I am watching My Big Fat American Gypsy Wedding and there is a woman about to marry her first cousin. I thought that was illegal, but the question is what is the closest that you would marry someone (assuming you already fell in love with and found out you were related to). I would end it then but that is just me.

ETA I meant to add not at all as an option but pushed enter too soon.

Quoting Mama Rice:" I am watching My Big Fat American Gypsy Wedding and there is a woman about to marry her first cousin. ... [snip!] ... someone (assuming you already fell in love with and found out you were related to). I would end it then but that is just me."

I couldn't really marry anyone that I knew was actually related to me... But If I had a gun to my head, I'd choose the farthest distance possible.

So far back I don't know we are related!

I wouldn't marry a cousin. But I could care less who anyone else wants to be with.

Yuck. Yeah I'd do the same as you and end it! One of my biggest fears was that I had a half brother out there and I'd meet him and fall in love with him. Thank goodness SO is from Nicaragua and there is NO WAY he's my half brother. LMAO.

I wouldn't. Period. Eww.

I guess my third, since I have no idea who they are. At all.
My first cousin's are in their 50's and my second cousins I always thought of as immediate family- since they were my age.

If I found out I was related to someone, I'm not talking about related from 100 generations ago, then I just couldn't do it. SO and I share only Irish nationality and I'm only a tiny part Irish lol But my aunt married her 3rd cousin.

I've been with my husband more than 10 years now, and we're done having kids. If it came out now we were related, I really don't think I'd care. The "damage" has already been done, and if we gambled, we won. The connection would only be DNA, there's no familial connection.

If I'd found out before we got married... I dunno. I don't have the same DNA issues other people do. I've read up on the subject, it's believed that the people you are raised with as family when you are young you develop a sexual aversion to, but if you don't grow up with someone as family, then it's not really different than a stranger. Someone I'd already been involved with, was in love with, and found out we were related? I think they'd have to be my brother or uncle or something for me to break it off.

C.

If i had a choice i obviously wouldn't marry anyone related to me... I chose the furtherest option away from my direct family lol! 3rd cousin.

My uncle married his 1st cousin - they had 2 kids together & then divorced.

I didn't know & my cousin & I hung out all the time - being the same age & having the same friends while living together (we'd just moved countries & were staying with them), we didn't have much choice... one night my uncle came into the room we were all in & freaked the hell out.

My cousin & I were laying on the fold out futon thing watching a movie - with separate blankets etc, my younger cousins were on the bean bags watching with us too.

My Mum & Dad came in & said we weren't allowed to be in the same room together alone anymore & had to have the doors open at all times..

I was like   uhhhhhh ok, what the hell brought this on? ... when they told me about my uncle marrying his 1st cousin etc i started yelling how sick it was etc hahahaha!!

They tried to hush me but i was honestly so angry that they thought i was sick enough to make a move on my 1st cousin... MY COUSIN  

Sheesh!!

I'd marry my first cousin if I was already in love with him etc. Honestly it's not a huge deal IMO. I have a cousin who married her cousin. Eh.

Quoting God:" I've been with my husband more than 10 years now, and we're done having kids. If it came out now we were ... [snip!] ... with, and found out we were related? I think they'd have to be my brother or uncle or something for me to break it off. C."

I saw something about this on TV last night. Wish I could remember because it was extremely fascinating. It showcased a woman who had never known her father and they started corresponding when she was in her 30s I believe. When they finally met she realized she had feelings for him. A while later she confronted him and he had felt the same.

Science dictates that had she grown up knowing him she would have that aversion. She didn't though so when she became attracted to him it was as if they were two strangers.

Quoting Raptor Jesus:" I saw something about this on TV last night. Wish I could remember because it was extremely fascinating. ... [snip!] ... him she would have that aversion. She didn't though so when she became attracted to him it was as if they were two strangers."

I get why most people say "eww" 'cause when you think of family, you think of your own family, and for 'normal' families, "eww" is the proper reaction.

I can separate the concept in my head, and I don't think DNA automatically = family.

C.

Eh. It's only gross if you were raised together, IMO. And that would be gross whether you're blood related or not. My brother and I are blood cousins, but raised as siblings. I'd vomit in my shoes if anyone suggested we marry. And yet I wouldn't really think a whole lot of marrying someone with the same degree of blood relation who I may have only met a few times, if ever.

I guess I look at it from an intellectual and historical perspective.

Most of our ancestors were related to each other. Before long-distance travel was available to the public, just over 100-150 years ago really, most people never lived more than a few miles from the place they were born, no matter what part of the world they came from. And when you factor in class restrictions on marriage, and that most people before the industrial revolution were in small, rural villages rather than suburbs or large cities, it stands to reason that cousin marriages were common, if not the norm in some degree.

I can trace my dad's family back 12 generations and it's a little eerie to see someone's name twice on different sides of family trees, but it does put it into perspective regarding cousin marriages.