re: I'm at my wit's end - desperate for help

Quoting *~Me&Boogaman~*:" My niece like baby powder sprinkled on her chest when she gets her diaper changed...she rubs it all over the front of her..lol. I guess it makes he feel like she's helping, and it keeps her still!"

Lol, that's cute.   I don't even own baby powder

Quoting Bad {MAM} -A- Jamma:" This is what we do too. You just have to keep at it OP, I know it's frustrating but try to maintain ... [snip!] ... you once he realizes he will never win. My LO did this for awhile but now he just lays there nicely and lets me change him. "

It may honestly be our only solution. How long did it take before he started to just lay there?

Readhead: I don't know that it could go any faster! If he'd just laid there it would only have taken a few minutes, max (slightly longer because he has on overalls that have to snap back up the legs, and a prefold and cover instead of just a pocket).

Natalie: Oh man, have I ever tried. Steve has done his best to help with this because he sees how much it frustrates me, and how it's driven me to tears more than once. He doesn't do anything different! I don't know if it's just because he doesn't get to see him as much because of work, or what?

Quoting kravenscookiejar:" I've tried that with my phone, and any number of other things that usually entertain him for ages, but ... [snip!] ... could possibly be more entertaining to him than fighting me. =/ I'd rather not pop him anywhere, but thank you for responding"

Understandable, he probably enjoys giving you a hard time, its like a game with some kids & the pop thing was because my sister(my nephews mother)told me to. I hugged him & cried with him afterwards because I felt so bad & I never did it again but i looked at it this way, popping him as lightly as I did didnt physically hurt him, it hurt his feelings where as holding him down can hurt him both physically & emotionally so I was stuck on what to do honestly :/

Quoting kravenscookiejar:" It may honestly be our only solution. How long did it take before he started to just lay there? Readhead: ... [snip!] ... He doesn't do anything different! I don't know if it's just because he doesn't get to see him as much because of work, or what?"

It was about a week or so, he has a bit of a stubborn streak LOL! I also noticed that the less I reacted (hollering, getting flustered ect) the less fun it was for him. This just happened very recently, my son is 14mos.

Quoting Bad {MAM} -A- Jamma:" It was about a week or so, he has a bit of a stubborn streak LOL! I also noticed that the less I reacted ... [snip!] ... I reacted (hollering, getting flustered ect) the less fun it was for him. This just happened very recently, my son is 14mos. "

Yep, and if Dad does it it is not a game...it is only a game if you can get mom to freek out....yeah, been there. Actuly DH has been there more recently.

Quoting Bad {MAM} -A- Jamma:" It was about a week or so, he has a bit of a stubborn streak LOL! I also noticed that the less I reacted ... [snip!] ... I reacted (hollering, getting flustered ect) the less fun it was for him. This just happened very recently, my son is 14mos. "

I will do my best. I just want to be consistent, and not fight. I hate fighting with him. A lot.

He's 20 months old and this is rather recent.

Thank you guys.

I feel a lot calmer now, and I have a plan.

Quoting kravenscookiejar:" I will do my best. I just want to be consistent, and not fight. I hate fighting with him. A lot. He's 20 months old and this is rather recent."

I know it really sucks, at the time it practically broke my heart but now diaper time is so much pleasant. You're gonna get through this, you're doing just fine, keep at it mama.  

Quoting Bad {MAM} -A- Jamma:" I know it really sucks, at the time it practically broke my heart but now diaper time is so much pleasant. You're gonna get through this, you're doing just fine, keep at it mama.   "

<3

You have no idea how much more normal I feel now.

could you maybe give him a snack while you change him? some goldfish or something?

Angela used to fight me luke crazy and I finally had to get mean and yell at her. She rarely fights me anymore. Austin I have to put my leg over his chest (not on him just hovering above him) because he tries to "help" Not good when it's a poopy diapers i'm trying to deal with.
Maybe putting your leg over him without actually putting pressure on will work?

OMG... you're going through EXACTLY the same thing I do with my little man!! And at 14 weeks preg, I can't really afford to have him kicking me in the tummy!
I sing to Rhys, "Old MacDonald" is a good one, as you can have as many verses as you need, but anything (even pop, etc) is fine so long as you know the tune and the words   ... Altho, if you do forget the words make up anything to the tune and they won't know the difference! ;)
I also bought a sort of strap that goes around the change table and has another strap that can be clipped around midget's waist from my local baby supplies store, and that was a God-send!! ... Altho for a while there, I actually had to strap him in, then leave him to scream for anywhere up to 5 minutes before I could actually get close enough to change him..
I also like to give him a bottle before I change him, or something to eat/drink as it takes his mind off of the change and makes him less ratty.. I also use the pull ups from time to time, altho I find that they don't hold quite as much as your average huggies nappy.. :/ But they are easier to put on when you're out and about!
All of these are merely suggestions and you'll have to work out what your little man likes - it could even be that he likes a particular song, rather than whatever you first think of - but the only thing I can tell you is DON'T GIVE UP!! ... Eventually it will get better, no matter what annoying habit your child has developed... They will eventually grow out of it, so just repeat that to yourself and an affirmation of sorts! And good luck!! Also, feel free to PM me if you want to have a whinge about it! Lol!  

Thank you all, I really appreciate the advice!