re: I'm NOT excited ( long vent) *UPDATE*

Quoting Rach Lynn:“ Danielle, this will all change the second you hold your little baby in your arms! Your heart is going ... [snip!] ... my life without Noah in it! I was never getting married, and I dispised the thought of children! But they truly are a blessing!”

I'm hoping I will feel that way too..
I should have included this in my OP but I forgot.. I'm afriad I'm not going to have that "bond" the second I see him, you know what I mean? like I'm not going to have love at first site..


I think I'm going crazy. I don't even know if I'm depressed...

Quoting daniellefm♡:“ I'm hoping I will feel that way too.. I should have included this in my OP but I forgot.. I'm afriad ... [snip!] ... what I mean? like I'm not going to have love at first site.. I think I'm going crazy. I don't even know if I'm depressed...”

Trust me, the feeling comes! You can't help it! No one can!  

And I am not a doctor, hun but to me it sounds like depression or a bad case of withdrawals from the presc. drugs! You are trying to cope with a major change taking place in your life! it's hard to realize! But you already know, there is no turning back!

I'm bawling, I give you props for being able to say what you have. For weeks I've felt the same way but couldnt bring myself to say it, I even found myself considering adoption. I thought about driving my car into oncoming traffic.
It doesnt help that when youre pregnant you cant just drink until everythings a blur, or get high and sleep all day.
But I try to make myself think of it this way, your baby is saving your life! Everyday you dont take drugs and you be safe for your baby it just makes you one more day sober, one more day healthier.
Today they told me he may be here in a few weeks   I just can't believe it. I'm supposed to have 7 weeks left.
Just thinking about it makes me start to feel like I could have a panic attack.
You're not alone with your feelings, I just want you to know that....

My best friend told me that you might not feel a bond instantly. With some it just takes time. It might be as soon as they put the baby in your arms, or days later when you are settled getting the hang of things.

Whenever your doctor asks you how you have been feeling I would mention any concerns you may have about normal pregnancy stuff and say something like, "I haven't had a lot of energy lately, I've been crying a lot and haven't been too excited" and just see where the convo goes.

have u thought about adoption. just cuz ur pregnant doesnt mean that ur stuck with caring for the baby. if u feel u arent ready theres NO reason u have to keep it and be a parent. if ur not ready then maybe its something to think about. its never finally till the baby is handed over..u dont have to deside until after the birth either. but if u feel like that and really think that u wont beable to do everything u wanted to do then maybe its something to look into.

Quoting 2 weeks till BLUE or PINK:“ have u thought about adoption. just cuz ur pregnant doesnt mean that ur stuck with caring for the baby. ... [snip!] ... if u feel like that and really think that u wont beable to do everything u wanted to do then maybe its something to look into.”

I've thought about it, I could never do it. I can't imagine going through with that...plus my fiance wants to keep him, he's really excited.

Quoting daniellefm♡:“ I've thought about it, I could never do it. I can't imagine going through with that...plus my fiance wants to keep him, he's really excited.”

i know that i feel that when i see my little man that my heart will melt but i'm not going thru what u are going thru. so for any of us who are happy to say that is not guarnteed to be true. because it might be so overwhelming for you that u might not feel anything. with my first i had no clue what to do. they placed her my chest and i was just looking like what. they were like hold ur baby. when i stayed in the hosp i put my baby on a pillow beside me. i didn't hold her alot. i just had no clue. her father and i had argued alot during the pregnancy and he threatened me and the baby causeing me to go into labor. at that point i just didn't knowhow to feel. so just be prepared to feel one of two ways. im not gonna tell u anymore that when u see ur baby ur going to be so happy only because ur so far long now and u still feel depressed. thats why i get the impression that this is not just normal pregnancy hormones. then i again all this might melt away when u hold him. but just prepare urself for either reaction

I think the way you are feeling is completely normal...I'm not going to lie...your life is definitley going to change, but only for the better...as cliche as that sounds lol. I always wanted my own kids, but I hate other peoples kidslol...now that my son is here, he amazes me everyday and it is a love like no other. But I still hate other people's kids lol...and when my son was first born I didn't have that immediate "love" for him...I didn't know him...sure he was mine, and I was excited to see and hold him but the emotions weren't too deep.. I was very protective over him and all that, but it wasn't an immediate love.

While I was pregnant I wanted to know how he looked, what it would all feel like, and I was excited but I never had this crazy "love" for him..I mean I guess I would say that I did love my son, but I have a love for all of my children that I haven't even conceived yet because they are my children, they are part of me, and it's just something I feel...But once my son got here, the love just grows and grows and grows...Trust me, you can def do it and things will get better. they might get worse before they get better once he gets here because of sleepless nights, but let him smile at you for the first time and you will forget all about it!

