Quoting Lady [BFP!]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Stu Padasso:</b>" Most men find it difficult to voice their ... [snip!] ... understands and feels the same grief over the loss of their own child. I'm wary to give him the benefit of the doubt is all."
Your experience and her experience are not the same. Also, if he was sweet before the miscarriage and a "dick" after, then it sounds like your miscarriage probably had a huge impact on him as well.
Like I said, men don't know how to voice emotion as well as women do. It could be extremely difficult for this woman's SO to deal with the miscarriage every day as well and I'm sure it hurts even worse to see the woman he loves as an emotional wreck.
There's no right or wrong way to act in this situation because it will have a different affect on everyone involved. They should both go seek some counseling, maybe he would feel more comfortable talking to someone else because the pressure to keep it together for her is off.