get over jealousy?

Jealousy has always been an issue with us, my boyfriend and I. I have had many obvious reasons why I should have left before I got pregnant. But he's different now and I am totally noticing how he looks at me when another girl is around, wondering if i feel threatened or not. Dont get me wrong I love who I am and I think I'm beautiful though I dont wear makeup but I'm no eye candy that goes to bars or walks around downtown with a gaggle of friends. Well, He's a hot guy. Ryan Gosling's brother, I say, and im not kidding. Girls flock to him in all sizes and colors, boyfriends or not, he's one to look at. He's a sweet guy, soft heart, and loves to cook....and gives me foot rubs whenever I want, plays guitar... its hard to turn away from him! I hate when we fight, but I usually start it because I feel like I've never got the whole story from incidents in the past that I'm still bringing up trying to get him to slip up or say something. It worked once. So thats why I feel I need to keep bringing smurf up. Anyway, I'm trying to let go of all the jealousy now that we're having a kid but good god is it hard. And he gets to questioning me a little when I go somewhere and hang out with friends too, but not nearly as much as i question him. I feel like our past is standing in the way of the wonderful future we could have, and I'm not letting it happen for this old reason. Id love to let go and be madly in love with him all over again, but the past kind of ruined that spark and trust. I would love to just trust him now and start fresh. Let the past stay in the past. But those memories haunt me and if i ever dream about him, he's with another girl younger than me..and im only 24. jail bait does piss me off lol So with that in mind, girls are vicious and powerful..all that magical stuff we can do works to get a guy, but stop trying to get a guy thats taken! i hate it when i see another female using my same techniques against me!  

You sound like my fiance and I. We were best friends for 6 years before he and I got together so we had a very strong bond from the beginning. After I got pregnant though some things happened and I did not trust him at all!! Once our daughter was about 6 months old I started dating someone and he instantly changed and since I was still in love with him I decided to give it another try. At first it was very hard because I would always out of no where think about the past or I would see things that would remind me of it and it would cause us to fight. It went on for a few months and although that has happened 3 years ago sometimes now I will think about it or have dreams and it makes me upset. But he has done a lot of making up and proving to me that he does love me and I am the only one he wants to be so that has helped a lot! But most of all one day I sat down and thought about it. I decided to give him another chance and we won't be able to move on and be happy if I don't let the past be in the past! So now when I do randomly think about the past or have a dream I make myself think of the last 3 years we have been together and how amazing it has been. It gets your mind off of the past and you actually start to feel good and get happy! It's also good to talk to him about how you can feel sometimes instead of talking about it once you are upset. For instance if you do feel akward when other girls around tell him about it and let him know some things he could do to help you feel more comfortable like putting his arm around you, holding your hand, etc. Trust is a very easy thing to break and a very hard thing to get back but it does take 2 people to work at it but if you do you guys can get over the past and live in the present and move towards the future!

Quoting Amber Waves:" Jealousy has always been an issue with us, my boyfriend and I. I have had many obvious reasons why I ... [snip!] ... guy, but stop trying to get a guy thats taken! i hate it when i see another female using my same techniques against me!  "

you got to let the no trust thing go....if not it will not work....remember this. if he wants to cheat he is going to cheat no matter what you say or do....just hope he loves you enough to stay faithful