Hey Danielle,

You do sound depressed and I think it's really important you have a chat to your dr.

There are ways to treat it, you may need a combination of medication and counselling. Remember you are about to make a huge adjustment in your life, and you've never done it before so no wonder you are a bit overwhelmed. It's ahrd too if your mum is telling you to get over it. Depression doesn't work that way, you feel how you feel no matter what anyone else says, it's not something you can just snap out of.

If you are worried you'll abuse the medication your dr may place you on a specific type that is non habit forming or you can give the packet to someone you trust and they give your dosage each day. Sounds a bit silly but I had to do this woth sleeping tablets..I was put on a bad one and accidently overdosed because I couldn't remember taking the dosage before. luckily I was okay but I had to give the medication to my sister and if I was having a bad day she would give me one dose...

Just an idea...I hope things work out for you.

hey girl!
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im sorry your having such a hard time. :[
i cant really say that i know how your feeling. the only time i wasnt excited, was when i found out my babys father had a girlfriend, & then for some reason i blamed it on the baby. but that lasted about a day, & i got over it.

it sounds like depression to me, i hope you talk to your doctor about it.
when you cry, try to think about what your crying about.

when i cry, its for stupid reasons, lol.
like, i want root beer & cant get any.
or my mom told me directions & i didnt understand her.
or i dont want to go to work, lol.

i think thats how you know if its just because your pregnant, or because your depressed.
but im not a doctor, & i dont think ive ever been depressed, so i could have no idea what im talking about.

but i would talk to your doctor, because if he thinks that you might get ppd, then he can go ahead and put you on medicine in a couple of weeks, so by the time the baby is born, you will be fine & wont be affected by it.
i hope it all works out for you girl!
let me know what the doctor says & how your appt. went.

Quoting daniellefm♡:“ okay so I'm going to be 36 weeks tomorrow and I just CANNOT seem to get excited about the fact that my ... [snip!] ... I have to talk to, no one else can relate to me at all these days... so thanks for reading this, if you've made it this far.”

I was excited for my baby, but I was addicted to coke, x, speed, before I got pregnant and I stopped cold turkey when I found out I was pregnant and it was pretty bad at first. I still dream about them and I'm still like oh well I'll just do it sometimes and tehn im like wtf am I insane? I know I wont do them again, and I regret ever doing them because I think about doing them a lot its annoying. I also had an ED before I got pregnant and It was really hard for me to start eating and not throwing it up. I think things will be okay though. I also have PPD and I have to take meds for it, so it isnt THAT bad :/ I hope youre okay

Awww I'm sorry your feeling this way. I know what you mean about the depression though I've had my history of that so I know how you must be feeling. I can tell you one thing though I know you love your baby because you are doing everything to not hurt him. By not taking those pills and you decided to keep him. I know its very hard being young and all but I'm sure you will come around once he gets here, its just everything piling up on you all at once an dits a lot to take in. You will be fine and a good mommy. Yes I'm sure hormones aren't helping you at all just hang in there ok  . I'm 26 and sometimes I get bouts of anxiety and I get very scared about everything that comes with motherhood because its a new journey that us new moms are unfamiliar with. Everything will get better ok and your not alone in this you have your SO and family, of course the females at bg as well.

Also like other girls say talk to your dr about medication after he is born. Especially if you have PPD it does NOT mean you are weak, medication does help. At least for a few months and then they can ween you off so you can get over the bout of depression or however long you may need it.

i think its normal i found out i was pregnant right after i turned 18 too and definately didnt want kids i was pissed i had just become old enough to do all the shit i wanted to and i was trapped again i iddnt want a baby i wanted to drink and smoke and party....i felt so forced to grow up that i ended up taking it out on my boyfriend and pushing him away and now hes gone forever and i wish i could go back but i cant....the feeling goes away trust me when the baby is born you think all the fun is over but its not you can still go out and have fun people that love babies love babysitting babies and it sounds like you have a super supportive family

I think you need to talk to your doctor too. I feel like my opportunities are GONE now that I'm going to be a mommy. I've even got my college degree and I'm 24 and don't know what I will do with my life now.

You def. need to talk to someone about it. I'm glad that your bf knows you are upset and takes you seriously about it.

Good luck girl. I hope that the minute you hold your baby that you feel some relief. If not, then maybe it will come with time.

I still wonder what I will do day to day dealing with a baby. I pretty much lived off xanex & cigarettes. Now I'm clean but I just hope I can stay that way after the baby gets here.