re: Failed Kingarden

Quoting Christy61607:“ Well I am sorry for calling you a Bitch. well here is some of things i have been doing to help work ... [snip!] ... it does mess with them alot in school i am not blaming all of that on that but but i do believe it does play a big row in it.”

THIS is a much more commendable attitude        
Its cool, I've been called worse than a bitch in my lifetime   My number one concern was trying to help you out here... it happens to be a topic that I am fairly passionate about- and I keep thinking that maybe if I can share what I did,and what I learned and what my parents had to go through... maybe it can save another kid from the fate of being "the bad kid" because it sucked being that kid and I know it first hand. And just so you know, your child is probably going to be one of the smartest kids in his class, and there will be teachers who see it and run with it, and there will be teachers who don't know how... I never had grey area with any teacher I ever had. I was either loved and they enjoyed the creativity, or hated and they loathed the challenges I presented.... My parents spent at least 3 hours a semester in parent teacher meetings... good and bad- and that was how a lot of things became resolved for me. Even the teachers that loathed the challenges I presented, and didn't care much for me, I had to be held to task with. There was no blaming them- I was different and harder to work with sometimes... but good efforts had to be made on my part. And failure was unacceptable in my parents house- I had to try, and I had to be accountable, not the teachers.

The pennies thing is a pretty good idea   how did he respond to it? I am one of those people who responds to shiny, fuzzy or bright colors (yeah, it sounds childish, but thats how I've always been) so when it was discovered that the best way to keep my attention was to keep the scenery changing (IE, my flashcards were never color coded... they were always multiple colored and the markers were always bright and varied) that helped a lot- SO, if he responded to the counting thing, maybe hitting up a dollar store and picking up a couple packs of those "little green army men" or those monkeys in a barrel that are all brightly colored or a pack of really cheap cars or whatever he's into- could help too.
With the army men, you could even set it up where he's in a pretend takeover.. a war! and he has to take prisoners- have him count his captures... make a story with it...
Stories were good for me when I was younger... it let me excercise my imagination, and put into a practicle use what I was studying. For this reason, I was muuuuuuuuuch better in word problems in math than looking at regular numbers on a page. I realize he's 5, but saying "Hey TJ, my army is taking over your side of the table, and I am taking 3 of your men as prisoners! How many men does that leave you? How many men do I have including my prisoners? OH NO! you are striking back with your army and I'm losing 7 of my men!! How many does that leave me? Now how many do you have?! How will I defend my side of the table!? You are winning the war!"
or if its cars- make it a race- laps around the table. "TJ Speedracer is in the lead, he must complete 5 laps before Mathracing Mama, lets see if he can do it!" and give commentary, having him shout out to his imaginary pit crew each lap he completes...
Things like that...

I will write more later   I just wanted to respond to you in the short amount of time I had!

Quoting MommyMeri:“ THIS is a much more commendable attitude         Its cool, I've been called worse than a bitch ... [snip!] ... Things like that... I will write more later   I just wanted to respond to you in the short amount of time I had!”

that is an awesome idea..maybe i will do that with my 3 yr old...she can only count to 17 so i am trying to do something different to keep her attention...

Quoting MommyMeri:“ THIS is a much more commendable attitude         Its cool, I've been called worse than a bitch ... [snip!] ... Things like that... I will write more later   I just wanted to respond to you in the short amount of time I had!”

Thanks alot i am def going to try that with him and i will def let you guys know how he did