If you cheated...

If you cheated on your significant other, he never found out, nobody would ever find out, and you felt HORRIBLE about it...would you tell your significant other just so you could be honest with him even though he had no idea? (this isn't my situation, just reading other posts and am curious lol)..

If you knew all it would do would cause damage to your relationship, and possibly end it...but after doing it that one time, you KNEW in your heart of hearts that it was a mistake you would NEVER make again, would you still tell him just so he could know the truth?

To be honest, I don't think I would...but I could never cheat because I would have a guilty conscience and beat myself up...plus my husband is soo good to me so I have no reason to!

This sounds like a question from The Book of Questions down to the last word!! LOL JUST DONT CHEAT LADIES!! Address whatever issues are making you consider it and move on together. IF ITS WORTH IT. Or get out of the relationship

I could never cheat. But if I did...I would tell him. The guilt would kill me.

No I wouldn't. I think it would hurt him too bad.

I would tell, but I know from expierence that it's a lot more trouble to tell than to keep it a secret...

That's like asking if you would purposefully inflict pain on someone who didn't deserve it. The real reason that people "come clean" about cheating or other bad deeds is to make themselves feel better. If your SO didn't know and would never find out, why would you tell them? The only reason to tell them is because you are wracked with guilt and are trying rid yourself of that burden. It is selfish and would cause completely avoidable pain to someone else.

i have cheated on him at the beginning of the relationship, we didn't really talk then (our relationship is weird.) and i had to tell him. i felt horrible, and i know i did it because i was trying to push him away and make him dump me.

i could never cheat i love my perfect husband tooo much to ever risk hurting him and loseing him.

I cheated on my SO in the very beginning of our relationship. He ended up finding out 2 years later! So now i would definately tell my SO now. I denied it still when he asked me about it and he still doesn't know the truth.

Quoting Erica (MizAmERICA):“ If you cheated on your significant other, he never found out, nobody would ever find out, and you felt ... [snip!] ... cheat because I would have a guilty conscience and beat myself up...plus my husband is soo good to me so I have no reason to!”

I would never forgive my husband if he cheated - in fact, I'd leave him for good. So cheating for me is out of the question - even in a hypathetical situation such as that of this post.

Despite his alcoholism and our relationship and fighting, in cheating on my husband, not only am I doing it to him, but our son as well. I'd be cheating him out of a life he deserved. And I would NEVER forgive myself if he learned from me.

Quoting ♥ Hunter's Mama:“ That's like asking if you would purposefully inflict pain on someone who didn't deserve it. The real ... [snip!] ... with guilt and are trying rid yourself of that burden. It is selfish and would cause completely avoidable pain to someone else.”

I agree 100 percent...If I knew I would never do it again, why would I want to tell him and cause him that pain because I fucked up?

But if I ever did, I'm not sure I could tell him - I would NOT want to know if he did...I know honesty is the best thing and is KEY here, but there are some things that are better left unsaid.

I know that sounds bad and I know I will probably be "bashed" for saying that, but it's just my opinion...NOT that this situation would ever come up- at least not on my end.

But the guilty conscience in me would eventually tell him.

I read something like this in Cosmo once and they suggested not to tell your s/o if you felt badly for it b/c it would damage your relationship.


Personally, I would tell him. No reason to lie or cover up things, imo it only hurts your relationship more if you don't come clean.

Quoting Erica (MizAmERICA):“ If you cheated on your significant other, he never found out, nobody would ever find out, and you felt ... [snip!] ... cheat because I would have a guilty conscience and beat myself up...plus my husband is soo good to me so I have no reason to!”

I've only ever cheated once.

It was a relationship with someone I'd met online, and though we'd been together about four months at that point, we hadn't met in person yet.

I cheated on him with, uh, another guy from online ( ), there was NO way he'd ever find out, but I confessed to him the next time I talked to him on the phone, which was a couple of days later (he did not have internet at that time because he had just gone away to school. Which was the reason I cheated, because I was depressed that he had moved even farther away). He forgave me for it, though in the long run the relationship didn't work out because of the distance.

C.

Quoting n8ivebutterfli:“ I cheated on my SO in the very beginning of our relationship. He ended up finding out 2 years later! ... [snip!] ... So now i would definately tell my SO now. I denied it still when he asked me about it and he still doesn't know the truth.”

just curious, if you don't mind...how did he eventually find out?