suicide there's the fact that your loved one was in such pain and darkness that they found that was the only way out.

I really can't say, except that I think knowing someone else made that decision might cause more anger than knowing my loved one made the decision themselves to end their life.

C.

I think they're both equally hard to deal with. But murder would leave me feeling like I could never be safe again.

You know, even when I was suicidal I would've hated to be murdered. So I chose murder.

Murder would leave me with an controllable rage.

Suicide would leave me with an controllable sadness.

A friend of mine from high school was found dead a month before his wedding outside of a hotel room. His throat had been slit. It was ruled a murder. Until last month, it is now known to be a suicide.

I'm sure it was much harder on his fiance to believe that he ended his own life. And to be honest, even though we hadn't spoken in a few years, it was harder on me too.

ETA: I found out last month. I don't know when the people in charge said it was suicide...

Quoting MommyRu:" Murder would leave me with an controllable rage. Suicide would leave me with an controllable sadness. ... [snip!] ... years, it was harder on me too. ETA: I found out last month. I don't know when the people in charge said it was suicide... "

I think it would definitely be harder on me if my s/o committed suicide. I would feel abandoned, and devastated that he felt his life was no longer worth living.

Wow that's a toughie. I think murder would be harder, for me personally.

Quoting Meep:" You know, even when I was suicidal I would've hated to be murdered. So I chose murder."

ive been suicidal, i used to welcome murder. like id go outside st 3 am and walk around. the thiught of death made me happy, i welcomed it so much. i wanted to be murdered.

Murder because suicide implies that your loved one was overwhelmed with depression and I wouldn't want that for anyone I care about. I would hate knowing they were so sad that they decided to take their own life.

While murder would be just as devastating it wouldn't have the added fact that someone you love was in so much pain.

Quoting ❥peαch:" which would be harder to deal with? i dont know why i was thinking about this. i think suicide would be harder."

it depends on who it is and the circumstances.
I'd be able to deal with a person taking his life when he is terminally ill or a incapacitated much better than someone murdering a person.
BUT, it would be brutal to know that my child decided to take his/her life and i couldnt stop it from happeneing.

Both are devastating, but I know that murder would most definitely be harder for me to deal with.