re: Does anyone have a low life BD?

Being a low life BD (to me) is beating up the kid. Not giving a smurf about the kid. Knowing it's your kid and still not seeing him/her. It doesn't make you a low life parent, nor smurffy parent for wanting to take BM or BD to court for custody rights or full rights. It might make you a smurffy person overall but whatever feud you have with your BD/BD (I think) has no effect on how you will parent a child.

Thank God, I have an amazing husband though.

Well... Technically that doesn't make him a low life baby daddy. You wouldn't know yet, the baby isn't here. It really doesn't matter if he is there for you during your pregnancy, yes it sucks, I understand that... But he has no responsibility unti the baby is actually here.

Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" Being a low life BD (to me) is beating up the kid. Not giving a smurf about the kid. Knowing it's your ... [snip!] ... have with your BD/BD (I think) has no effect on how you will parent a child. Thank God, I have an amazing husband though."

My BD does not give a smurf about my daughter, he knows for a fact that she is his because we had a DNA test done due to the fact that he was denying her. He still will not contact me about her at all. Said he wants to step up and be a father but it's awkward having a daughter with him being a guy. And now going to the races, hanging out with all these little girls and not worrying about his daughter is what he chooses to do. I don't threaten him that I'll keep her from him. I actually told him I will not do that because it is wrong. But I did tell him he will not only be around when it's convenient for him.. This isn't really a reply to this persons comment but it was a good comment to prove that until the baby is here there really isn't anything you can do. My daughter is 18 months and I'm still dealing with this. He was never there for my pregnancy but some guys change. He may not want to deal with you, but will want to be in the babies life. You never know.

Quoting [yo.]:" my BD beat the smurf out of my son, and isnt allowed to see him for 3 years. i think he wins the award for lowlife"

Yea. You win. I think I'm pretty close behind, BD beat the smurf out of me in front of our 2 year old during visitation because I gave him a lollipop without asking him first (I have full custody) then didn't make an attempt to support or see his son (not that I much wanted him to ..) for 2 years despite living less than 10 miles away.

Girl, thats horrible. Sympathy for you. I got a POS BD, but i cant give you much advice. Mine ever said that to me, id laugh. He's got 2 others he dont take care of, so why would the court let him take mine. Depending on the state you live in, they usually lean toward mother custody. If niether of you do anything wrong, and both have jobs, (if its right after birth, they will understand you not having a job YET) then it could get rough. But like i said, depends on the state you live in. Brush it off, cause no matter what it will take some time. Smile! Your doing the hardest job in the world, and you dont complain!(:

my daughter is going to have a deadbeat dad, but he's not going to be there. unless he can prove that you are an unfit parent the courts can't take your child away. and he has to have HARD evidence that the child is in an unsafe environment. my advice would be to keep him far away from you and your child, block him on fb, or anywhere that he can see pictures of you and the baby because then he's gonna try to make the move and you don't need that stress, and your child doesn't either

Terrible to see so many horrible BDs when some of us would kill (ok, not literally) for the chance. Boggles my mind to this day that someone could father a child and NOT want to be in their life and NOT be willing to help support them.

Quoting Timmay:" Terrible to see so many horrible BDs when some of us would kill (ok, not literally) for the chance. Boggles ... [snip!] ... my mind to this day that someone could father a child and NOT want to be in their life and NOT be willing to help support them."

Its even more mind boggling when a woman wont let a man be part of his
childs life because he doesnt want to be with her

Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:" Its even more mind boggling when a woman wont let a man be part of his childs life because he doesnt want to be with her"

Agreed. Crazy world all around I suppose. I should offer myself as a stand-in haha

Quoting Timmay:" Terrible to see so many horrible BDs when some of us would kill (ok, not literally) for the chance. Boggles ... [snip!] ... my mind to this day that someone could father a child and NOT want to be in their life and NOT be willing to help support them."

works both ways. Lots of mother ditch too...or stay and act as though they are not mothers  
I think schools need to do more focus on parenting and raising children...especially living in a world with so many one parent families.

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" works both ways. Lots of mother ditch too...or stay and act as though they are not mothers   I ... [snip!] ... need to do more focus on parenting and raising children...especially living in a world with so many one parent families. "

Family values are severely lacking. It's not only the schools, but the broken families children come from - they don't know any better so often that they don't see the benefit and strive for it. Breaks my heart to see struggling single parents doing everything they can and sacrificing everything they have to give their kid a fighting chance when other have so much to share and either don't, can't, or lack the opportunity to do so.

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" works both ways. Lots of mother ditch too...or stay and act as though they are not mothers   I ... [snip!] ... need to do more focus on parenting and raising children...especially living in a world with so many one parent families. "

What does school have to do with anything?

Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" What does school have to do with anything?"

schools are where they teach.  

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" schools are where they teach.  "

I'm aware of that but what does that have to do with whether a father is a low life or not?

Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" I'm aware of that but what does that have to do with whether a father is a low life or not? "

Nothing *directly*

But I'd say someone who is educated is less likely to be a lowlife. Not a guarantee by any means, but there are no guarantees in life so we have to play the odds