can you fake patience?

i have none, my husband has tons. i need to learn to be more paitent, but is that even possible? i always thought this was a trait you either have or you dont, anyone know how to LEARN paitence?

I've gotten better over the years... but I still suck. lol

Yeah, if I make myself talk quiet and slow then I start to feel more patient. It has to be something you're constantly consciously working on though, imo.

When it comes to parenting I think patience can be a choice. I can get impatient and angry or I can take a deep breath and suck it up. I like to think of myself as mostly patient but like everyone, I have my moments.

my patience has gotten a lot better with each child i have. i am 1 million times more patient than DH, but i think after having my youngest (he was born with a condition that has required a LOT of doctor visits and his frustrations), my patience has improved incredibly. just work on some techniques. a lot of it is your mindset.

i have never been paitent, at all. i hate it about myself. now that i am a parent, i want more than ever to be patient. and i seem to be more patient w some vs others, like im patient prejudice or something. lol. i am a nice, good person, but this is somehting i severly lack

Being a mom has made my patience soar.


I had none before my daughter, lol.

Quoting --Mary--:" my patience has gotten a lot better with each child i have. i am 1 million times more patient than DH, ... [snip!] ... visits and his frustrations), my patience has improved incredibly. just work on some techniques. a lot of it is your mindset."

what kind of techniques?

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Being a mom has made my patience soar. I had none before my daughter, lol."

really?? why do you think that is, bc i think being a mom is challenging my patience more.

I constantly fake it..... I'm the most impatient person in the world but no one can tell unless I'm stressed or excited about something.

I usually keep my mouth shut in times when patience is needed. I'll count or pray (the rosary usually) in my head. Works like a charm.    

I have that issue myself. I am NOT patient at all, but I'm a freaking Patience Saint with my son.

Quoting Mandy Evans:" really?? why do you think that is, bc i think being a mom is challenging my patience more. "

No clue lol.

Maybe because I know the more upset I get the more upset she does. If I just relax, she relaxes and it makes my life a million times easier.

Also, there's nothing I can do to get away. She's my daughter always, no matter how impatient and frustrated I get, so it's just easier not to get that way.

I'm not very patient at all. & Sometimes it's hard to fake it in front of my son. What I do when he's testing my patience is just breathe really deep in & out & think of something else while he finishes doing whatever it is that's taking him so long, haha.

Quoting Mandy Evans:" what kind of techniques? "

it depends on the situation and what is frustrating you. taking deep breaths, walking away for a minute to just take a break, etc. remember, a lot of things that frustrate you won't change by losing your patience. i used to lose my patience QUICK when my oldest was a baby and he would wake up early and after a night that i barely got any sleep. but what good is that going to do me? now i can wake up to get my youngest bottles all night (about 3-4 times), or stay up with him all night if he isn't feeling well, and still go into work at 5 am and not be angry or frustrated. it sucks, and i will be tired, but i did what i had to do--getting upset wouldn't help. i just try to make the best of things, even if it's a crappy situation

Quoting --Mary--:" it depends on the situation and what is frustrating you. taking deep breaths, walking away for a minute ... [snip!] ... but i did what i had to do--getting upset wouldn't help. i just try to make the best of things, even if it's a crappy situation"

wow, that is very impressive and inspiring!