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Quoting 5 blessings so far....:" if women dont have to defend their choice to abort then they shouldnt have to defend their choice not too......."

Slow your roll, it was just a question, not an interrogation FFS.

Quoting Link:" Really? Why is it ALL ABOUT THE BABY? Why isnt it about what the mom will go thru for her entire LIFE?   "

If she keeps it, what will she AND the baby go through for both their lives? She is already considering adoption.....it's not like I'm telling her DON'T keep it, put it up for adoption.   She said herself she's not considering abortion right now.

Quoting Link:" Really? Why is it ALL ABOUT THE BABY? Why isnt it about what the mom will go thru for her entire LIFE?   "

what about the women and girls who allow others to sway their decision & convince them to terminate when they really dont want to and they live w/the guilt and regret for the rest of there lives! If its a personnal choice what a woman does w/her body then it should be supported either way whether or not u agree w/the reasoning. Not just support the choice to abort........

Quoting Amber Herr:" Just because you think adoption isnt right for you or isnt all that great for you, (maybe you had a ... [snip!] ... please seek the advice from a professional regarding your feelings and choices as what to do, after you speak to your mother."

yeah I had an adoption experience. I also had an abortion.
Guess what... I didnt attach myself to my pregnancy with my youngest son, and guess what it tears me the hell up.
I have a 5 year old son. I am 25 years old. This girl is 15... NEWLY 15 at that. Why do you think that she has the guts to put a child up for adoption. Because I can tell you what, she will want to keep it. It takes a very head strong person to do adoption. You have to be prepared for it... It is a life long thing. That is what noone understands.

But whatever. Im done. OP GOOD LUCK.

ETA: I have a 5 year old that I am raising. I have another son who is 8 months old who I placed for adoption.

Quoting Ninja Shahinda:" It should be about the baby, the one having the baby herself, you're so right! This thread makes me so sad. "

It does me too.

Quoting Link:" yeah I had an adoption experience. I also had an abortion. Guess what... I didnt attach myself to ... [snip!] ... OP GOOD LUCK. ETA: I have a 5 year old that I am raising. I have another son who is 8 months old who I placed for adoption."

It's pretty ironic that the two people in this thread that are mentioning abortion have both given a child up for adoption. I WISH my mom would have allowed me to abort. Having a child at 15 screwed my life up, completely.

Quoting Link:" yeah I had an adoption experience. I also had an abortion. Guess what... I didnt attach myself to ... [snip!] ... OP GOOD LUCK. ETA: I have a 5 year old that I am raising. I have another son who is 8 months old who I placed for adoption."

just because one person regrets the choice to put a child for adoption but doesnt regret having an abortion doesnt mean all women will feel the same way but thanks for sharing part of your personnal experience......

Quoting Link:" it is not a baby yet... is adoption so much better than abortion? Dont give me "at least its living, has a good life" blah blah blah..... "

What if the OP isn't ok with abortion, though?

It's her decision to make. It isn't anyone's right to tell her she needs to abort any more than it's people's right to tell someone they shouldn't abort.

Quoting 5 blessings so far....:" just because one person regrets the choice to put a child for adoption but doesnt regret having an abortion ... [snip!] ... having an abortion doesnt mean all women will feel the same way but thanks for sharing part of your personnal experience......"

I never said I regret it. I never really said ANYTHING on the subject but what I did.

Quoting Maeby♥:" What if the OP isn't ok with abortion, though? It's her decision to make. It isn't anyone's right ... [snip!] ... It isn't anyone's right to tell her she needs to abort any more than it's people's right to tell someone they shouldn't abort."

But nobody is telling her what to do here. We're giving options and telling our experiences(ok, well one of us did).
Just like it's my opinion that at her age abortion would be a better option. I'm not, nor would I ever tell her she had to get one, nor would I assume to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that having the baby would mess her life up.

You just have to be open with all parties and explore ALL of your options. Best of luck.

Quoting Link:" I never said I regret it. I never really said ANYTHING on the subject but what I did. "

i apologize then, i mistook....''tears me the hell up inside'' for regret.

Wow , this is deep , my mom had her first kid when she was 12 , her second at 14 , third at 16 , fourth at 17 and finally me at 18 . We all have different fathers ,and they were all taken away from her , except for me . She was a ward of the state , so when she turned 18 she got to keep me , . I wanted so bad to be a better person for my mom because of her past . But I eneded up getting pregnant at 14 . The first time I lost my virginity , I couldn't even tell her , she found out by taking me to my physicall and the doctors told her I was 12 weeks , and even then I was tellingimg my mom I don't know how it happend because iwas a virgin . My mom was extremely hurt , but we got threw it and it brought us closer . I had an abortion . And it was not something that I regret , why ? Because I am now turning 19 soon , and I just graduated from high school . I'm getting married next month . Everything happens for a reason ! Where would ihave been right now if I would have had tht baby then ? I wasn't ready then . But I am now. ,NO I'm not saying for you to get an abortion , I'm just telling you that I've been thru something similiar and came out alright . I wish u lived close by , so we can talk in person , or even on the phone . Talk to your mom . Soon . . .

I am trying to take in all of this as support. I really am, and I am trying to understand it all. But to be honest... I AM only 15 and I grew up in church and I know for a fact that abortion isn't an option. And I said I had considered adoption. Whether it's too soon or not, I'm having a baby! And it might hurt like hell and cause some damage but the BEST I can do is be the best damn mother I can be. I've read all the comments and I thank everyone for their suggestions and support and help.!!! I Respect every woman here! And I respect the decisions yall have made and the sacrifices and yalls experiences. I asked for help and support and everyone has done that and I thank you! If you have put your experiences on my topic.. I thank you for the help. And I'm sorry if it had caused some dissagreements with other women. I respect what you have gone through.. Again, thank you for the support and I'm sorry if anyone was affended by ANY comments...

i dont want to start drama and i am not judging, this is an honest question.
how can your whole family not use birth control? does it go against your religion or something?

as far as the question of your post goes...you are very young, you should talk to your mother ASAP and talk about your options. i know you said abortion isnt for you, but maybe you should see what your mom thinks.
from the sound of it she seems to have to support a lot of people (i am assuming, i am sorry if i am reading this wrong)